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Why Don't Most Nigerian Men Especially The Igbos See Marriage As An Achievement?

i dont understand it. i kinda think marriage is the greatest of all achievement based on the offspring upbringings it comes with. but lots people proved me wrong expecially the igbo men who has the strong believe that marriage ain't worth what some people thought it was. and that they will only manage to put marriage into consideration only if they are having bout #500, 000 in there bank account to settle down.

come to think of it, why are the igbo's so self centered in every aspect of life? money seem to be all and all for them.

i just like the yoruba ways cuz even a gate man who drinks garri morning till night can still marry any wife of his choice without no commitment.

whats happening to the igbo's??

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face and not my chest, it makes me uncorfortable.

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hmmmmm this kind love for this thread hmm

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I told you not to wear mini skirt with show bra top, but you refused.  I guess I was teaching swahili instead of igbo then.

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Translate joo, I don forget the ones wey you teach me. If only you were not staring at my bosoms while teaching the ibo, I would've felt more cormfortable and understand better.

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There is a difference between insult and being foolish. The latter is the case.

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Ndi Igbo unu siri ike. Anu kporo nku na-eju onu. Akuko dimkpa na-ato n'onu. A na m ekele ooo

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Skinny bobo like you. If you pound your chest any harder, e go burst o

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Old boy , see all the Biafran war lords gathering and marking time, waiting for the D-line to slice 9cent. It should have been the battle of the day.

who no know na person dey show am,

Igbos valued marriage but we like to get financial security for our wives and children first, the high demand of our girls and the high bride price in igboland makes us hard working and prosperous in life. And it has been working for us.

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Another Anti-Igbo onyeberebe

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sheniqua, yes oooooooooo, Umunna and da rest r powerful oooo, dere is no such thing as going 2 court, lol,

That's why once a member of that family doesnt like u esp. either of da parents, abeg, run ooooo, love wont change anything, lol,

A family friend of mine wanted 2 leave her hubby's house. Always complaining 2 da parents that da man abuses her. So, da parents decided 2 pay them a visit. They sat both of them down 2 hear their stories,

The father asked her daugther "u said he abuses u, has he eva touched u, as in beaten u before"?. The daugther said no daddy, but the kind of stuff he says to me,

The father said " my friend, when he says those stuff, say it back to him", da man said, stay at your husband's house, I thought it was a serious issue, lol, perhaps, it wasnt a serious issue because verbal abuse 2 him aint an abuse because it might have been said out of annoyance, lol

   Ezinwannem, I personally think that involving too many relatives in ones the name of keeping family tie is a litle dangerous that is why husband and wife should very matured and well equipped before marriage

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@sheniqua , true oooooooo as u have mentioned sum of our traditions.

In my hometown, if my mother didnt do her traditional marriage, none of her daugther (s) would and dat goes on until who knows,

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Anotha bunkum stories thread.

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He is the primate example that idiots or imbeciles can type

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Uche,in my part of Igboland I assume others too,there's always a middle man during the traditional marriage celebrations.

My dad has been a middle man in many weddings of his friends daughters.

The middle man serves as a neutral go between in the negotiations.

The grooms family have to go to the middle man before proceeding to the bride's right from after the "iku aka".

The middle man is also informed when the marriage is about the hit the rocks and they rally around to offer help.

That is traditional Igbo custom.

and when the marriage does dissolve or the groom dies and the woman needs to remarry,the middle man is involved in the returning of part or whole of the dowry to the groom side so the woman traditionally becomes free to marry another.

That is Igbo custom.

That's why our marriages are not seen as complete without the traditional customs some of which I've described.

It may differ from place to place in Igboland

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@wendymanda, his own dumbass no be small, lol. He's being ethnocentric and refuses 2 accept other people's way of life, lol

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So this is another thread started too allow tribal bashing but no one has fallen for it.

Mr 9 nonsense

You sir are a dumbass

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Yes you're right they can go overboard no doubt but I don't think that was the intention.

I ask a lot of questions right from childhood and I came to know that there are many couples of my parents age and younger that had a kindred mediation at some point or the other and most of these marriages survived.

If it were here in the USA for instance,they would have divorced .

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sheniqua, yes oooooooooo, Umunna and da rest r powerful oooo, dere is no such thing as going 2 court, lol,

That's why once a member of that family doesnt like u esp. either of da parents, abeg, run ooooo, love wont change anything, lol,

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Thanks dear.

Of course we know there are many Yorubas who don't think the way the poster does.

There are tons of Yorubas married to Igbos and that is the proof right there.

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@Poster:

E be like say ibo man don thief your babe with him money, that is why u can come here and openly display your intelligent embarrassment.

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@sheniqua, well said

The whole UMUNNA/UMUADA would make u think very well b4 getting into marriage, as Sheniqua said, datz why divorce really aint 2 common

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you're really looking 4 trouble ooooooooooooo, what is wrong with u? is that why Yorubas can't stay in their husband's/wife's house,

come 2 think of it, as an Igbo maself, I can't marry someone dat gat no potential in life. dere is no need bringing children into this world and make them suffer, like being hawkers in da streets of lagos,

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you are just looking for trouble

but i wont stoop so low to give it to you

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