I need your candid advice. I am really confused, I am 26yrs old and i have this guy I love so Much He has been the only guy in my life since I was 20 he always tell he loves me but he is not emotional. Ie, He doesn't call me unless there is something serious he doesn't believe in social calls. He has not bought anything for me since the relationship started, anyway, I understand he was in school at a time I even support Him financially because am the last and He is the first in his family so I get from my bros and support him whenever he complained. But now the issue is that I feel I love him more because he calls me when he needs something from me and whenever I complain he tells me he is not emotional but he loves me.
Now he got a job with Mobil and has proposed to me. But am not comfortable with his "I don't care" attitude at all. That has been problem with him. Meanwhile he has everything I would need in a guy, very intelligent , handsome, loves God, and neat but emotionally he is =0 even when am sick in the hospital I will be the one calling to tell him how am doing.
But recently a guy I knew in my church we were friends both in choir nothing more than that. After He finished law school got visa lottery traveled to the states. He came home after we met in church he collected my Cell phone No. and has been calling me and has made friends with all my family members he calls them and calls me more than five times a day and we talk for hrs sometimes. He just told me last week that he is in love and would want to come this Dec. to propose and other things might follow he just got his citizenship and will want to settle down and he wants someone he knows from home.
The two people now have common personalities, same profession, handsome, God fearing not same tribe with me. But the first has a character that my family don't want because of the way he carries himself they see him as an arrogant person. My dad once told me that that arrogant boy will have nothing to do with his family. But the truth is that I love him. But this second person, my family loves him always saying good things about him though they don't know his intention yet but I know they will all accept him when his intention is known.
Am beginning to compare I can tell u that the second person is more caring always calling I don't even call him, sending gifts sending his people to come and check on me and know how am doing and he is damn worried whenever an down. But the main man is always on the receiving side I do the calls, the visit, and he keeps telling me he is in love and will do everything to have me. My guy is is 30 this yr and the other person is 35. My friends tell me he will one day mature the other person is more matured thats why he know what to do.
Ladies!!!!!!!! Please if you are in my shoes what will you do and guys in the house just read my story carefully and tell me who will make a good husband. because am a sensitive person I need peace security and love,