Please don't take offense to an American posting here. I am not trying to start any controversy or mess. I have had a question I have wanted to know the answer to - or at least get some insight for - for years, but had nobody to ask. This is not a prank/spam posting. Okay, here goes:
A little background info on me: I am a 35 year old black American female from the deep South. I was raised in a strict Christian environment and am conservative in the way I dress and behave. I speak correct English (I speak "Ebonics" with family and friends as the situation calls for), I don't have any children, and I'm somewhat educated (bachelor's degree, some grad school). I am not promiscuous or loud, and I am careful about who I let in my life.
Black American men don't pay me that much attention. But, for some reason I don't understand, I get a LOT of attention from African men - MUCH more than I get from black American men. Mostly, it's been Nigerians (Igbo and Yoruba), but I've been approached/pursued by other West African men and even a black Libyan (as he self-identified).
In my late teens and early 20s, I dated a couple of the men who approached and pursued me, but ended up breaking off the relationships, because they always wanted to move TOO fast, and that scared me a lot. And to be honest, I also didn't know a dang thing about being a wife at that age, and I wasn't ready, as I'd finally gotten out of my miserable little backwards and racist Southern hometown and wanted to see what else existed in the world.
Anyway, the question I've always had, but never got to ask until now is (if it even HAS an answer):
Why do I attract so many African men? Especially Nigerian? Don't get me wrong; I do not think this is a bad thing; not at all.
But, I'm wondering what it is about me that makes black American men keep going, but makes African men stop. With the exception of the almost 7 years I was married (to a man from Guinea, ironically; hey, a girl's gotta get in where she fits in and I'm not going to turn down a good man of another culture just to wait for black American men to see my worth), I have been pursued by African men. Now that I'm single again, same thing. I don't even know what to think.
Can anybody give me some insight on this? A hint? A clue?
Thanks in advance.