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Who pays for the wedding? The Groom or the Bride's family?

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I´m getting married in 6 days in Nigeria. I am Irish & in our tradition it should be my father that pays for the wedding day but i would not feel right asking either him or my mum to splash out their hard earned cash on a party. His parent could not afford it either so i definitely wouldnt ask them. I am initally paying for our day (as i earn a lot more than my boyfriend) as he is SUPPOSED to be paying me back, however we are keeping it to family & close friends so the cost will be much less than if we got married in my home country.

Even if he wanted to pay for it all (yeah right!) i would feel bad & offer to apy for at least some of it - maybe im a fool but thats just my way!

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As a man you are responsible for it. If you think the family is responsible, what in a situation where your family did not approve your bride. Will they still be responsible for your wedding? You family can only help in that case they are not responsible for it.

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I think both should be responsible for the wedding. Both the White and Traditional wedding could run from $15,000 - $40,000.

I think the bride and her family should  definitely give a helping hand.

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Nothing like the grooms family, its the responsibility of the groom. If you can't take care of your wedding then you are not worthy to have one.

Once your family takes responsibility of it have it at the back of your mind that they will somehow want to interfare in many things you will have to do with your wify. The Groom and the bride chose their standard and not the standard of both family. Its our wedding and our parents can't tell us who to invite and who not to.

Why can't we be independent for once?

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Well I dont know about that, but I think culture comes into play in all these things. In the Yoruba Culture, I think its the Bride's family but for the Ibos, I know its the groom's family. Infact I've seen cases where weddings has been below standard of the bride's family because the groom's family refused to be asissted. Its their responsibility and most men prefer to leave it that way.

Dosent mean the bride/or her family cant help if their help is required, but basically, a white wedding is the groom's responsibility in Ibo land.

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From what I have seen and experienced, the richer side usually foots the bill. If both families are rich then both families usually try to out do each other.

Personally, I think the responsibility should fall on both the bride and the groom. Not their families.

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Is it not awkward for your family to get involved financially in your wedding.

It should be you and you alone as par the finance, ur bride can contribute out of her own magnanimity.

Believe it or not when your family get involved your bride won't like how the organisation will go cuz

orders will be coming from all angle after all its family/community effort.

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i will agree on that.

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i will agree on that.

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Engagement ceremony -

Venue - bride's house - should be arranged by the bride.

Food - bride's family - groom's family can optionally bring additional food and drink to support.

Wedding reception -

Venue - to be decided by both bride and groom and mutual agreement reached on how to split the bill or how a single party will foot the bill depending on fiancial standing

Food - groom's family - supported by bride's family (typically both parties provide food to ensure that their guests do not go home hungry)

Anything after wedding reception.

Groom's family.

This is my understanding of the yoruba tradition.

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I thought its the bride's family that fund the weeding with the support of the groom.

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It depends on who wants to foot the bills, not gender specific.

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Again me

and me alone

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The ex-boyfriend and the ex-girlfriend!!

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it is but dont say it everytime there is an argument

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Isn't that a fact??

Men pay the brideprice. . . . .

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It's not Yoruba culture. They do it in the "West" too. Some parents have separate account JUST for the expenses of the daughter's wedding. Its showing to the "world" the "level" the daughter is coming from.

Better than bankrupting the dude from the beginning. Let him use his money for the honeymoon and house.

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And that is how it should be really.

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depends on the tribe/culture, think the groom in igbo/ibo culture but the bride's family in a yoruba wedding,the groom usually supports though if the bride's family is not financially buoyant and most times the groom's family throw a party of their own and in addittion the groom pays for his suit and the wedding gown,wedding and engagement rings

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I thought It should be the father of the bride, I guess that is only tradition.

Hmm, I'll have a think sha.

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By all means, it has to be the GROOM.

I won't take a penny from the bride's family for ma wedding whether they like it or not.

Only men with bras would allow such.

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Its the richer family joor. Whether bride or groom.

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The groom. Last time I checked Nigerians ain't Indians.

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I fink it's the bride

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I've always heard it's the bride's family. Everyone knows that. In reality though, the family who's organizing the majority of the wedding pays for the wedding.

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