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Am I Turning Gay Or It's Just 'sisterly' Instincts?

Hi house,

I am really inquisitive to know what's going on with me. I don't know which section to post it so I just posted it here.

Well, for the past few weeks, i have noticed that i continually yearn to be with this friend of mine, to protect her and be near her in anuything she's passing thru. I've known her for like 2 years, we're both instrumentalist in my church and we've grown to be as close as sisters. She's like the sister I never had.

This certain urge is baffling and i don't know what to think? So that's why I want to find out from you what you think. Is this an indication that I've got gay tendencies or it's just agape?

Your feedback is needed ASAP. Thanks alot.

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You are turning gay. . .

Thats how they start and then they turn round to say they were born that way.

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If you cannot picture yourself having sexual intercourse with her or any other female, I don't think you are gay. You just love your friend a lot which is not a crime.

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OMG!! Don't listen to them!! YOU'RE NOT GAY!!

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You don't need to worry. I am sure if she was your actual sister, you wouldn't think any of it.

For now accept it as a true care and sisterly love for another human being. This is the way we should all be towards each other.

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U r not gay. Once, in my early 20s I was friends with 2 girls who were both very nice and very pretty. I had never felt so "drawn" to any girls. I had no sexual feelings, just an urge to be close to these 2 friends. I think I just admired them greatly. They were both pretty, intelligent and had great personalities. I went on with my studies and the fascination passed. I think I just wanted to be more like them both.

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Well. . . since u havnt proceeded in doing anything silly, then work on urself and re-address ur relationship into something healthy. I dont believe anyone is born gay. Just work on urself.

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that is abnormal if you think about this all the time.

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@davidylan,

And you think so because . . ? I mean you have to justify your answer if you're gonna help me out here.

@agaba123,

The 'erm' is kinda insignificant. Just a word that I'm used to.

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There is a 'but' in the errm that precedes your answers.

You are pining for her girl.

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Erm. . Sexually intimate? No

It's just this weird thing about staring into her eyes and giving her cuddles at the time. Most times, we hardly even have any conversations cuz all I can think about is how gorgeous she is and how 'beautyful' her smile is and how innocent her heart is.

That's why I can't help but fret at what is going on.

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Then you're not a lesbian. I'm not sure why you'll question yourself though.

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Erm. . sexually intimate? Not

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Depends if your feelings for her are of love of a sexual nature or love of a sisterly nature.

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Have you ever had thoughts of being sexually intimate with her?

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