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Why Are Nigerian Men Sooooo Impossible!?

ok am getting this off my chest,  first of all whoever may read this may either agree or disagree and i am certain only a man would disagree. This are my grieviances,  Nigerian men always don't want a woman who speaks her mind. if she talks he says she nags too much but when it comes to him he wants to do the talking and always be the man.Then when he has sucessfully dated the woman for years and wasted her time he starts to say he wants a wife material,  what he means is a woman who takes his poo and doesnt reply when he talks or probably represents all what his friends will envy,  then the so called old girl friend is dumped!!! i get so irritated by this because i meet men that say they are not going to marry thewoman they are with because they a looking for the next best thing,  my message to them is,  if you don't want a woman who can tlk back or express herself go marry a nun and get over your self.

My second issue is this thing with guys thinking that when a woman sleeps with you soon she is cheap,  well, breaking news!!!! u are cheap because if you could have kept your wandering THING to yourself maybe your mouth wont open and insult the lady. another thing is nigerian men can complain that black girls are difficult and go on to date white women,  well they do that because the white woman is calm and would probably hang on the fan to have sex with you. no disrespect to white women, i live in England and i do see good ones as well the only issues is their black men keep cheating. talking about cheating, GOSH,  i could go on forever,  MEN CHEAT!!!! well its not new because they think its a mans world,  well as they cheat i always wonder how a man can cope with sinking into diffrent things,  my dears i envy you for all the effort of taking in different smells ,  i hope they don't fall into a sewage tank.

Another thing is with regard to the shape and size of woman they want, Nigerian men want a woman who looks thin on her wedding gown or maybe wants his woman to be from in quote a "good home" well i have got news for you, not everyone who cames from your so called defination of a good home is a good wife and people can pretend but trust nigerian men not to notice,  all they want is for everyone to say he bagged a fine woman. you meet a man who loves big women and goes on to have a slim wife and cheats on her with big women,  and vice versa,  whats the sense in that?

we are in a new world and maybe we woman should define what we want and then u guys would know how it really feels.I never understand why a woman wastes her time praying to mayying some guy who treats her like poo,  it amazes me,

Lastly, GUYS GUYS GUYS,  I am at the stage in my life where i don't care because men pretend and want you to be something u are not,  when u are wild they say u are not wife material,  i hate that word so much i want to puke when i hear it,  Nigerian marriages are not happy today because people are not with the right people,  or maybe you marry someone because your family wants you to marry a particular tribe,  sorry for you,  because you are wasting your time. think marriage is only about babies,  what happened to excitement?,  i could go on forever but ,  i will leave it here, its hard to find a liberated Nigerian man who can handle an Educated woman because all they want are Quiet women who wont talk when they are all crazy. call me a liberated woman, or crazy or frustrated but am done with nigerian men and all their rubbish,  GO TO THE VILLAGE AND MARRY  if it means so much to you to marry someone who doesnt talk back.

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Gbam!!!

Why is it that on NL when people talk about "Nigerian Men", they refer to people who are not in Nigeria?

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@poster

i guess american, japanese, chinese, spanish, cameroonian, italian, french men are wonderful, its only nigerians that dump girls that are getting old and cheap

its only nigerians that go for better lookin girls, its only nigerians that dont want their wives to nag and tear them up, its only nigerians that would appreciate hardworking and respectful wives, its only nigerians that dump girlfriends that they planned to marry earlier on,

and i guess its only nigerians that break ladies hearts in the whole world

wake up, nubian girl or whatever you call yourself, you and ur friend met creeps that u call men and you both were played so dont attribute your folly to the shortcomings of nigerian men, if we are so bad, why do we have the lowest divorce rate and the happiest human beings in the world[ including men and women]

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and im very sure u dont mind answering

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@ OMO IBO

You ask too many questions.

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they not, they adorable. . . . . .lol

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merge, how old r u?

wanting to remain a virgin or actually staying a virgin till u get married r two different issues. i blieve it'd be gone sooner or later.

all the same, 'all work and no play makes jack a dull boy'

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OMO IBO

Well for me it does.

I have never dated by choice.

I want to remain a virgin until I get married.

See your mind is filled with stereotypes.

I told you I was single and you jumped to conclusion again.

You thought that since I am single that means I have issues. LOL

Look at the language you have just used "GUB"

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many of the women sef don marry before.

instead make una learn how to be submissive to your men, you want to fight them and you label them impossible. Una go hear am

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studying and going to medical has absolutely nothing to do with having a partner. if u had one u'd mind what u spew

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well merge, it is obvious the reason u r single.

my suggestion to u is watch ur gub.

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a nigerian man will drive me to suicide.

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@ merge, u got a boy friend? or a partner?

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how many of my posts have u read to arrive at this conclusion? besides, if u or anyone is true to them selves u will definitely co-sign my post.

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@ OMO IBO

His mind is filled with stereotypes. LOL

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@ Nuiban Q

You have to know their game so you will not be played a fool.

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Ive never really had any problems with naija guys. Men abound everywhere. They are aplenty. It all boils down to everywoman to weed out the never do wells and get to the cream of the crop.

A man (be he nigerian or otherwise) will treat you only as well as you let him.

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I can see clearly now the rain is gone

I can see all obstacles in my way

Gone are the dark clouds that had me blind

It's gonna be a bright, bright sunshinin' day

It's gonna be a bright, bright sunshinin' day,

i have absolutely nothing against naija women but i believe they need to step there game up.

women tend to relax after a while in a relationship. this spells doom in the not so distant future if not dealt with properly.

why do u stop being sexy after 6months?

why are u always home? go out and do something.

u dont always have to talk about everything u see

in a nutshell, think back to the first few days, weeks, months and the first time we met.

r u doing anything different? even though we are planning to get married or already i still want u to be like the chick i met on the first day.

i dont know if i made any sense. the above works works for me till today

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that is true nwaka because i use to be married to one before myself

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That's good! People should marry whoever respects them and whom they can find happiness and peace of mind with regardless of nationality/ethnicity.

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i had alot of nigerian women are dating the asian now in nigeria. even the white men in nigeria are taking over

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Presidio,

C'mon read my post, its an opinion OOOOO, my Jeez!!!!! this post has really caused wahala, abeg oooo, i don taya to explain myself, no be fight, na opinion and u know that women and men tlk about each other , it just happens. but to be honest most of the things i mentioned have facts to it, i know not all men are a ike but somtimes in your life u come across certain instances that cause u to generalise, an example is when White people think some blacks are going to Steal from them and they make a general statement, truth is not all blacks are like that, i am fully aware and i dont think its a capital offence to post,

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http://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-130635.0.html Can it be said that Nigerian Women are lazy cuz of the script above? NubianQ please give me an answer.

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debo who told you Asian men are small down there.

One of these days those men would challenge you black men to a contest of show and tell.

We may be surprised that they are not lacking at all

please I'm not speaking from experience

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ok debowsky,, thanks for saying am frustrated,  atleast i have frustration going on in my life.  if u read it properly i wrote it as my OPINION!!! n if u didnt like it i can as well respect urs. Richyblack responded to the post n was a man about it . besides there is nothing bad in hanging on the fan to have sex,  i just meant it as a a way to express sacrifices other races of women make,  GOSH!!! its not personal.

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ROTFLMAO! TOH you are nuts

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Cadet Sharrp there you showed us your globes and now you dont understand why ashewos like 4play are sniffing around!

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@Richyblack, Stillwater, and D-Reloaded: You guys are the best! well said.

Poster: make you take am easy Oh! look like the more your write the angrier you get! life too short and no one is obligated to dating or marrying a Nigeria man! you can marry someone from Ten-geria if that will make you happy.

I'm still wondering how your friend dated the guy you described in your post for 5 whole years before opening her eyes! now all naija men don enter wahala for your page!

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Some people are just too damn gullible.

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Well be careful on the choice of your man.Na oyibo man do one of our sister this ooo

Nigerian woman in coma for 18 years in Vienna

Written by TUNDE AKINGBADE

Saturday, 23 February 2008

* Family meets victim, children

The family of the Nigerian woman, said to have been in coma for 18 years in Vienna after allegedly being battered by her Austrian husband, finally visited the victim penultimate week.

AFTER 18 years of being in coma, the family of Victoria Znidaric, the Nigerian woman who was allegedly battered by her Austrian engineer husband, Stankov Znidaric, finally saw her in pathetic state penultimate week in a nursing home outside Vienna, the Austrian capital. For many years the family in Nigeria had been informed that Victoria was dead. She was mourned at her village near Ekpoma, Edo State and this caused depression that people said eventually killed her parents.

No one in Nigeria had any inkling about the truth surrounding the matter until 10 years later when news filtered to Nigeria that Victoria was in a pitiable state at a nursing home in Austria. Since then, every attempt by any member of the family to visit her in Austria was rebuffed by the Austrian embassy in Abuja under different guises.

Then, Sunday Vanguard published the plight of the woman and her family in Nigeria .Penultimate week, a representative of the family, Mr. Arthur Iyere O., a graduate of mathematics and statistics who had been in the vanguard of inquisition to find out the state of Victoria and reconcile the two children of the marriage with their Nigerian root, finally saw Victoria and met her children - Christopher and Victor - through the intervention of the Association of Democracy in Africa and Worldwide (ADA) which confronted the Austrian embassy through the ministry of interior in Vienna.

Following the visit of the representative of the Nigerian family and the contact with the children of the battered woman 18 years after the incident and 22 years after her leaving Nigeria, the story hit headlines of no fever than five newspapers in Vienna with series of press conferences being organised in the country to highlight the plight and sorry state of the Nigerian woman. A fund raising is being organized to assist the woman who needs a wheel chair estimated at about 6,000 dollars. The children of the woman were very much excited to meet a representative of their mother’s family in Nigeria. They expressed delight in finally being connected to their Nigerian root and expressed hope of visiting in the near future.

Although the Nigerian family has not located the children’s father who allegedly battered their mother during a scuffle, Sunday Vanguard was told by the victim’s eldest sister Mrs. Justina Ehijiator that the family was not interested in pressing any charges against or fighting the Austrian man. “All we want is to see our sister’s children and let them know the family,” she said Today, Victoria lies in a nursing home outside Vienna and can only raise her head and left shoulder. Beside, she reacts at the presence of visitors with strange sounds and howls like a wolf.

http://www.vanguardngr.com/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=3539&Itemid=123

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AS EXPECTED ALL I GET ARE MEN BEING SO PESSIMISTIC!!! WELL I SAID IT AND You KNOW D TRUTH,  ITS NOT MEANT TO BE AN INSULT TO MEN, ITS JUST THAT SOMETIME THINGS  NEED TO BE SAID,  AND RICHY AS FOR  THE TALK ON  WEIGHT ,  WHATS WRONG WITH BEING WHO YOU RE? I AGREE WEIGHT IS A PROBLEM IN SOCIETIES AND WE ARE ALL GUILTY OF STUFFING OUR FACES BUT LETS ALL ADMIT, WE ARE ALL GOING TO DIE OF SOMETHING,

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I always wanted a wife material. I always knew that I would never marry a woman who is not wife material and I have no regrets today.

Not all guys are the same. What some guys want is not what others want so every woman needs to know what she wants in a guy and when she sees it, she should stay with him.

Problem is(as someone stated earlier) many young girls like the wild guys who are likely to treat them like dumps. If you are attracted to someone who is likely to treat you badly later, you can hardly blame anyone for that but yourself.

There are millions of good and happy marriages but you dont hear so much about them because they have no need to come and shout about their marriages in public fora. The only things you're likely to hear in a public forum is bad news about relationships. It's easy enough to see someone for what they are before too long in a relationship.

Everyone should check themselves and consider exactly what attracts them to the opposite sex and they'll see why they keep having failed relationships.

I wish you all the best

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Call it denial or whatever you think I'll have to tell you it depends on what you call "talking back." I've seen the so called educated black women that thinks bitchiness, ranting and raving is being liberated.

Personally I will never have anything to do with people that describe themselves in such words as "wild."

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well, Richy i have to say u are right on this one, well i never wanted a hot guy infact all my life i was in relationships without cheating and being truthful. its doesnt help and i have learnt that. well , we all hope but it just doesnt work,

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@NubianQ,

I'm a man and I completely agree that some men are assholes and should be cemented with iron rods under the foundation of a high-rise building - absolutely disgusting men, dirty, nasty, crazy, filled with silly arrogance and annoying pride. I've come across several of these pieces of poo and witnessed how they've abused the helpless women in their lives.

However, the question is, why are so many women wooed by these imbeciles? I do not subscribe to all that nonsensical talk that people pretend throughout the duration of a relationship. Pretense is only temporary! You date a guy for years and can't tell he's bullshit? Give me a break! Guys reveal themselves quickly, but most women deliberately choose the arrogant, nasty, selfish men over the empathetic, kind, selfless guys, especially when they (the women) are younger and still "going wild". When that your friend was 23, when she was still "hot", she wanted a "hot guy". Now, after five years, she's 28 and the hot guy doesn't have the hots for her anymore.

In the dating game, women have choices. As long as women continue to make silly choices in the kind of men they date, many will continue to find themselves in silly situations.

The balance in the universe has to be maintained.

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Well, Thanks for your comments and to be honest, i get to a stage in my life where i think i may never be with a nigerian man and its fine with me,  so many things are so hurtful when it comes to them. yesterday i poured my heart out because i have been a victim myself and my friends have been through hell, a friend of mine dated a guy since she was 23 and when she turned 28 after 5 years with him he leave her and says he left because he knew she would want marriage and when i had a one to one tlk with him he told me he didnt like her anymore,  i felt hurt because she was there for him and when he started hanging with younger girls she wasnt appealing to him. couldnt he have broke up with her years earlier?,  now  she is 28 and the bad news is when u are 28 and want to get married some silly men say you  are old or desperate,  well as for whoever think am yapping BLAH BLAH BLAH,  i guess u live in denial and i wont blame u because if only u listened u would find that its not what u think,  the truth matters an i am airing it,  if no one likes it then ignore the post i rather people give intelligent responses than waste other peoples time readin uncessary rants. thanks again people for reading,.

HR hotness, thanks for your kind comment, i like people like you who know the truth,

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Blah, blah, blah!!!!!!!

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I feel u sister and I agree with you whole heartedly

I made the decision a long time ago that I will make the choice, I decide what direction my life is heading and with whom

form a very young i age i saw what the quest for marriage and acceptance from men can do to women and i promised myself i wont be that person.

There are Nigeiran men with the values u seek, I know cos I've met a few and girl,,, its worth the wait,,,

hang in there and keep being strong

when u meet them u'll know because they'll recognise the person inside and they'll treat u with the respect u deserve

Liberation isnt a bad thing, its about knowing who u are and what you want

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Nubian, not all Nigerian men are the way you describe.

I for one, wouldn't want to be with a doormat, a woman who doesn't have an opinion of her own, and merely agrees with everything I say.

I'm not a "yes" man, and similarly, wouldn't want to settle with a "yes" woman. How boring that'll be.

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