Who pays for the wedding? The Groom or the Bride's family?
I´m getting married in 6 days in Nigeria. I am Irish & in our tradition it should be my father that pays for the wedding day but i would not feel right asking either him or my mum to splash out their hard earned cash on a party. His parent could not afford it either so i definitely wouldnt ask them. I am initally paying for our day (as i earn a lot more than my boyfriend) as he is SUPPOSED to be paying me back, however we are keeping it to family & close friends so the cost will be much less than if we got married in my home country.
Even if he wanted to pay for it all (yeah right!) i would feel bad & offer to apy for at least some of it - maybe im a fool but thats just my way!
Nothing like the grooms family, its the responsibility of the groom. If you can't take care of your wedding then you are not worthy to have one.
Once your family takes responsibility of it have it at the back of your mind that they will somehow want to interfare in many things you will have to do with your wify. The Groom and the bride chose their standard and not the standard of both family. Its our wedding and our parents can't tell us who to invite and who not to.
Why can't we be independent for once?
Well I dont know about that, but I think culture comes into play in all these things. In the Yoruba Culture, I think its the Bride's family but for the Ibos, I know its the groom's family. Infact I've seen cases where weddings has been below standard of the bride's family because the groom's family refused to be asissted. Its their responsibility and most men prefer to leave it that way.
Dosent mean the bride/or her family cant help if their help is required, but basically, a white wedding is the groom's responsibility in Ibo land.
Is it not awkward for your family to get involved financially in your wedding.
It should be you and you alone as par the finance, ur bride can contribute out of her own magnanimity.
Believe it or not when your family get involved your bride won't like how the organisation will go cuz
orders will be coming from all angle after all its family/community effort.
Engagement ceremony -
Venue - bride's house - should be arranged by the bride.
Food - bride's family - groom's family can optionally bring additional food and drink to support.
Wedding reception -
Venue - to be decided by both bride and groom and mutual agreement reached on how to split the bill or how a single party will foot the bill depending on fiancial standing
Food - groom's family - supported by bride's family (typically both parties provide food to ensure that their guests do not go home hungry)
Anything after wedding reception.
This is my understanding of the yoruba tradition.
It's not Yoruba culture. They do it in the "West" too. Some parents have separate account JUST for the expenses of the daughter's wedding. Its showing to the "world" the "level" the daughter is coming from.
Better than bankrupting the dude from the beginning. Let him use his money for the honeymoon and house.
depends on the tribe/culture, think the groom in igbo/ibo culture but the bride's family in a yoruba wedding,the groom usually supports though if the bride's family is not financially buoyant and most times the groom's family throw a party of their own and in addittion the groom pays for his suit and the wedding gown,wedding and engagement rings