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Ladies: Can You Sponsor Your Wedding?

I just saw this advert somewhere and I am wondering if that is a joke or real?

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I don't know what became of them

But it was really very sad.

and the man was heartbroken for a while

The girl pretended to fall in love with him in Nigeria and just used him.When she arrived here for good 2 weeks,she refused to unpack her bags and wouldn't let the man (her husband) touch her.

He thought she was just a virgin that needed time to losen up

for where?

he went to work and Fedex delievered a plane ticket and the girl disappeared

She left him a note and phone records showed she had been communicating the lover man since arrival.

Some women can be very wicked

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I know women can be heartless too, lol.

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well maybe both men and women shld stop going to Sokoto to look for husbands and wives. I believe that the Lord had a plan for me coming here so he has already made provisions for that part of my life. I dont need to look too far for my own "lamb" for the marital sacrifice.

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true. she's prolly calculating the cost of sending him home. and all she stands to lose, all the process she went through for him, all the money she spent blah blah and finally if she leaves him, it there means she will be single again and start over the process of searching all over again.

when desperation clocks in, their ears will be blocked from hearing good advises and their eyes will be blinded from seeing the lies and deception. wetin man go do.

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really? do tell

is she married to the lover now then?

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Morenike.women are just as heartless.

haven't you heard stories of women in Nigeria who have boyfriend's over here that they wish to be with but they use some other person in the guise of marriage to come over to America and immediately desert the husband for their lovers.

It happened to my in law

We kept wondering how the man got this pretty young girl to marry him

nobody knew the girl had other plans and one day the man came back from work and she had left a note and disappeared

The man said the girl didn't even allow him to chop her

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karma is a Dam!

that guy will suffer and he won't get away with such

atrocity. her intentions were good albeit desperate in a way

human beings tend to forget that we live a world where

there is no peace for the wicked.

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Warn your naija brothers o, Osisi

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One other story sef

The man came over but a few months after he impregnated one white chick he met in the bus

He confessed to the wife,now ex wife that all his life he had wanted to sleep with a white woman and have "half caste" kids

He now has 2

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Naturally it is the male bird that prepares a nest and wows the female to it not the other way round.

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u r so right! i know one lady she went home and got married. she paid everything, the whole wedding expense, filed the papers for him to come over, paid the flight ticket, i mean she did everything for this man, just so that she will be among the "married ones" little did she know it's all a hoax from the man and his family. the man's sister even told the brother to make she didn't get pregnant, so when he finally leaves her he wouldn;t have to pay any child support. the marriage is in shambles

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Ahh! Dafid, i can now understand why you reacted the way you did about that young man's story. lol

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It's a little different when a man goes home to marry a wife.

It's a totally different thing if it's the woman going home to find a husband

It just looks wrong

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They just don't understand how hard it is. And no responsible/sensible man would feel right feeding on a woman.

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any man who cannot afford a wedding no matter how small

is not ready to be a husband yet.

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Agaba you should have cautioned this your friend against this sort of contract.

He'll never be a man again.

If his name is Emeka,he is now Amaka.

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I know some doing that right now . . . my brother even surprised me with a similar story this morning. It seems many nigerian women here are not finding nigerian men and are returning to nigeria to marry men they hardly know in increasing numbers. I tire for them! And she was only 25 at worst.

If i had agreed, they would have married me off 4 yrs ago. All they told me i had to do was show up for the wedding since the girl was a banker with an MBA, her own car, apartment and money plus the kicker - US passport. I wasnt ready to go be a girl's plaything for the yrs i'd be in school. Marriage can wait abeg.

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David

It is very sad.

The truth is that the babe is way older and is working. The family is well to do as well. This guy has no job. I think the family promised him a job if he married their daughter.

The drinks for the wedding was bought in the middle of the night before the wedding 'cos they were waiting for the girl's brother to bring money from ABJ

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That story is not unique o

It's become very common

all those single Nigerian nurses are now going home with wedding gown in hand and marrying men and filing papers bringing them over here.

If you know any intimately,you'll feel sorry for the husbands.

Same with some who are not doing much and their wives become nurses and take on the role of a man

Many of them become babysitters while the woman works 3 jobs.

Maybe that's why when their demons double in number,they hack the women to death

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I know someone that sponsored her wedding

She paid for everything

They moved into her apartment

later into her house

he drove her car

She paid for everything

The man later went on to become a high earning professional but the marriage was plagued with problems from the beginning because she who earned the money naturally determined how it was spent.

The man felt emasculated and eventually filed for divorce.

It's not a good idea for a woman to wear the pants in the family from the get go.

I can understand a woman being the provider because the man fell on hard times but being the breadwinner from the marriage's inception is not a good idea.

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David you don't even have to be well padded

The wedding can be simple and within your budget

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Thou shall not corrupt the innocent mind.

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you mean your ajegunle? I've lost count dear.

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Very sad state of affairs . . . one of the reasons i am determined to stay off weddings until my pockets are well padded. I wont stand in-law interference either in my wedding or marriage.

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What I think is right is for the guy to take care of the traditional rights. Then if the babe has some money she can contribute for the white wedding assuming they are doing it. But for a guy to wait for her woman to sponsor their wedding it is not very good.

I witnessed it recently though. I will tell you later

A friend of mine got into it in naija. he refused to tell me about it. He had to use my car as his only contribution to the wedding.

The in laws who were footing the bill were ordering him around.

It was awful.

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For me, it doesn't really matter if I do or don't, I mean it is MY wedding also so it doesn't make him any less of a man if he asks for my input. I do know that my parents would not mind contributing.

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yes the desperation is very true~ once that biological clock start  ticking it's do or die for some.

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Majority of women would say NO.

Why? cuz we ain't that desperate.

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Then why do those who do it do it?

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some can and do sponsor their weddings

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mba oo. if i sponsor it what will the man doing then?

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Never!

Will he also wear the skirt and blouse?

A man ought to be a man abeg

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