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What criteria should determine a bride's dowry?

In naija,most times we pay wat d bride's dad think she is worth or what tradition states & sometimes demanded 2 pay the cost in part of her upbringing(we all know where that happens)

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If the parent feel they are 'losing their daughter', then dont give her up!.

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you seem to miss the point of what i'm saying. I'm not sure if this is deliberate.

I understand what you are saying, I'm not exactly for or against bride price, I was giving you the reasons behind it. If you want to talk about whether or not ppl should continue paying it. . that is something else. This topic seems to be assuming that it is going to be paid not questioning the practice.

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There is nothing that prevents a married woman from using her parents' name after marriage. For example, Our finance minister uses the name Okonjo-Iweala, and a popular actress uses the name Jalade-Ekeinde. It's not a such a big deal.

Perhaps you believe that a wife is her husband's property and so he has to pay the price? If not, are you saying that the bride price is to pay for the name change? Wouldn't that be petty, paying a hefty sum so they'll let her use your surname?

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The bride's family is loosing a daughter, not really gaining a son. The new family will have the groom's surname, and will be part of the grooms family. When you meet them in a new city, if you'd never met the girl before, all you would know is that they are mr and mrs X. . Not the joined family of mr. x and mrs y. This is why a "groom price" is not paid.

Like i said, it is a ritual token, and i'm pretty sure, that unless the groom was very well off, his parents or relatives were the one paying the price, not him.

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Well, it's an unwise idea. A young couple starting out their marriage needs as much money as possible to smoothen their relationship, because shortage of money causes a lot of marriage problems. It is very unwise to rob them of a substantial portion of this money in the name of "tirual acknowledgement".

The yoruba tradition of the bridegroom protrating to the parents of the bride and saying "thank you" is acknowledgement enough. if indeed the 'bride price' is acknowledgement of the parents' investment in bringing up the bride, why does the bride not have to pay a "groom price" for the man. Are you saying parents of the groom haven't invested in their child?

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it depends on his pocket, you cant tell a poor man to pay something like three hundred thousand naira

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bride price is ritual acknowledgement of the parents role in the upbringing of their daughter.  They have raised the most beautiful treasure and the bride price you pay signifies your acknowledgement of their efforts.  If you truely think about it, almost nobody has ever truely paid the monetary price that equals the investment parents have made in their children and compared to that, bride price is just a token gesture.

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Bride price should be fixed at 25kobo. Una go sweat.

Really I think the idea of bride price is uncalled for. It makes it look as if the bride is beign sold to the husband. It shouldnt be imposed on the man.

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