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Is it true that "Fathouse/Fat house" is a place where Nigerians girl are prepared for marriage? I read about this in book. Can u explain what this means? What do the girls do in "Fathouse/Fat house"?

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Hi Guys,

Thanks for your comments.

That said, may I just add that KALABARI and CALABAR are completely different.

I mentioned Kalabari as I am one.  We are called Kalabari, so is our language.  The Kalabari people are part of the Ijaw tribe in Bayelsa and Rivers States.  Such places as Buguma, Abonnema, Bakana, Tombia, Degema, Kula, Ke are typical Kalabari towns.  Those towns are just a few miles from Port Harcourt in the Niger Delta, Bakana being the nearest one. 

On the other hand, Calabar used to be in the South Eastern State.  I don't know which state it is now.  Towns such as Ikot Ekpene and Calabar (and so on), used to make up that state.  These belong to the Ibibio tribe (if I'm not mistaken).  Ibibio and Efik are some of the languages spoken there.

Nevertheless, a very beautiful part of the Kalabari culture and tradition.

   

kiwi992.

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The New Calabar River runs right outside my town, Bakana whilst the River Sombrero runs outside Abonnema.  Both of these rivers empty themselves in the Atlantic Ocean.

The European slave traders coined the name 'New Calabar' to mean Kalabari towns and villages.

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@kiwi

Sounds really beautiful.  I think of all the ethnic groups in Nigeria,  Calabar is my favorite.  I still wonder why it is rumored that Calabar women are the best sexually.  I want to know their secrets!  (laughing)

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Hi All,

My people still practise that custom 'til today - the Kalabaris of the Niger Delta.  However, I'm not quite sure about the Calabar people but we certainly do it.

When a woman has her first child, she has to go into the fattening room at her husband's family home.  She stays there for three months, and gets fattened up.  She never has to do anything for herself except to bosom-feed the child. 

During this period, everything is done for her by members of the family.  She's fed lots of yam and onunu (yam and riped plantain pounded together in oil), fish and so on.

After the three-month period, it's time for her to leave the fattening room.  Inorder to celebrate this momentous event, the female elders in the family then dress her up in very old traditional clothes that span several generations (these are always boxed up after use), such as 'india' (wrapper) and silk.   She's then donned in ancient jewellery especially big, pink cowry, all over, including her ankles and wrists.

The wrapper is only tied up to her knees, and indeed, this is the only time that a Kalabari woman has to show her knees in public.

They then give her a saucer and a walking stick with which she has to go round the town twice a day, for three days, collecting alms.  She's accompanied by members of her husband's compound, who are singing right behind her, as she goes to every compound in the town.

After the three days, she then has to perform a dance for a further three days, in front of an audience, both mornings and evenings, in the compound square, so as to bring the event to an end.

This ceremony is only performed on the birth of her first child but not the rest.

kiwi992.

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This was how it was when I lived at home back in 1974.  I don't think the culture has changed because culture and tradition never die.  Evolve, yes, but not die.

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This is funny, because my guy has a video that he couldn't wait to show me.   After the movie he went on to explain that in certain parts of Nigeria some women are fattened before marriage and that certain dances are best done by heavier women.   He was also excited to see positive portrayals of African men in the movie.

But I think this practice is dying.  More women in Nigerian; from what I've read, prefer to be "fit instead of fat".

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1. It's not healthy

2. It's gross

3. ewwwww

4. I still can't believe there such thing

5. gross

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i saw it one the BBC or channel4 can't remeber which african country its was though,  they even force feed the girl,  the bigger she is the more appealing she looks to her future husband,  one woman was so fat she suffered from back and knee pains,  oh and when the husband thinks the wife is big enough he then exchange her for a cow or two cows

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because some men like them thick, phat and fabolous or whatever obesity is known as these days

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fattening rooms of calabar

And the Prince and his wife, who belong to the Efik tribe, certainly see no reason to change.

partly to do with our obsession with respect, status and honour

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@ Stillwater

I knew that only one or few ethnic groups.

Why should the girls be fat?

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The opposite of dieting.

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Lol.

The book you read about it from must have briefed you on the fact that it's an ethnic group in Nigeria where females are fattened up for marriage and not the whole populace of Nigerian females. If it didn't, well . . . I just wanted to let you know.

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think mcdonalds and burger king

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