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Do Yoruba Men Easily Leave Their Childless Women?

For any one out there am dating a nigerian guy(yoruba). He is very sensitive to me, at present he is living with a nigerian woman who he said was sent to him from another state for wife, but infortunately she cannot have any children (after many failed attempts to have), this is why we started dating. he said he is the only male child in his family andas aresult a great pressure is on him to carry the on the family name. I have children of my own and I know now he is experiecing some hardships. At first when we started dating he was coming on really strong, now he behaving weird saying that, he needs to be in charge and he can't take care of me  the way a man should. I toldhim I undestand we are in it together but,  Am I thinking too much or is he taking me for a ride.  Constructive answers please. Am from Trinidad am not quite familiar with different african cultures.

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funny ole gal said public toliet, but me i dated Yoruba- he gave me everything, asked for marry several times. i think kids were his goal. He marry Yoruba, dont stop his feelings- he wants what he do= she probably wont bear kids. I think a man should have kids, what he gone do with a life companion a

private latrine.

We all latrines. Im not sure if u public or not - but if it aint you he prob will look for another able and avail woman- BUT HE MUST TAKE CARE OF HIS FAM!!!thats a cultural must. ole gal just jeally and mad - DO u - u have 1 life to live with or without judgement of other peeps

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Wahala don start again o, lol

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I see u can't get enough of me, anyway I think ur childless that's y u have enuf time to worry bout me. I can donate an egg or 2 but that's if u can carry that sucessfully. Give it a rest.

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@ tepia

Thanks for ur input, this might be very true. Thanks for being civil.

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@ londoner

I think that woman has personal issues.

Again thanks for being civil.

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with ur mouth anything can be caught. Are you scared that am your alternate self don't be afraid come out of the closet everyone else is. Madam ASHAWO.

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Peace be with you too. I think u just scared everyone else away. I don't have anything personal with u neither do I want to continue in any word battles cus certainly u appear to be illiterate. My time will be well spent with learned minds. Respect Madam.

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@ Nwando I hope ur daughters never have an issue like this or similar. I would hate to see how you handle that. Ignorant woman and surely ur attitude had nothing to do with it if u reda carefully urs was the least. If it was only for u I wouldn't care a rats Bottom. You need to check ur PR skills. Ignorant fool.

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Glad you were able to see it differently, no need exhausting the thread then.

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LOl FYI, @ nwando the man in question is your husband and he said he loves me on my back, belly and side.

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I don't mind getting emotional imput, but there is a way the same thing can be said with diplomacy. There were other comments which more or less stated they unbias opinion and was not abusive or offensive if people cannot control their emotions then they need not be in a discussion. If I had made a decision would I be here asking for input? on the contrar, so one must read well before they choose to respond.

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Izatrini, come on now, be rational. This site has many wives who have family and for whom the notion of a willing woman on the side (or considering being one), would be something to detest. What other advise will people give here? Yes, go and bare him children behind the back of his Nigerian wife? Noon on this site (woman) is going to give you that type of advise.

You must have known that before posting. Its an emotive topic, expect emotive answers.

It looks as though you have decided against considering it, I think thats a good thing.

Who knows you may just be humouring yourself with this tale, lol

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Yes, and we all r ashawo's (u think I don't know what means) be it for husband , man or boyfriend. So get some Midol for ur PMS. Odabo Dam.

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Oh now a tried and true spare bakassi is giving me advise?

there's nothing Nwando won't see.

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please don't play that victim card here

OK !

don't even start.

I have no patience with cheaters and for one that claims to be a mother what a moral example you are!

I guess the Yoruba man lost his way and then wondered into your pants and got stuck in there?

I may have been harsh,others have been more polite,the underlying message is that you ought to close your legs,get off your back and leave the married man alone.

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For ur info I have 2 children for the same dad. My advise to you is to keep track of ur husband so that the woman don't have to come on this forum to seek advise from people like you to help save ur marriage.

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@ mishoo, thank you for your civil input.

I think the best thing is to leave the man alone. Even his conscience is not in agreement with him and thats why he is behaving like that recently. He is another woman's property. Please fine love from somewhere else.

@ nwando, how enlightening of you to think you know everything of my children situation. as a wife (maybe ur sharing your husband too thats y ur so bitter) and possibly mother you should know better than to speak about another woman like urself that way. Life circumstances do not choose who it visit at some point in time we all encounter situation that is over our heads and we seek advise, which am merely doing. So go take your PMS symptoms somewhere else.

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Nwando, public latrine?, lol  That cuss was so Nigerian, lol

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, So, how is he/his family/yourself so sure that it is the wife and not the man who is the cause of the failure to concieve? Maybe they are searching to cure the wrong spouse, did you think about that?

Do what you like poster, but remember what you sow you shall one day reap,

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True dat, based on past experience. I appreciate ur honesty. Do all yoruba men behave like this? I had a chance to read quite a few reviews and there isn't much good said about their attitude towards women.

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Do you think am wasting my time? @ almondjoy

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That's what am talking bout. All I needed is a fresh outlook on this whole situation. Truly am not a home wrecker neither do I intend to be one. This is why am posing the question. Am not advocating for polygamy either it's not part of my culture. I just want to be fair to all parties invloved.

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Yes it makes them home wreckers don't let anyone deceive you. Are you now advocating for polygamy? Let the man sort out his family before you get into it. He probably wants you as a breeding ground, sorry but that's what most do.

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@ Tonim

You talk as though this is something unusual of your polygamist culture based on what I've read so far, so cut that decent lady BS out. I said constructive answers please if you can read. Am pretty sure this type of thing is not exclusive to me. The only reason we started dating is bcoz of what he told me. I also know of few Nigerian women who are with Nigerian married men does that make them home wreckers? maybe you have personal issues with that? Don't yell at me, maybe the men needs to be yelled at.

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A decent woman with good upbringing and morals would ask the man to sort things out with his woman; find out why they can't

get pregnant or resolve their issues. A decent woman would not get involved with another woman's man.

But no, you are involved with a man in a committed relationship and have the guts

to come and brag about it. You have done nothing but bring shame to yourself.

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With attitude like yours , no wonder men go out and start seeking women like me. Try getting some professional help.

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@ Nwando

Read your signature notes "AM a lover Not a fighter" venimous liar.

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