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Should Inter-tribal Marriages Be Encouraged?

at this stage of our lives in this country, i don't think we Nigerians should stop our sons or daughters from marrying from other tribes,

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Nigeria is a land blessed with many cultures and ethnicities sharing its territory. This fact can either divide people or unite them and enrich their lives. It all really depends on how you view it. Surely, inter-tribal marriage can provide more challenges, as the both spouses come from different cultures. They need to learn the ways of each other and accept each other without trying to install their cultural issues or values. However, if that be attained, Nigeria could become a more united country and each person would get enriched by the other and made happier.

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^^^^^^well in Nigeria with the Yoruba's no, other tribes can do whatever they want

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i should be promote for peace purposes

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EzeUchea,

Ibaha man. Now answer my question.

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there is nothing wrong in inter-tribal marriages, love does not have borders

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Ezeuche,

Evidently @ "Nsido mfinna mfo Udezue?   Oh I forgot u no hear nor speak Ibibio."

My Ibibio is rusty but I'm still learning. "Iden mfo?" Is "how are you?" I can't remember what Nsido means. Now translate am n Igbo for me or I'll just ask my friend.

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So, the experience of just one person has literally turned you against inter-tribal relationships / marriages? Hasn't it occured to you that a bad choice in partners can result in a marriage break-up, regardless of tribe, even if they're from the same village?

Your vehement stance on the subject is a worry, but no more than I've come to expect from a lot of Nigerians. One of the reasons there's no unity in that country.

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I dont see anything wrong with inter marrying. My church supports it. Guess its more a case of mutual understanding of both parties involved. There will always be challenges in every marriage, red or yellow, black or white.

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My colleague married outside Igbo land and she has warned me never to marry outside my tribe, She is speaking out of experience.

Inter tribal marriage is not for me, NEVER.

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Let's just say, inter-tribal marriages shouldn't be discouraged.

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@chineye

understandable.

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FLgators, Nigerians just need to learn how to respect and accept eachother's existence. We don't need to go hunting for wives and husbands across the Benue and Niger to achieve peace coz it won't make any difference when there is trouble.

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I didn't know that my posts made that kind of impression. Well, yeah, you are correct. I do encourage bridging the gaps between peoples, but that is inasmuch as understanding one another goes.

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From your previous posts in RACISM, TRIBALISM & SECT. section, you seems to be the type that would encourage bridging the gaps between diff  tribes across Nigeria.

Why did you say no?

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Why would you think that?

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I'd think you'd be the last one to say no.

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Reality, nna it is what it is. Kedu ije man?

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Nopuqeater, Bytch shut da 4k up and stay n ur lane u dumb mofo. I called u a bytch coz u are bitchyy so please don't get mad when u get called out. It aint my fault. What da hell does this topic got to do with TX? Haha were u mistreated by a Texan? I beg go take out ur frustration on da right 1. Btw being a man does not and cannot erase the fact that u a bytch nigga. Who cares about ur Igbo wife and ur inlaws? Mscheew!!! Are u an almajiri? Lol Ewu awusa onye ota gworo. I've said my piece and it is what it is. If u pains dats ur problem.

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I vote hellll yea!

I want to get at least 6 different babes from different ethnic groups.

I want the elusive Fulani babe! If I have to pretend to be a Mahmud Bello from Katsina, then darn it I am willing to do it. I must attain at least one northern babe.

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It should be discouraged! Cultures are dying and it’s not good.

If I “mistakenly” marry a non-Igbo, then she must agree to be igbonised. Simple as that.

If my sister wants to get married to a non-Igbo, then her kids must spend every Christmas in our village else I won’t endorse the marriage.

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^^^O rie pe jare, Omo iya mi

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me, personally intend 2 marry fellow yoruba so my kids will be brought up well grounded in my culture, but if i happen to fall in love with a non-yoruba, out of my tribe, then ko si wahala, there is no problem at all!

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It should be encouraged cos it would reduce the rate of the inter-tribal war going on in Nigeria, there would be less fights when u know that you've got in-laws in the tribe u re planning to fight. It  would actually bring on the spirit of oneness to the country.

However, truth be told, there are some tribes i will definitely not marry into and at the same time I would love it if I don't marry from my tribe even though I know my own Dad would love to see me marry not even just from my tribe but from my home town and funny my mum is not even from my state.

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@Udezue: « #58 on: Yesterday at 08:51:31 PM »

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Has to be the best reply of this thread,while im all in support of inter-tribal marriages, i see so much sense in what you ve said, VERY TRUE. and im talking from experience.

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I am a product of Inter-tribal marriage my dad's an Egba man from Abeokuta, while my mother is Calabar woman from Cross-river, i got uncle's from my father's dat are married outside the Yoruba race, same thing from mom's

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Why do u plan on marrying Yoruba? Is there some cookie for u to get? Ezeuche

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I do not think they should be encouraged. What I think is that they should not be discouraged.

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No mind these yeye hypocritical

One naija ppl. Funny thing is that they and their families are least diverse than the ones they are preaching to even marry Eskimo sef. I'm part Ibibio and my fam got Ijo, Yoruba, caucasian, Ughanda, itsekiri yet I'm not here screaming into anyones ear to marry outside their village. I find inter tribal and ethnic mixtures exotic but like I said apply some common sense. U won't want to marry one of Yerima's people.

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language does not matter but the person , his persona

it is the trend in my family

and the regretable one is the marriage that involves our tribal person

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i don''t care. I can even marry a cannibals

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Tribal marriage is a thing of choice. I think it's got to do with the family history other than individual. I came from a family where despit the fact that it's a royal family in igbo land they don't give much fu---ck bout who and where your wife came from, as a matter of fact, i date any gilr and also intro her to them, both white, yoruba etc etc so. Until we stop all that hate and tribal trigering and love one another I wonder how peace will reign in Nigeria. For some of us who think or believe that we act the same way we talk in NAIRALAND, dude's ya wrong this is a faceless forum where any faceless person come in to say shi*t, who know JESUS himself fit DEY HERE.

Don't micromize me, it's my opinion.

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People should feel free to marry whoever they want. My fam got a mix of ppl from different parts of naija and beyond naija all da way to East africa and Europe but like I said use simple common sense. U can't go and marry into taliban family in afghanistan and expect something good out of it.

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Why the One Nigeria Slogan?

Yes i very much want that to be encouraged.

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Nopuqueater,

Biko go rest. Like I said anything pass Southern Kaduna is a no go area. Why would let my child marry into a culture that is highly incompatible with the rest of the nation? Its common sense. U are here preaching love yet u insult the Igbo by implying that once I am offered $$ I will turn coat. Thunder blast ur nyash. silly Bytch. Hypocrite.

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inter-tribal marriage should be encouraged IF AND ONLY IF there is a guarantee that the children of the couple will be well grounded in the cultures of their parents' tribes. If not it should be discouraged.

In most homes where the parents are from different tribes you will notice that English is the predominant medium of communication. this accelerates the extinction of the languages of both parents. This way our indigenous languages and cultural values die, while English language and culture is embraced as the supreme by the children.

Many of our indigenous languages are on the path of extinction. Let's be guided please. I don't believe in do or die love. If the person you love is from another tribe, and you know within you that when you start a family with that person your children will be lost as far as your culture is concerned, please look for someone in your tribe to marry. Don't tell me you can't find one!

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People should not be discouraged. But tread carefully.

Tribalism is still a big problem. If a man is rich it may be easier. Atiku, Baba Iyabo, IBB, Danjuma and many more married outside their tribes.

Iya Basira running roadside bukateria marrying Emedolu , a vulcanizer from Orlu is a different matter.

Basically social class plays a big role. All those politicians holding Naija hostage let their kids marry intertribally to consolidate family business and connections. Apologies to Nollywood.

BUT in the past,  many women from my hometown who married outside returned home with nothing when widowed or divorced. They had woeful tales to tell about how their in-laws ganged up to drive them away.  Most brought up their kids alone. SAD. I hope things have improved now. I still have those stories very fresh in my memory.

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@ topic

no, i dont encourage it, unless you have a very thick skin and/or are terribly infatuated.

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i love nigerians to marry from other tribes in noticeably high number. it will in a long run almost make the big tribal sentiments, if not difference, become not so much an issue. i dont mind who is married, as long as my sister marries a good man to her and is also handsome.

i dont mind who my brother marries, as long as she is good woman to him and is also pretty.

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@Udezue: this texan is discriminating against a part of nigeria. if your daughter marries a texan isnt God going to forbid that too? you better be happy that a man is willing to marry your daughter and he is a nigerian. are you going to seek revenge of your grandfather's anger of his grandfather on the innocent boy, who loves your daughter and produced throught the union grandchildren worth their quality in platinum?

if i were a zamfara man, and you have a grown daughter that is eye candy, i move to houston and snatch her under your nose. when i pay you bigtime money that no igbo man is willing to pay, you will refuse?

abeg, grow away from the unnecessary discrimination. you live in america, you chop from america, yet you hate your own people, a fellow nigerian.

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It shouldn't be discouraged neither should it be encouraged. I won't tolerate my daughter marrying a man from Zamfara. God Forbid!!!!

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No, its not good, have suffered from this, it felts so bad mehn.

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[b][/b][i][/i][color=#990000][/color]@ TOPIC

NOOOOooooooooh!

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Inter-tribal marriage should be discouragingly encouraged.

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Whatever rocks your boat, each to his choice/preference.

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I beg to differ oooo. I know Anambrarians are always about sticking to their own, but more Anambra girls marry from other tribes than any other Igbo tribe.

I can't believe some replies here. Naija still has a long way to go.

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Our history is one of the clogs to inter tribal marriages in this country.

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I don't think intra-marriage should be a problem, the problem most of our parents have is fear of unknown, but i tell you there is nothing wrong with it , so far there is love between the couple.

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hmmm ur right it should be encouraged so much well

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