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Wife swapping in Namibia among the nomadic tribes has been practiced for several generations, but the call of the legislator to fix it in the law has stirred debate about the rights and traditions of women in modern society. Wife swapping stories keep shocking people in Africa and the entire world in general.
It is a practice of more than a gentleman's agreement, where all friends can have sex with each other wives and with no strings attached. Swinging with African tribal contact? Or ‘rape’, as some people and critics name it. Spouses have little to say in the case, according to those who condemn this practice as abusive and very risky in a country, where is one of the world's highest rates of HIV / AIDS. But Ovahimba and Ovazemba tribes, which are based mostly in the arid north of the southern African country, say their age-old custom is of strengthening friendship and prevents promiscuity.
Wife swapping among Namibia’s nomadic tribes
‘This is a culture that gives us friendship and unity’, said Mr Kazeongere Tjeundo, MP and deputy chairman of the opposition Democratic Turnhalle Alliance of Namibia.
‘It's always up to you to choose among your mates whom you like the most... and to allow him to sleep with your wife’, Mr. Tjeundo, a member of the ethnic group Ovahimba told.
Concerned that HIV / AIDS can be used as a pretext to stop an ancient tradition, he and others, are adopting the regulations supposed to be taken to ensure 'good practice'. Mr. Tjeundo says he plans to propose of law according to wife swapping, after the legislative poll in November, when he leans in for re-election. Known as okujepisa omukazendu that loosely means ‘wife offers guest’ or ‘offering wife to a guest’ - it's the practice little known outside the reclusive communities, whose population is estimated at 86,000 people.
Mainly located in the north-western part of the Kunene region close to the border of Angola, the community is very isolated from the rest parts of the country. They resisted the attributes of modern life, also they keep cattle, live thanks to the land products and practice ancestral worship.
Traditional wife swapping rape
Some traditional practices are often at odds with human rights and other principles of Western civilization, and in some cases the conflict is unresolvable. Tradition is important for a number of reasons. It’s not only connection with our history, but it also creates a sense of pride and unity among specific groups.
But what happens when the new principles and problems of the world are opposed to the old customs? One such practice has caused controversy, it is wife swapping. News24 reports that the practice is well-known as okujepisa omukazendu, it means ‘wife offers guest’, this is usually done among Ovahimba and Ovasemba tribes living in the north-western Kunene region of Namibia.
As much as it is a custom that has been practiced for many generations among the nomadic Namibian tribes, a call from Kazeongere Tjeundo, Vice-President of the Democratic Turnhalle Alliance (DTA), protects the custom as law has caused debate about the relevance of tradition in modern society and has expressed concern about the rights of women and the health risks associated with this practice.
Unlike swinging, which includes non-monogamous behavior, where in a committed relationship the partners participate in some sexual activities with other people as a recreational or even social activity, criticism and gender activists say that in Namibia, wife swapping is actually rape. They claim that the wife, as a rule, does not have the right to vote on this issue, the husbands are the ones, who decide and agree on the wife whom they can have sex with.
Those who are against the practice consider it as a violation of human and women's rights. Health problems are related to the practice around the fact that Namibia has one of the world's highest rates of dangerous HIV/AIDS, as well as critics fear that legalizing of the custom makes sexual diseases most common in the country.
The debate raises questions what is the place of traditions in modern society. In the case of certain practices, should we adapt to changing world conditions with opposing views, or should they be canceled at the risk of dismantling the traditions and cultural groups?
Windhoek is a Namibia's wife swapping among the nomadic tribes, which has been practiced for several generations, but the call of the legislator to fix it in the law has stirred debate about the rights and traditions of women in modern society. Plenty of people, both men and ladies go bare-chested. The women wear inteesting short skirts made of goat skin and cow cut iron shell jewelry and they cover their braided locks into a thick paste of red ocher, which they also rub on their skin as sun screen.
Unlike any modern rocks, tribal members do a random draw for mating couple. They meet each other in their own homes, while the wife or husband, on the other hand is sent to a separate small hut during this exchange. Women at the same time cannot object to sleep with a man chosen by her husbands, a point which angers human rights defenders Rosa Namises, who says that the custom is equivalentto rape, and don't forget ‘rape is illegal.’
‘This practice does not benefit women but also men who wish to control their partners’, Namises told , a former MP, who heads the non-governmental organization called the Women Solidarity Namibia.
Should we change it?
Different other groups, such as the Legal Assistance Centre in Namibia (LAC), public interest law company, which vows to protect all the rights of Namibians, has challenged their continued existence in the region, where 18.2% of the 2.1 million people have HIV, it is according to national statistics.
‘This is a practice that makes women to risk health’, said Amon Ngavetene, which is responsible for the project on the fight against AIDS for LAC. He argues that most ladies are opposed to this practice and would like to cancel it.
But 40-year-old Mutombo Kambapira is quite comfortable with the tradition and asks friends to sleep with her own husband.
‘I did that this year’, she told,’ And I have no problems with the device at all’.
‘That's good, because it is a part of our culture, why should we change it?’, then she added.
Program analyst of the United Nations Development Programme Office in Namibia, Cloudina Venaani, is sure that women tolerate it only because they are afraid to challenge their husbands. Traditionalists, nonetheless, insist that the custom does not violate any rights of women, also noting that all women are free to choose the ladies for their husbands - even though this situation rarely happens in practice. The main traditional authorities in the Kunene region, want to continue the tradition, but in tandem with education on HIV. However, details are still very vague. This question is very difficult to solve, because it is very ambiguous.
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