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Adultery: Man or (Married) Woman - who is to blame?

Man or Woman, who is to blame?

Take a sample: The man knowing to him she is married and yet took her to bed, or the woman who sneaks her way out to bed another man.

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Come to think of it, we are humans but once in a while the urge surfaces.What i will say in this case is that the blame is 50/50.The Bible says,"SURELY YOU WILL BE TEMPTED BUT YIELDING TO THE TEMPTATION IS THE PROBLEM". When the urge came why do they not remember they are both married.

Most young girls dresses to make men unconfortable.But in a situation where a young is upseting you with her dressing try to put it straight to her and shun her or correct her.As a married man,its ur responsibility to control everything in you and around you.Therefore,when a young makes advances towards you,you have every right to say NO or rebuff it.

Why would a woman tempt one to that extent knowing well she married.

Its a difficult situation but bothhave blames on this.

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Both, God does not distinguish between who commits the sin.

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no sex without a woman!

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My dear Nairalanders, we are talkin about married men - single women likewise married women - single men. I strongly believe both are to be blamed, they're both adults who knows the difference between wrong and right. It does not matter wether the man or woman does the wooing. Every decision comes with a consequence.

Peace out

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The woman.

She is the one who promised faithfulness. Even though morally they are both way wrong.

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It takes two to tango!

Both parties are to blame.

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loombuc, both of 'em are guilty. its a simple thing and common sense. there's no need to dilly dally about it.

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@ SEUN

If there are no issues with infidelity we will all become  lesser Animals like (HE) GOAT and father will sleep with daughter, mother with son, friends with their friends wife. everybody will queue to sleep with each other etc It is licence for chaos and anarchy. God is God of order. imagine if we can posts whatver we like on this site without you having to edit it. some people will say offensive things and there will be war. so infidelity rules/law is a very good thing by God. He knew how the world will react  without those restrictions. You will not have what you can call your own.

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Whoever start to ask a married person for affairs is more guilty. If the other person don't know they are married then they are not guilty. If both parties are married then they are equally both guilty.

In any event whoever is guilty or not guilty, Adultery is not good for many many reasons

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It's not a very hard question

Answer is:

Both

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I no say na wa. But na true i talk.

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erm.. The woman. She defiled her matrimonial home. The dude ain't to be blamed, he ain't married....although they are both wrong.

na Bible cause all these things oo..if to say bible no come life....adultery and furnication won't be a problem.

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the woman is to blame there is no two ways about it

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I will disagree with this opinion.

Man makes the move in most occasions why will that woman not reject it outrightly?

And in rare occasions women also initiate it, so why should that man fall a prey?

I blame both sexes, i.e the woman and the man.

There is power in No!

Say it and mean it.

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Everyone should take responsibility of their own actions.God has given us the power to make our own choices.We even have the power to decide if we want to believe in Him or not.Our actions are a result of the choices we make.

The men should be blamed for asking the married women to commit adultery,but it ends there.Now if the woman decides to agree,then she takes her own share of the blame for agreeing.

So its 50/50.

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Well everybody has been saying 50/50 but if we take it from this dimension of the MEN, don't you think they had the larger share of the blame say 70/30?. why? because I think according to the African mentality men are those who always do the wooing, but nowadays women had gotten the courage of wooing men. Yes no big deal, but it sound uncultured.

So if the men can a little bit close their eyes off this so called married women, I think it will assist the trend coming down, even at the point at which they were being disturbed by one woman or the other.

The women on their part had less blame because biblically men suppose to protect and directs their wives, so any women in this act would have lack the good treatment she needs from the so called husband of hers, therefore they receive less blame. Though there are some set that even if their husband is a millionaire and they were pampered like a day old baby, they will still be on the look out because of their upbringing.

So guys thats my view or what do you still think?

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who is to blame...of course the two partners

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Why is infidelity taken so seriously?

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SURLY the two are to be blame, no one is to be free.

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Whichever case: unmarried woman with a married man or married woman with an unmarried man, it still is adultery and both are to blame, cos they both willingly and consciously indulged in such act.

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i think itz both of them, if the guy knows and went to her he's wrong and for the married woman to accept him she's also wrong.

unless she was Molested, then thatz not adultery

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Aidy,

You said 50/50 fine!, but what if the MEN let go of these so called married WOMEN, don't you think it will help? or on the other way round , the women being married to say just simple NO when disturbed.

The word SNEAKED used is to stress the fact that she is married for God's sake.

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Man or Woman, who is to be blamed. tricky, tricky, tricky...........tell you what. In my humble opinion, both is to be blamed. Reason being that both have equal responsibilty to make the right decision. I disagree with you for using the word"Sneak" on the woman's part. I think that's highly chauvinistic. Becos if you really wanna think about it both of them are involved in a clandestine affair that should not be flaunted. Anyways here my take 50/50. I rest my case.

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Man or Woman, who is to be blamed. tricky, tricky, tricky...........tell you what. In my humble opinion, both is to be blamed. Reason being that both have equal responsibilty to make the right decision. I disagree with you for using the word"Sneak" on the woman's part. I think that's highly chauvinistic. Becos if you really wanna think about it both of them are involved in a clandestine affair that should not be flaunted. Anyways here my take 50/50. I rest my case.

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