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Are Expensive Funerals Necessary?

When Jesus of all people died, He had a quiet burial, why then is funeral becoming so expensive today (especially in the eastern part of Nigeria)?

There are lots of people suffering from one sickness or another, some in the hospital, some at home, some of them can't even afford N500 worth of drugs but as soon as they are confirmed dead come see funeral celebration, people wear expensive aso-ebi, his/her family members kills cow(s), imagine celebrating a dead body.

Why can't people spend that money on him/her while he/she is still alive, why do we find it hard to celebrate our loved ones while they are still alive

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i dont believe in funerals

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It is a sort of contest for some families. For the fact family B at their father's funeral killed ten cows, bought an expensive casket, hired an expensive live band, mounted 100 canopies, cooked 30 bags of rice, bought 1 lorry crate of beer etc. Family C would be itching to do the same thing. I know some men while alive have decreed that when they die they should be buried with such funfare. ITS UNCALLED FOR.

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im guessing you r pointing at a sort of western way of doing things,but the real african child always honour elders and respect elders so they are always taken care of while alive,the expensive burial is not just to celebrate them in death but to celebrate a sort of retirement from this world, if you get a new job you celebrate and when u r retired you celebrate, same as when we come into this world we celebrate the new born,its the same thing celebrating the departed in most cases as well it gives the bereaved some sense of joy knowing people feel that way about the departed

helping the less priviledged is an individual thing and there are a lot of people who do not waste money and are good muslims and christians who however do not help the less well off and its not every one that has an elaborate n expensive burial thats showing off

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u cld celebrate them while they are still alive not when they are dead cos at death they are unaware of everything we do. celebrate their birthdays if need be, celebrating burial in an expensive way is wrong, its a sin cause u could use the money to help the needy among us.

If i may ask, how do you all think God our creator feels about our extravagant life style when we have alot of people to help?

I'm not judging anyone but trying to get us to do more reasonable things with our money rather than wasting it showing off to others, it makes no sense at all.

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i think you v got it in one,plus its much more than just a funeral as its also depp seated cultural activity which actually brings long lost families together and i think its the essense of the traditional african family, what im against is people that cannot afford an elaborate funeral borrowing money and going to desperate lenghts to do so, of all the parties in nigeria its only my paternal grand mum and maternal grand pa s funerals that ill say was the party i had the most fun at even tho i was young then

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burial is not only for the dead but for the living. relatives left behind have a right to celebrate the life of their dead anyway they want and it is not your right to judge them. it is just the same way parents celebrate the wedding or graduation of their children the way they want. inasmuch as they do not come to you to ask for money to do the burial then leave them to do it the way they want.

although the man is dead and gone, the family still decides to celebrate that he came into the world.

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Re:Are expensive funerals necessary

infact you people have said all but i must stress it.

it is silly to the highest order.it makes one want to shade tears for the less privileged

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I think it has more to do with the celebration of the life of the person. . . depends on their age tho. . .

funerals are depressing, i usually dont hang around too long

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cut your coat according to your size, if you can afford an expensive funeral then go for it

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i dont think expensive burial is necessary at all . its jst wasting of resourses.

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it all depends on your pocket

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Taking it a bit further, cemetery and graves ought to be done away with. If we need reminders of the dead, images does a better job of that. I've already made a will that my body should be cremated and the ash scattered without funfare.

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The family I came from having a funeral is pretty expensive especially since most of the children are abroad and people have a high expectation for the funeral. Sometimes I wonder if they spend more than the weddings, because after the dead has been buried, we have a huge party in Lagos, blocking the whole damn street, then go to our state and do another round of party.

And the clothing ahaha the decent children has a special native they got to wear in the morning, different one when everyone are looking at the body before it's the bury it, one after it buried, another one at night down, in fact i lost cont of how many times i had to change when my grandparents died

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Chritians should learn from certain Muslims in the simplicity of burial of the dead!

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when the vice president buried his late father, the attendes cut across the so called high and mighty in the society. GREAT. But will they be threr if the vp wrer to be a jobless graduate?.

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VERY VERY unnecessary It is simply waist of time and money, it doesnt wort it,

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VERY VERY unnecessary It is simply waist of time and money, it doesnt wort it,

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easier said than done

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expensive funerals are a total waste of money;i concurr with house.nigerians should begin to think about cremating the dead

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It is absolutely unecessarily.

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Entirely Unnessary!!!

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It's totally UNNECESSARY!!. If you can afford it use the money to cater for the destitutes.

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No they arent.

I may be a bit harsh when i say once a person is dead, they are dead.

I would probably be paying for ma funeral expenses. I would put money aside that would pay for the funeral. I wont be letting them foot all the bill.

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All I know is my grandfather's funeral is costing more than my brother's and my college tuition combined. Of course, my grandfather was a great man and deserves a good burial, but geeeeez- must the entire village be invited?! That's a LOT of rice!

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Why spending money for burial when most of those people were hardly taken care of when they were alive.

As long as I live, if you are confirm death today the next day is burial period and for myself the same is applicable

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was that a burial ground or its meant for tourist attarction.that was highly unnessary.

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In our society today the rich can do no less than show it while the poor strive to emulate n not be left out of the show.

I think we have boxed ourselves into a corner cos we compare wat happened at this man's funeral wit the other's all the while striving to emulate certain things we have observed n even vow to surpass it.

We forget that death is the great leveler. Every man is reduced to a piece of meat by death n the wrapping of the body in glitter or the festivities that follow have no mean for death itself. However we cant rule out that it has mean for those of us still alive to witness it. To some it's comfort to others pride. Whatever the funeral event does mean to u I would say do it to ur hearts content.

I personally like the western way of burial. A service in church wit the deceased in view in a casket while people speakin a lil about him/her, a trip to the graveyard for prayers n commital to earth, a trip back to deceased house for commisseration with family then u go home end of story.

Societal expectations may not be easily cast aside but it should not become a burden. So what if he/she was a titleholder? Did he/she leave behind sufficient a legacy to execute a 'befitting' burial? Did his/her children/family celebrate/pamper him/her when alive? These n other questions are more relevant than wat society expects.

To summarise expensive funerals while unnecessary mean contain meaning for it's doers but we don't all have to follow the bandwagon.

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Did you guys see the flat screen TV and DVD player/remotes in that picture? who will be turning them off/on for the deceased? will they really wire those electronics? who I dey ask sef? the dead woman?

I remember my uncle telling his kids that if the medical bills sef too much, they should leave the body at the hospital not to talk of spending heaven/earth for some funerals.

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Not necessary but some cultures demand an expensive funeral especially if the person in question held a chieftancy title.

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Check out this burial guys!

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while its absolutely unnecessary, i know the relatives tend to be a bit relieved if a befitting burial is done. some see it as a mark of respect, but i guess people are overdoing it today. its of no use if the person died wretched.

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Really? I guess the reason for all the extravagant funerals is because the concept of death is not understood by most people. It is a solemn occasion. . . not one for making a social statement.

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It depends on the deceased.

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very unnecessary o. The deceased propably died of neglect by same people at the funeral party. abi

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It's not just waste of money, but resources, time and energy!. Just imagine the money, time and space consumed in the name of burial ceremony in most cases.

Recently, my dad's mum died and i was told all family members, including extended family has to contribute for the grand burial ceremony. Imagine asking me to pay N20k and my younger siblings 15k. I was actually laughing my Bottom off when i was told, i just told them to add up everything and include it to my mum or dad's bill.

N20k my Bottom, for a burial ceremony, when the old woman didn't even know wether i am contributing a penny on her behalf.

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You guys remember the Nollywood movie title Died wretched buried in a 3million naira casket?

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I think a large percentage of the house is on one accord here.

From my perspective and for people of my faith,the question does not/should not and must never even arise.Its not for debate/creative criticism. My religion forbids it,its a law and everybody knows.WE DONT CELLEBRATE FUNERAL.

All u owe the dead man is a piece of clothe to cover his unclothedness, continous/continual prayers and almsgiving.

His soul is far away, anwering questions in regards his earthly deeds from the two angels , MUNKAR and NAKIR after a visit from the death angel , ASARA'EEL(asarailu as the Yorubas says).

What can only reach him now are prayers,almgiving in his regard and good deeds he has done on earth that people are constantly benefiting from.eg a functioning well/bore hole that people drinks from,a garden of fruit,library people still attend,worship places he built ,things of charity people still enjoys etc.

We were just discussing this late yesterday in my office after loging out(I never knew it will com up here now) and the reaction was just like in this house.

A typical example is the burial MKO Abiola and ABACHA.I wont be surprised if Adenuga(GLO) or say Egbenedion(OKADA) is buried otherwise when their time comes.

Salam-Peace

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Okay, use the money to treat the person when he/she is alive ehnn. (just  a thought)

What if the person is telling you, 'I want to 'go', OR if it's medically clear that the person is 'going' would you still treat and treat? 

Yes expensive funerals do waste money.

but We(those of us condenming it) do things that are very unneccesary and pick out those done by others as faults. The way we talk, dress, buy cars etc

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I don't think you are a nurse or is that just an ID? because I don't expect a good nurse to have time for this burial problems

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In some eastern part of Nigeria, you must bury ur dead-father in a very big way before you'll be allowed to talk, eat or drink in gatherings like meetings etc.

I know of this family(in the eastern part of this country), their dad died and because he was a titled man, they had to bury him 7 times (according to their tradition), 6 good cows and 1 goat were killed because the man had 6 males and 1 female child, so each child of his must do his/her own burial ceremony for their late father and it is mandatory, otherwise, they won't be allowed to partake in any thing the villagers were doing and none of the villagers will attend any of the family's functions (wedding,thankgiving etc).

I call it waste of money, its true they are rich and could all afford such expensive traditional whatever, but they should have used such a huge amount of money to help the poor and needy and damn the villagers with their bleeping traditions.

I just wish people could do the right thing at the right time because its annoying some times

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No, not at all. Use the money for better thing(like training your siblings or children in sch).

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totally unnecessary

wrap the dead body in a piece of clean cloth, dig a grave (deep enough) and chuck the body in it!

tell everyone the mourning is over and they can all go home, NO RICE, MOI-MOI OR BURUKUTU!

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I think expensive funeral is not the best,jsut go ahaed and buri the person in instead of you celebrating what you d'not celebrat when that person was alive. NIGHTNURSE GOOD TOPIC

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Just a waste of moneyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy

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Aisha says it's creeping into the north,

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Unfortunately that culture of funfare in form of Burial is cripping into the North. formally if someone dies in a house, the mebers of that houshold ill not cook for weeks, neigbors, friends and extended family will bring food and other things to make it easier to the bereaved family, but no, for where, when someone dies, people start strolling into the house from morning and expect to be fed breakfast, lunch and dinner there. Some ill even call you and ask you what variety of food and drinks you have forgeting that you are in mourning. The bereaved family will cook from morning till night and ash plates like hell.

The burail proper , you will have to produce suveniors. The only good thing is that no mattter how old the person is the corpse will be buried within a week.

My Father after a burial told me that if he dies, We should dig a whole and bury him in the backyard and tell people that he ran off ith a 21 yr old chick.

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Im glad to have this topic here, I charted with i friends about this issues of spending much on burials, as Muslem i dont no much about the Bible, so he was like Bibil bla bla, i should not comit ma self into what i dont know, cos im Muslem,i said find the truth will be out someday and this's it im seeing now!

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