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How Do You Handle Difficult Bosses?

My girlfriend's boss is soooo insensitive, intolorable, wicked, emotionless, and acts inhuman most of the time. how exactly can she handle such a person without quitting her job?

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Be submissive and do whatever they ask you to do.

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how to handle difficult bossess in the office, kindly read Psalms 109 on his head, then you will find peace. This verse is very powerfull for people like them

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ROFLAMO, Dammm Naija Bossess can take the P*sss 4 real, why did he

not bring in his dirty under-wear and ask a female staff to wash it lol!!!

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I read your post and the replies/viewpoints expresses thereafter and it makes an interesting reading. I must confess this problem of handling difficult bosses in Nigeria is fast growing, and getting out of hand. But many wise employees have successfully handled it, especially when it bothers on gender and the likes.

I have super e-book that can help. The title is:

A Survival Guide for Dealing with Bad Bosses… Dealing with Bullies, Idiots, Back-stabbers, and other Managers from Hell By Gini Graham Scott P.hD

This book is simply a comprehensive solution to matters like this. It has helped lots of people to understand and cope with "bosses from hell" and am sure it will help your lady and anyone else too.

I sell the hardcopy normally at N1,200 which is the exact money I bought it 2 years ago when I was going through fire in the office by my boss. But because i was able to get the soft copy, which I would forward to you on request, the price is N500.

I guarantee you wont stop thanking me if you go through it.

Text your interest to me at 08038634494 and we go ahead.

However, don't stop encouraging the lady to be courageous. I really imagine the stuff she'd be going through.

Cheers.

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Ask your girlfriend to be patient & perform her duties meticulously. She should be obedient & guard against queries. She should give the situation to God & she must overcome. Quiting the job will only make her jobless, probably for a long time as jobs are not readily available. Besides, if she gets another job, what is the guaranty that her new boss will be better? NAJALYN

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You just av 2 take it cool wit the boss

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adapt and blend in. do not over-react but try to understand him, even if he is frustrating just be easy and observant, u will definitely find a way of getting him.

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You do not necessarily change others , rather you change your attitude for others to adapt to it. @ Poster, tell her to look inwards and take a bow at changing then she should watch out for the resultant change in her boss. Cheers.

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@MR D & joeyfire:

good advice. i'll definitely pass it on. wat's ENTP,INTJ, anyway?

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@poster

Is she new to the office? Is she's new,her boss may just be trying to intimidate her to let her know who's boss. I had the same problem and it eased after a while. Prayer is the key.Tell her to pray and sow a seed, if the guy no behave he is the one that will leave the office for her. But mind you,she must first check herself to be sure that theres somewhere she may be at fault

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@Topic- In dealing with people whether nice or not,you need to be able to understand thier personality profile(ENTP,INTJ, etc),this helps you in understanding the reasons for thier actions and how best to manage them in other to achieve your objectives with them,@ poster consider reading up on Myer Briggs typology and advice your girlfriend to put her emotions away and try to understand her boss' personality,that way she would be able to handle him/her better.

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it's quite a pity. i pray you get another job and a better one at that. God is in control. maybe the job was not destined for you in the first place.

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@ soft girl:

you have a point. some people have actually been sacked because of the boss and i am 200% sure that her subordinates will be verrrrrrrrrrrrry pleased if she leaves today. there was a time she was sick and was out of the office for a long period. everyone was sooo happy, there was peace of mind and still the work went smoothly enough even more than when she's in the office.

i don't think i'd like to be in a position in life where those around me detest me so much that they are extremely pleased when i'm ill and will be praying for me never to recover from sickness just so they won't see me in the office.

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am facing the same problem here, my boss is scottish and my first few months I could not hear her as well as she cld not hear me, so when she delegates to me, try my best to catch EVERYTHN she says and when I don't get and explain I don't understand, she does get my accent either. So I end up with not a perfect job.

She proved to the board of trustees dt I was useless and was earning to much, and I fell 4d trap,

I tried stepping up to her, bt I lost d battle now I will be leaving next week.

Believe God For another now,

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i doubt this statement. you know some people have fighting as thier hobby.

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@ every body, I am not as bad as you tink but i pray u don't get push to the wall you won't know you could take some actions untill you get to the wall that boss of mine was a horible experince everybody in the department he headed then celebrated when he left cos alot of people lost thier jobs cos of that man he was always looking for people's down fall wat i am saying is that if you are a boss learn to treat people the way u would want to be treated and note: that you are in that position is only a previledge my new boss now we are getting along very well she is even a woman and she is like a sister and the job is going,

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^^^

I think I agree with you!

I had the same problem with my boss. He had a reputation for firing faster than he hires. After working with him for a couple of months I realized that nothing puts him off like incompetence. So I buckled up! Now we dont fight half as much as we used to.

@ Poster

you really dont need to look to far to know what your GF's boss' problem is. It's a feminine war, It's quite common actually especially when the boss is much older and single!

Your GF might also be a bit insolent without intending to. Most women in authority usually beleive they need to be extra tough to gain respect . . especially when they are not married.

your GF needs to first of all put in extra effort into her job. Then she should try and get the woman on her side. Do things for her, surprise her with a gift, offer to help he with some extra job. Just be generally nice. No one likes to fight!

she needs to show her boss that she's a friend and not a foe!

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I used to think my boss was a jerk until I changed my attitude toward work. Now I'm efficient and I always think ahead of him. I'm only saying its possible the boss does not like your girlfriends attitude toward work and he/she may find it hard correcting her or maybe he/she is tired of repeating the same corrections day in day out.

That's seeing it from another angle.

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@ kufreabasi: kidnapping? i no get that liver ooo. it's not an option.

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the funniest thing is that the boss is also female so it's definitely not a case of sexual harassment or whatever.

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@poster

I was in thesame shoes as ur girl friend when I started my own job. Mine was even very difficult because the person that left before me was actually dating him (my boss) and I became angry at her when I discovered that she was cos she use to be my friend. I was really maltreated to the extend that I do hide my tears in the office, when the shouting and insults comes. so it was not really easy for me, cos my boss is a f, t. So bro, its not new any longer, any boss of the opposite sex that finds fault on every issue, shouts at every little mistake, shows inhumanity on some issues, is actually looking for something. So therefore, the strategy I used to conquer him was that:

1.  I dress modestly to the office (i.e not very short skirts cos he likes short skirts and I also use light make-ups)

2.  Behave as if I dont know anything by not contributing to any single discussion in the office when he is around

3.  I became very efficient and effective in my work (am a secretary, so I do my typing and other jobs quickly than he expected)

4.  I attach curtsy to any of his instruction am to carry out

5.  And above all, I do pray for him not to ever see me and want me and dat I should be ugly in his eyes

so tell ur babe to apply these, cos they really helped me and I think he is tired of abusing me now instead, we are now friends and now when he comes in the morning he would say "hw are u?" and sometimes smile.

so don't be worried, though my own boyfriend was worried too but we overcome all

cheers

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wooh, soft girl you strong oooooh! . Admire u faith though!

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@ poster,

Why not go for kidnapping?

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Hi my ppl. My boss in our office is very harsh n wicked he brings his handkerchief n ask us to wash it 4 him.The one that surprised me is when he brought dity frm home n asked one of us to go n throw it away for him.He called himself pastor. Nairalanders is it good?. This man insult us as if we are not human beings.God will help us all.Amen.

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@ soft girl

u wickedoo, for a soft girl wetin u do na only hard girls fit do am. . chei

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@poster, to my opinion, i fink bosses being difficult sometimes depend on d attitude of dat staff toward his boss or how he discharge his/her duties might not be to d satisfactory  to dat boss, ok now if i know my duties n i do it  meticulous, so der is no room 4 d boss to scold me, or better still maybe d is trying to see if she can work under pressure or ve a good plan 4her, neva can telllllll,

, hhhhmmmmmm, some ladie wouldnt come out dat dey ve been sleeping around with der bosses, sooooo

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I would tape her in action and play it loudly back back at her.If

she doesn't want to listen to it . . . perhaps HR would??

OR

Print this and leave it on her desk, anonimously!

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Avoid boss as much as possible, do what You ought to do and do it right, be tolerant.

While at it, search for sum'n' better. That way, You can quit when You think can't put up with his wahala anymore.

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i think i've seen some really interesting replies here. prayers are really compulsory. trust me, we always put the boss in our prayers and we also have friends holding novenas for her. it's as serious as that. the boss anyway is a lady and its really little wonder that she's not married yet. she's just too,

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same is happening to my babe now at de office where she`s doing are i t. her immediate boss is asking her out,the dg is asking her out, i told i 1 thing,,,,,just be your self it normal with men to toast,and a man wouldnt force u against ur wish,even when he shout,talk to him politely,,make him see reason why he`s like a father to you, my own boossss at tymes i just feel like teling him i dont want to work again,,but watin man go do, my sister just be patient,

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Tell her to read the book "48 Laws of power"!!

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*****************prayers******************

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@Poster. You need to have an understanding of human emotions. Bosses sometimes are like that, and you may not have as many choices as you would love to. There are no jobs and some may even love their jobs so much that they don't want to quit. Your girl friend needs to understand what makes her manager wicked or callous. Do they share the same office? Do they share the same cars? Do they run the same projects? etc. If the relationship is just a matter of manager to reports, she should keep the guy at an arms length. She could make the guy know how she feels if the relationship is more than just manager-reports without complaining. My manager shared his experience with his former manager with me one day, and I think it's a smart way to communicate to your manager. It was during the annual appraisal and rating exercise and when asked to rate himself (even though he was a top talent), he rated himself as 3- (least, on probation). It sent a clear message to the proud that something was amiss. It may work with some, but may not work with all managers. She might need to combine her efforts with prayers.

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