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Why Do Nigerians Get Married?

When I got to college, every future plan I heard always included matrimony. With America topping lists of infidelity and divorce, I used to wonder why everyone was so determined to get married. Where they influenced by culture or their religion? Was their marriage or bust mentality due to socioeconomic factors? Or do this people believe in the age old adages of love and soulmates?

I am an Igbo women. Growing up in alaigbo and America, I was taught that marriage is a vehicle that delivered love, financial security, and companionship. I want to know what to other Nigerians think about matriomony. My people, please tell me why we get married.

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western marriafes fail because of 2 reasons. one someone commited a crime or lied and two infidelity. the second one causes 80% of divorces. its not tolerated in the slightest

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well its part of our culture

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Marriage is no vehicle that deliver no love.

I see marriage as a Garbage in Garbage out, what you bring into it is what yu will get.

However, i think most marriages started wrongly, a man see a babe with nice figure and imagine her in bed for life, however, forgeting that the heart means a lot, and the woman see a guy with nice ride, and now see comfort, forgeting that the ride cld belongs to someone else.

People needs to be real, be open and be willing to go thru thick and thin together.

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people (not only Nigerians) get married:

because they're in love

because they want to settle down

etc etc.

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Check the following existing threads at below:

How Necessary Is Marriage?

http://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-74438.96.html

How Do You Know When You Found The Right Man/Woman, that God,

http://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-1753.0.html

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What do you lot think of arranged marriages? I'm personally quite disturbed by them and their popularity in Nigeria.

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Me too o, I wan no why people/Nigerians get married.

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[/i]the marriage was arraigned for them or they made a choice to get married [i]

I want to know why. Why is marriage a nesscity? Why does society pressure people to do it?

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@ Poster

I think you should rephrase your question because from what your posted the real question should be; Should marriage be a necessity? And my answer is NO.

People get married yet would not find love, financial security and companionship, so its all up to the individual, if you don't want to get married then don't!

One thing i don't know is why Nigerians compare the lifestyle of other countries to theirs, every country have their indigenous culture and way of life, not because we are a developing country means that other countries are better than us in every way. All i know that Nigerian marriage last longer because Nigerians value the ethics of marriage more than most developed countries and that is one thing we should be proud of.

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the marriage was arraigned for them or they made a choice to get married

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Marriage or no marriage. . . at the end of the day, u are still a nigerian.

every man to his own. If u feel marriage is for u then good for u and if u feel it ain't for u . .good for u as well!

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I think for most people, it is due to societal pressure.

'It is the next thing society expects you to do'.

Otherwise, most people would not be under any pressure to marry esp women.

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