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Just Out Of Curiosity, Is It Possible To Have A "small" Wedding In Nigeria?

I'm asking in terms of people that will attend. At my older sisters wedding, there were soooo many people, including some that just seem to have appeared. My sis says it isn't worth fighting with your in-laws to reduce the number of people at the wedding. However, my other sister(who is a little more stubborn) says you can just be harsh and not invite people you don't to invite. The thing is, you know how people can be, such as mum and dad's coworkers who want to be there, and that midwife who bathed you after you were born, and that uncle who gave you 'money for biscuit' when you were 10. I was just wondering if its actually possible to have a wedding in 9ja with only 100 of the closest fam and friends. What do you guys think? How should one go about it? (I'm not getting married yet,lol) peace out

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Small Wedding for Naija? Except your parents and family members no dey chop other peoples wedding rice.

It is worse if they are from Ijebu like me!!!

Wedding na occassion for free chops and "eru" - load carriage in naija plus show offs!!!

Inspite of all my protest and having done my wedding secretly in a registry

my father still declared 7 days feast in my absence

Day 1: For hosting my wife's family from Benin (they re free to witness all d 7 day events)

Day 2: For hosting all my fathers family home and abroad

Day 3: All Business Associates - home and abroad. This include business partners etc

Day 4: My Mother's Societies - Church and Social, Lagos and Ijebu-Ode

Day 5: The Extended Family

Day 6: Traditional Chiefs, Traditional Societies

Day 7: Church Associations, Societies, Pastors, lay readers, Deacons, Choral Groups

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@waterworks, what an excellent idea, the only thing is that I don't know if I'll have a trad. wedding, I don't know how his family would want it done, but thanx, you've given me ideas for my time,

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it is possible. As a matter of fact, i'm having that kinda wedding. Just the nuclear families and our very close well wishers.

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yes it is. the thing is invite allllllll the people you want the for traditional let it be big plenty rice and all let the inlws bring who they want. then for your white wedding you can do it in a hall and give invitation to all your close family and friends. that way evrybody is happy.

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@Poster;

These are some of the secrets of having a small crowd wedding in Nigeria.

- Agree with your spouse

-Tell your family members and inlaws what exactly you want

-Give short notice-

-Print little quantity of IV cards

-Do not use SMS to invite people

-Do not use uniform (i.e. Aso Ebi)

-Do not have the wedding in celebrity cities like Lagos, Ijebu, Ibadan.

Boy, I had it rough during my wedding. I am from delta state while my wife is from Ogun but resides in Lagos. Before we came into country for the wedding our parents have invited various groups of people; families, club members, associations etc and everything went beyond our budget. You can imagine,

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thanx to everyone for your opinions. Its good to know that I'm not the only one to have these feelings, and when my time comes, I'll be able to do it my (or our,lol) way cuz its my (our) day!!!! God bless

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Lol, small wedding in Nigeria, with these greedy young women constantly influenced by Citi People and Ovation, why una dey deceive una selves/

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I'm having a small wedding. In fact, if I can get married in jeans, it's happening.

Ok, maybe not, but definately a small wedding. Some people just want the wedding not the marriage.

To be honest, if my significant other doesn't want a small wedding, we probably aren't going to agree on a lot.

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The only way to have a "small" wedding, arrange everything secretly and inform those u really want there in less than a week.

Invite the clergies to conduct the ceremonies as early as 7.00am and by noon, u'd sit back and enjoy good games on TV- which is rare on wedding days!

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I support small wedding.

Dont use money to feed ur family to feed crowd, all in the name of weddding party.

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LOL , @aso ebi committee , what exactly is it with men and hating Aso ebi,

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I think in-laws play a huge role in this;the couple might prefer a quiet wedding which I certainly do.However,more often than not in-laws literally take over the wedding plan, tellling u " nevermind wedding is just a once in a life time event so let's invite all and sundry." Then comes aso- ebi committee that signals the complete take-over,u are in for it mate.

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More divorce are brewing. Wedding was hot, marriage is cold. No money after!I don't know the soultion but I know the problem is trying to please everyone, mainly the bride's people and the bride stuff. What invited guests will consume is not the cause of high cost. It is about thing the bride family started pitching in, put ur money where ur mouth is. Let's try the Indian way!

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yeah,its very possible to have a small wedding in Naija.Depends on the couples involved.

And I think the whole large wedding concept aside being influenced by our extended family culture in africa is also influenced by a lot of persons wanting to meet up to societal 'standards' .

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small is relative - what is small to you, may be big to someone else and what is big to you may be small to someone else. Just do your thing as much as you wont go borrowing.

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It is very possible to have a small wedding in naija.

No publicity, tell only the people you want to invite and tell them that you intend to make it a low key (so they wont start broadcasting on your behalf), change your location(e.g if you are based in lagos you can choose to do it in abeokuta, I actually know a couple that did that and it worked for them).

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now u got me scard to marry in 9ja oh

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never possible. we only did our thanksgiving in naija. no cards no publicity. my dad and cheif organiser said maximum 300 including church people sister nwando it was more than 1200.

i only personally invited 5 people so plus wife lets say 10. bearing in mind the mrs dont know no soul there so they were all my people if you ask me. till today there are still people quarelling i didnt allow them attend my wedding. never knew my famiily was that large.

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It can happen if you move the location of the wedding.

For instance,our Yoruba friends should fix their wedding in Owerri or Njikoka

Those in Igboland should do their wedding in Ijebu ode or Abeokuta

The Calabar ones should tie the knot in Kafanchan and the northerners should have their's in Yenegoa.

That's the only way you're guaranteed a small wedding and at the same time see other parts of the nation.

No gate crashers

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yes! cuz we had just 200 ppl at my wedding. the secret is no invitation cards and probably a registry wedding.

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I was in the park on sarutday and i saw the most beautiful, organised and simple wedding i ve seen in Nigeria. Garden wedding started at 4pm finished at 6, less than 50 guest. Am sure bride and groom did not break their bank account to have a "society wedding". Thats my dream wedding.

You can have a small wedding if you do it in a nuetral city, say your family is in lagos and you come to Abuja to get married, you can be sure there will be no uninvited guest.

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is possible but you still have to add at lease 25 or more uninvited guests

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Had less than 50 persons in ma marriage in Naija, the marriage is for both of us and not for the crowd.

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yes it is. i had less than 30people at my weding.I actually wanted about 3people only, but had a bit more than that.i dont like weddings and the fanfare involved, its a bore.luckily i married a man who wanted a small wedding also

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That is so true, I can imagine my folks saying dat, and family also sayin "I av bin to all my friends kids weddin why should my own be different (na momsy they talk dat one d most sha)".

I hope someday, naija would reach a place where u can av a church weddin with those u really want and not necessarily having to go to the registry.

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This is exactly the type of wedding i want to have and then get back home to have a parlour wedding and chops and nothing like an after-party behind me, i already told my family members and my guy has to be ready for it whether he likes it or not.

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never heard of a small Nigerian wedding outside of the marriage registry.

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You can absolutely have 'pocket-size',small wedding here in Nigeria.Now look at it this way,if you set your priority well and know the limit of your purse,will it be better you wedd and go abegging the next morning.Even if you aint going hungry next morning but will have to over-adjust becuase you wedded,wont it be good you wedd small and help your lives positively with the finances you have.

FACT IS THAT WEDDING DOESNT COST MONEY ,WHAT COST MONEY IS THE PARTY AFTER THE WEDDING.SO WHY DONT YOU PARTY TO YOUR SIZE?

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Believe me, it is possible. You just have to enforce it.

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LOL if only things were that simple here in naija, i would have pulled that stunt. if i done that, my parents will prolly say "well,  thats your business, now we're now going to throw a massive wedding ceremony that'll be the talk of the town" trust yoruba people. there's nothing we love than over the top weddings.

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The best thing is not to inform people you are getting married. Just go to the registry with your intended and members of your immediate family.

No one is going to kill you if you tell them "hey, I got married last weekend".

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@Poster,

Yes you can do a small wedding(crowdwise) here is Nigeria,The determining factor is the couple and their immediate families.

A court wedding and a private reception will do the magic.

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I hope for such (less dan 100 guests) kinda weddings in ma own time.

But trust naija nao! After de wedding, comes de begging! But me no send!

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yes you can. But you need to carry your people and his people along.

I've attended weddings of less than 100 people

1, at the registry

2, at a church service (evening service)

3, parlour wedding - just close family and friends.

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i think you can although you might have to do alot of apology to so many people thereafter n thats if parents from both side can respect your desire for a small ceremony.

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yes you can have a small wedding in naija

it all depends on the couples involved

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100 is 2 much.i don't like crowd.family and close friends r enough.

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