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Bride Price, How Much Is Too Much?

I learnt that some tribes ask for as much as a cow, loads of yam and other expensive stuff for them to give their daughters out in marriage. What can you not pay as bride price?

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Men,I will pay any amount of money if I love her and might even err in overpaying but if I see they are taking advantage I will use no 6!No be dem go beg me when they dey see d poor girl crying her eyes off for me.

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wot do u mean by where in benin? benin city is benin city na

i did not type edo state cos i no its got so many towns/cities e.g.

auchi, ekpoma, benin city, etc

BENIN CITY

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Where in Benin? Learnt Yoruba's give 4 free. How true?

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@topic, like some1 stated - going bankrupt and I think over 50k is too much, wetin dem dey SELL?

I think d cheapest/lowest bride price is in benin city

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Take lashes of horse whip just to get married? Not me! That culture must change.

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@Markenny: For free huh? That's why she'll want to divorce u at d slightest provocation.

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thank GOD mine is for free, just ring finsh.i love europe.

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Bride price - wat's it all about, its not d amount for raising a kid to adult age, its not an investment as many thinks, its not a family financial recovery from holdin a baby to adult. But its a communion of gettin to know who your daughter is goin to be with. And establish a relationship bond between two families

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why ur answering a man with no culture is beyond me. leave him and his broken society.

he prefers those women that get drunk every weeken and sleep with anything with a heart beat.

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@NordicRACE: Shut up if u r not African and don't understand! We place high premium on our beautiful daughters, that's why we pay bride(pride, if u like) price for them. Whatever is worth paying for is worth being treasured. I just wanna know how much is too much.

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I learnt that some tribes ask for as much as a cow, loads of yam and other expensive stuff for them to give their daughters out in marriage. What can you not pay as bride price?

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Primitive Africans

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@materese go your village make you start to abolish from there na. You don forget say we be Africans. bride price is important.

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^^^^ the idea is so outdated to me but what get's me even more is when they ask for bride price in dollars!!!

Chei !!!greed no be small for Naija

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How much did adam pay for eve,

In USA is not more than a thousand dolla, i have witness it, sometimes our culture can make us a slave to our self

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LMAO. . . .

This is funny.

I remember my aunt's husband refusing to pay for the 20 tubers of yam

He initially told them 10 then 15.

Dude refused to bring the gallons of fresh palm wine he was asked to.

Infact nothing was complete except the kolanut, ose o ji and drinks.

Omo, hear proverbs and counter proverbs.

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I've never heard about any bride price exceeding 5000 Naira.

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From N100,000 above is too much.

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My challenge still stands, but in the mean time, how much does a typical white wedding typically cost in Naija?

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Anything above ten million naira is too much.

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Yes it is true, and those that beats their wives mercilessly because they've paid the bride price, and they guy would still remain there, because the family had sold her

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My brothers and father who are yoruba have never beaten thier wives. Wife beating is not specific to any tribe, abeg ooh, don't tag yoruba man as wife beaters.

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My father has stated that anyone who wants to marry his daughters must be ready to hand over N10 milla. lol

From my own point though, I don't really care about bride price.

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If you love ur wife no amount of money is too much to pay,to have her.

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wetin that bride dey chop abi na saliva?

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There's notin 2 much, if da bride worth da money, fine. Bt beauty, kindnss n promise kippin counts.

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I think the yorubas dont collect it again. what they do is that they will collect as part of the traditon and in the presence of everybody there they will give it back to the grooms family and tell them that they dont sell their daughter. though they collect other ones like owo omo ile, iya ile and co but is pea nut like 500, 1000 and d case may be.

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What you talking about is a dowry and is different from "bride-price". And in cultures where it is practiced (ie dowry) it can be as painful as the bride-price. They sometimes exist side by side.

Ladies may remain unmarried because their parents can not afford a respectable dowry that will attract appropriate suitors.

That's why among the Indian's giving birth to (too many) daughters is such a big deal.

"Families use dowries to attract a son-in-law with desirable qualities, such as a particularly bright man from a poor but respectable family or a man with higher status but with less money than the bride’s family has. In societies in which the giving of dowries is customary, families with many daughters can become impoverished by the costs of marriage.

For this reason, in Europe in earlier times some families sent “extra” daughters to convents. In India and China, where it is expected that every woman will marry, families have sometimes tried to limit the number of daughters born to them through infanticide (the killing of infants).

In India, feminists have organized opposition to the dowry system and subsequent “dowry deaths,” where continuing demands of the groom’s family are not met and result in the murder of the bride."

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Poverty is not my portion!

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Na dash dey dash u during ur time?

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Can't borrow 2 pay a brideprice. If d money is too much i either pay up, collect my invoice & have nothing 2 do wit my in(out)laws financially, or i wait till d lady gets to around thirthy years plus, then her family will Nicodemusly(like a thief in the night) bring me d money 4 her bride price.

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Well, in the old days, it wasn't called bride price rather what used to be the case was that parents of girl will purchase gift items for the girl to go with to her husbands house. However, this practice was changed and hijacked by greed hence men started paying bride price.

Since it is now a modern day practice, men now feel that they are purchasing the girl if for any reason he was over charge or exploited all the name of paying for a girl. This is one of the reasons why men don't respect women.

But for me, if you want to exploit me, for get ooh.

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Mr Poster are u a Nigeria or where have u been? Becuase this should not sound strange to you and beside I dont think any body is going to force you to buy what you dont have money to buy in the name of bride price. I agree it is not all that a good idea paying any bride price but nothing can anybody do about it, it is all about applying diplomacy and wisdom.

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bros small small,you go wound ooohh

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Even if u're asked to pay $1B or bring human head because u love her abi?

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there is nothing u cannot pay if u already know where u are going and the culture of the place.

Even b4 it gets to that, u wld have discussed with ur girl to find out what it is like with her culture and if really love her and want her at all cost, u wld not mind even the several strokes of cain.

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I will pay any amount provided i love her and am ready to settle down as a real man

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look at her and decide.

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nufin is too much, the human beign is priceless.

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Any amount that will make you broke n bankcrupt for the better part of your married life, making you regret and hate the institution called marriage.

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it's not up to how much the man love the lady, it's up to the man's income

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its tradition shouldnt be abolished

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Before people continue posting on such an issue as this, I urge you all to first go and ask your respective tribesman for the traditional name of bride price.

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That process should be abolished. Nobody should pay for marrying anybody!!!

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Heard dat some Yoruba babes misbehave and threaten to pack home owing to d fact dat not much was paid as bride price for them. How true?

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It depends on the tribe and bride's family. Yoruba people don't really concern themselves too much with bride price as I can recall. But in the eastern part of Nigeria, bride price is big deal. They may charge an arm and a leg. Just be prepared. I was lucky, my wife's family weren't into all that. They only took some yam, palm oil etc. The money was less than N5000. It was quite cheap. Lucky me, innit?

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@kelvin: right here. Just answering the question. Afterall, whether na cane or millions, people dey pay up sharp sharp.

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If i were a guy,i tink it depends on how much i hav but i dnt tink i can pay up 2 1 mill sha.

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Well, can pay anything but not take several strokes of d cain,

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A guy shd just pay whatever he's comfortable with. As far as I'm concerned, nothing is too much or too small! The money or whatever he's bringing is not important.

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