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Can A Nigerian Man Be Happy With An English Wife?

This question troubles me a lot as I am English (mixed race),and married to an Igbo man. He is the best,and we are in love.

Sometimes I worry that he will tire of a wife who does not speak his mother tongue. I would also love to be able to talk to his family in Igbo and not English. In other ways I embrace the culture by cooking the food, wearing the traditional dress etc.

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I'm lovin this topic lol im also married to a igbo man, its true they are the best husbands and they can cook sum great meals lol stick to ur man gurl, language is not important here , Oviously he loves u, i know tht if he didnt love u he wont be wit u, 9ja men are great, all they really need is to be Loved,

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Yes, He can!

Learning each other's culture is not a bad idea.

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The answer is yes, a Nigerian man can be happy with an english wife. I'm a Nigerian man, happily married to an English woman, with 2 lovely children. Never for once has language or anything culture related been a barier in our relationship. Like yourself, my wife out of interest, asked me to teach her few words, and sentence combination, even bought some yoruba books, we both find it funny especially when translating, ? she speaks few words that she knows to the children as she wish,  never has any time been under any kind of pressure to learn my culture,

She cooks for me as well, like rice beans, plantain, etc, she even eats pounded yam,  she eats pepper and all sorts, yet she still eats all the general english foods, we both do and we understand each other perfect. We are regular customer of 805 Restaurant in old kent road,  we go to alot of Nigerian restaurants about 2wice in a month, and yet we do go pure english outing.

We love each other and the children, my mum and my wife love each other dearly as well, they do take the piss out of each other, my younger sisters and my wife get on very well, and my younger brother as well, we do exchange gifts, from uk to nigeria and vice versa.

Tho, we do have misunderstanding like every body does, but it doesn't last for long as we understand each other. And please don't take third party advices too, serious as it may be the cause of the begining of the end of your relation with your lovely man.

So, I believe a Nigerian man can be happy with his English wife.

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[b][/b][color=#770077][/color] @ yvskc:

I am a white American woman very happily married to a Yoruba man. Like you I plan retirement with my husband in Naija, I have discovered a love for Africa almost as great as that for my husband ([/i]almost[i]). I am trying to learn Yoruba as well since he already speaks my language. I know how you feel when you can't be part of the conversation, though my last visit home to Lagos I DID find myself understanding & following the conversation, and surprised a good many of his family & friends by adding to the conversation ON topic, albeit in English. LOL the first time I did it you could have heard a pin drop. But like you I also wish to please my husband and learn well to make his favourite foods and have adopted traditional dress. He DOES treat me like a queen, and I am happy to do such small things to show him how much I love him. Plus, I have learnt over time that the few arguments we HAVE had were all cultural misunderstanding, every last one of them. So the better I learn his culture and what my role and his expectations of me are, the happier our home shall be. I love this man with all my heart, there is nothing I would not do to please him, or he to please me. We have a traditional marriage in that I am happy to acknowledge him as head of household, but he also accords me the respect of valuing my opinions and hearing me out, rather than just "laying down the law." By nature a multicultural relationship requires a willingness to embrace that which made us each who we are, the people we fell in love with. We are working toward establishing a blend of our cultures and traditions for our children to get the best of "both worlds" so to speak. The fact that I am part Native American is a big help, it's amazing how very similar our tribal traditions and taboos are. For our next anniversary we plan to renew our vows. We were married in Lagos in traditional Nigerian dress, which I was proud to wear for my husband -- the love shining in his eyes that day will always be in my memory. We will probably wear tradtional Nigerian wears for our renewal too (they are just too beautiful!) but we will be incorporating the traditional marriage binding cord from my tribal Nation, lovingly applied by our children. Embrace your diversity, it's part of what attracted you to each other in the first place. If he had wanted a woman who was culturally identical, he'd have married one. I wish you happiness and blessings in your life together.

A blessing from my tribe" O-owa Yeha-Noha!" (Blessings of Joy & Prosperity) from the Mohawk Nation Wolf Clan

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Definitely a nigerian man can be happy with an english wife. Your current situation is a perfect example of how a marriage or relationship based on love and trust and respect for eachother can withstand all obstacles.

My own case is also towards the extreme, i am from the Northern part of Nigeria in a serious relationship with an Igbo lady from the Eastern part and we also come from different religious backgrounds and I was raised by a white Irish family, all her family i.e sisters, brothers, parents have willingly accepted me and cant wait for us to finalise our wedding plans. I think what also helps is that when anyone sees us its like there is something wonderful in what we have i.e our happiness, love for eachother shows outwardly.

I could never ever think of hurting a hair on her head, and I think what helps is having trust, level headedness and understanding in the relationship.

I wish you and your family all the best

regards

MOOTS

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elgaxton ur right she or he too get time to brag over childdish issues . ur marriage is what u make of it.

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fellow nairalanders, i just want to question yvskc .ARE U A WOMAN OR MAN? SHINE UR EYES NAIRALANDERS. DONT LET ANY ONE PLAY WITH UR OPINION .

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No need to worry, love is stronger than all.

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Shun the man come marry me i be ibo man and i go take care of you and love u more than man.

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DEFINITELY NO. Just answered your question.

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Please do not create a problem 4 yourself when there is none

I am an Edo lady married 2 an Edo man,but i was bread and buttered in a yoruba land so i hardly can speak our language or cook all our naative dishes.

But 4 the love ,he taught me and i am doing even better than my mother in law

I think our marriagesdepend solely on what we want it to be,

Since he can go ahead and marry you and youu are willing to make him happy at all times irrespective of all your differences,it will work out .

And the plus you have is that i Igbo land even very old women can understand and speak pidgin english,so i do not smell any trouble 4 u now or later

LOVE is much more than colour or tribal differences

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Must you use dingbat, oaf or gutter in every post? abeg change dictionary fuckwit !!

That the people around your world see you as a silly African does not mean that you should extend that to every African, My brother don't let them do that to you!! but we all know that you're overtly silly

I don't know the poo that makes you so dumb but the poo works

I am concerned because this is a public forum and kids like yours come in here and might end up being so foolish like you

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Best post of the yr nominee.

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LOL. . . .nothing o. . .so i guess the quote is either directed at mr.4 or at juliet's love?

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Never had a problem with him. What's the matter?

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I know he's your friend but it's fine with me

He started the "intellectuality and intelligence" stuff and i did not claim and i am not claiming to be more intelligent than any

If you really know me like u said then you should know that i hate oppresion

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Yes. He'll be happy while it lasts.

It never lasts for long anyway

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As for me, it don't matter bcuz we are all BLACK when the light goes off

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Please what's Oluomok saying?

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[b]There is nothing wrong in marring an english person. the only problem there is our our menatality.

Some afriacn guy are so traditional, such person may have problem with that.

We are now living in a civilized world were education,marketing etc as brought every one together, in that case understading matters alot for it takes a knowing to make a going in life.

Note: Nigerian guy can get into such relationship if their is money and that alone as divert is vision, infact his happiness and marital peace will depends on wht she has to offer and that will not lead then noway execpt the land of discomfort and divoce

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I sincerely believe you are bi-polar.

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Anyanma

bad thing no good o

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you people have spoiled this thread finish.

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As for me, I think if your Husband loves you then you dont have to think of what is not there.Every marriage irrespective of tribe or race needs prayer,Love,Tolerance and understanding.So enjoy your marriage and dont give into yours fears.

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Nah, 2 faced is more along your line, unfortunately.

Nike, it's an old Yoruba movie. Pretty good though.

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Tiffy, how d'u think an slowpoke will suddenly become normal? You worry too much.

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Oh so you've never watched the movie, Morenike Alagolo? Oh well. *shrugs*

4Play, shut up. Please. just shut it. What am I saying, what are you saying? Just spewing rubbish. are you drunk or something? Did ManU lose again abi wetin?

Comot from my face jare. Have you noticed anytime you direct your usual "tit this mammaries are weighing on your brain rubbish that, profile there" nonsense, your crew of flunkies have also jumped on? First Jackal, now a bunch of deadbeats on here and you sef you are becoming a insufferable jackass.

Na my fault for shining teeth with a sociopath in the first place.

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@D-R

and here i was looking for a movie to watch. . , so its morenike alagolo tonight. . ose jare

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i no know who Nike or who Alagolo is o. . .the last time i checked my birth certificate, it certainly is not Alagolo

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4Play, if superman and fynewaka were here they would have agreed with it as that is what they are known for, how hard is that to comprehend? I worry about your sanity sometimes and obviously because I dey play with you at times you think say you can be yarning dust. I'm sure Coco has "bosoms", go and bother her and quit causing trouble on my neck. Alaifishe

Nike Alagolo, enough with this love business.

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@4Play

i dnt know who the heck creamdream is. . . .

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and my answer is no, yes, maybe, i dnt care

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@NLers

why get fooled by this "fight" between 4Play and R-D!! my gosh, they're both in love. . .any pisces can smell it. . . its like a nasty fart. . .look at them make time for themselves. . .using "rude" names, trying to keep it undercover!! you two need to stop this and one of you need to buy a plane ticket. geez!!

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Let's reverse the question: Can a Nigerian woman be happy with an American man?

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man, 4Play chill . . . no need to join the other nearnderthals on this thread.

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@pahtahkee

wetin niceuzor do now? the bobo left the forum for you. . . .if he's not under another username.

@romeo

romeo romeo romeo, where art thou romeo? it does not surprise me you're talking like this. . . plz, stop with the igbo stuff, no one cares if its igbo or not. geez, all this tribalist $h^t is boring the heck out of me. mind you, but the headline said "Nigerian Man". that's any tribe under the Green-White-Green cloth. . . more than 370 of them. . . you're making your tribe look bad,stop being the village . . .show some class

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This is serious. Seun you are in trouble!!! I am out. Not one to pick up issue with a cafe boy.

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Signs and symtoms of a "hijacked" thread----

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             cool babe don't get over hearted on things you should laugh over it.

                         Guees what am comming up with a thread  for you.

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First off Im not angry, just because im not going around playing with people doesnt mean Im angry. Im merely responding to a few idiotic posts

How can you even ask such a question sef? Once again do you NOT see the posts Im responded to?

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I don't insult people.

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oziomatv.

Pleasse don't bother me. I assume you can read, do you not see the posts I'm responding to or am I talking/typing to myself? Either tell your your agbaya brothers to have respect for themselves and stop harrassing females or you sef get away from my sight. Ok? Thanks.

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@D-reloaded

why are you getting so angry over nothing?

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If I have never toasted you before, may your life never know peace in Jesus' name.

Olosi oloriburuku omo ti won se epe fun lati ile baba e

omo ti aiye e ti baje lati kekere.

Very soon, people like you will become old cargoes wanting quick shags from my children.

Oloriburuku alai lebi, alai lara

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All thanks to you too, Mr Otolo

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Opolo is more like it

I should even send this thread to this "new catch" he's been shouting about town. Olodo

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Otolo, can u now shut it? You behaving rather stupidly.

Ibo bashin or not, you guys always look for what to hold on to and make a big deal outta rubbish. Romeo, all thanks to you.

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