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Are Marriage Vows Difficult To Uphold?

In the past, the blame lay at the feet of the male. They were always the cheats, and always found breaking the sacred rules of matrimony. These days, with technology and all what nots, both sexes are found wanting. Especially women who now cheat on their families with reckless abandon and disregard for consequences.

Perhaps, the age old wedding vows/rules should be revisited and tweaked because it seems apparent that humans are not monogamous by nature.

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marriage is meant for matured minds and it has a key word which is LOVE. If truly you love your partner from the depth of your mind you should be able to uphold your marriage vows. http:///9dW18q

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It is clear that we are in the end times. Nobody has respect for God's Laws anymore.

Nobody said it would be easy! Temptations will always be there/. Jesus was tempted in the wilderness but He overcame it.

The Bible says that You would not be given any temptation that you cannot handle. However we are humans and make errors all the time.

People have become too selfish and self absorbed, that is why marriage vows are hard to keep. No self restraint and discipline.

I am unmarried but im not the kind of person that wants to taste every fruit on the tree. When I love someone I want to be exclusively his and him to exclusively mine.

I am beginning to lose hope in society and in this generation. The immorality is just too much and people are not even ashamed.

Sin is now something people are proud of and boast about. Just go to the romance section and you will see how people are flaunting their fornication, infidelity, promiscuity, abortions, and all sorts

May God have mercy on us all o!

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Well,if the couple puts a great deal of effort into it,I suppose it shoudnt be much of a problem.

Communication,understanding and long-suffering are key tenents without a doubt.

On the hand,eating the same pie everyday requires a lot of sexual discipline and 'burning the flesh' competely.

Pause for a thought,if u are with ur acclaimed Mr/Mrs Right why would wanna break the vows u cherish

I think compatibility is highly essential here thou.

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why get married if the seduction is too much?

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Shanda, Spike no yab you na. Not being marriage material is not an insult. She's just commending you for your honesty.

@topic. The trick is to try to vow only the things you can uphold and not try to uphold the things you vow.

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You are correct not universally accepted but only by those who do not want the truth.  One day they'd be sorry they didn't.  You see, anyone can embrace which ever manual they choose.

Surely, whether you and others accepted him or not its' irrelevant however there's no escape, you will meet him on the judgement day - like it or not, you will.  At least, these two manuals embrace this belief there's going to be judgement on the last day.  So, there's no escape for the unbelievers! 

Therefore, I urge you to be ready to meet him with your 10 wives/15 concubines and having received your rewards, blame it on Abraham.  To you, Abraham took 2 wives therefore, it's normal and life must go on for this generation.

But, under what circumstances did that happen? Was it what God intended? In the Christian manual, Genesis 21:12 confirmed God's intention on this matter and we accept God's will.  Didn't you see how it all ended up? Hagar and Ishmael were sent packing as the full authority of God manifested in the birth of Isaac (the true heir and God's intended first son of Abraham) and the complete word of God stood fast. 

Why and how did it all happen?  Impatience and lack of faith on the part of Sarah!  Satan took advantage of her weakness and got into the family - by penetrating her defences urging her to give her maid to her husband so that they could have an heir. 

Sarah, being a loved wife was able to convince her husband of her good ideas and because Abraham would do anything for his wife, he succumbed to Sarah's point of view and Ishmael was born as first son. That wasn't God's intention - that Ishmael should bear the crown of Abraham - no!  God intended Isaac through Sarah to be Abraham's heir - and God established it irrespective of satan's activities.

So as you can see, a first wife, will always be first and a second wife will always play second fiddle, period.  Reason being, they are thieves - there's no joy in stealing another woman's husbands. No joy!

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Why should you make vows you can't uphold ? I can't make such cos I know I'm definitely gonna cheat on whoever I end up with. I don't deceive myself.

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No. If entered with sincerity.

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I think women need to understand the dynamics of the sexual / emotional / romantic desires of a man, they need to stop living in fool's paradise and come to terms with reality. And I don't believe it is exactly the same for women, women's sexual drive greatly diminishes as they age, but a man's own slightly diminishes even at 100 years old.

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WORD! I wish I could afford not to get married, but my mama go kill me (first-son). Lol. Seriously though, if she was not in the picture, I would quite easily decide not to get married, have a child out of wedlock with a woman that does not want to be tied down either, and we will remain friends afterwards for as long as we like/can tolerate each other.

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I think there are some vows that should no be made like till death do us part, for better for worse.

My first marriage was a nightmare, a total disaster. I wish I had had the sense to run away much faster. I would have spared myself years of agony and humiliation. I think it is so terrible when one is scared to leave a marriage because of family or societal pressures, even worse when one stays because one has no where to go. Even after so many years I am still traumatised.

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Obviously, marriage vows are not difficult to uphold and how could they when in a monogamous relationship what's yours, is your wife's and hers yours too? But, who said it is anyway, aside satan and his agents who have been putting selfish and evil thoughts in peoples minds? 

And, with the fear of God in you, why would that be difficult? Think, think and think when you go about violating your marriage vow remember, one day you will be answerable to God Almighty in Heaven.  Don't ever forget that!

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when was society not decadent?  it's only broadcasted more now.

you think prostitution and the likes just started 10 years ago? cassanova was born 20 years ago?

larry flint and hugh hefner are older than the internet

humanity does that easily. we have gone from worshiping sango and amadiorha to worshiping jesus and Allah in a matter of a few generations. gods change over time. Is polygamy a God made law, folks like Abraham and solomon had no problem having concubines.

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Yes, they are becoming more and more difficult to uphold because the society we live in is becoming more and more morally decadent, wat with the internet and globalization.

No, marital vows should not be reviewed, because they CANNOT be reviewed. They are God made laws and are as old as creation itself. Except we want to change God too.

I think the topic of this post shld have been- How can we reduce infidelity in our society?

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Marriage vow is the simplest vow to uphold if you follow the administrator's manual (The Bible)

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The whole Marriage shebang self looks like one is going to a prison in commuist Siberia

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You wan marry somebody ni, Spikie? Marriage vows are not the problem jare. It is the vowers, lol. I won't make a vow I won't keep. How many women don't cross their fingers when it comes to the , for poorer part?

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The truth is a larger number of married couples have cheated on their partner compared to those that haven't yet. It has always being like that. If our great grand parents were today, they will probably say they asked the same questions during their time. Forget technology and fashion, it has always being like this. Deep down, man is polygamus by nature.

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Because marriage vows are difficult to uphold does not mean that wedded couples should not uphold those vows, for to act otherwise is an implicit acknowledgment that the putative wedded couple who failed to uphold the marriage vows is incapable of rising over difficult challenges. And to the faint-hearted, do not get married, for marriage, by its very nature, presents challenges and is for the brave at heart; that is to say, if you are not ready for marriage, or if you know you cannot keep your marriage vows, please do yourself, and your putative spouse, a favor by not getting married.

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The only aspect of marriage vow not easy to uphold is to remain faithful to each other from my experience.

Loving and caring for each other for the rest of your lives can be upheld.

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Decide on who gets custody and both parties contribute financially to the upkeep

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Marriage vows won't be that difficult to uphold if the people going into marriage know what they are getting themselves into.

You have to really understand what being married means and be ready to fight for it.

Sadly, a lot of men and women just get married for the heck of it. . . it could be to have children or to be more accepted in the society

Whatever the case is. . Just like anything in life. . one has to be wise about these things.

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if u are correct then it mean that women are just taking after their men

but the way i see it people are not marring fr what marriage is worth but for certain other reason s cos their ought not to be problem

anything worth doing is worth doing well

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Thank God the poster is not blaming only men as most females would do.

I agree people get married because thats what the society expect from people of certain ages. And this is not limited to Nigeria its all over the world

The marriage thing is overrated self. Why would someone want to be with/fork just 1 person for 50yrs when we have over 6 billion people in the world.

maybe open marriages should be it or renewable marriages where you decide every 2 yrs if you want to continue or not

WHy would you want to hang around married men?

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Firstly, let me say after reading through all comments, I can say most posters are not married. And yes the christian marital vow is difficult to uphold infact almost impossible to uphold. But people to ashamed to come out to say the truth; I can boldly say 90% of men can't  maintain a single sexual relationship for more that 15 years, they are bound to cut corners; The reasons are simple: outside indiscipline, men want spontaneity, adventure and unpredictability. Something that will be very difficult for one woman to continue to provide over an extended period of time. We just need to come to terms with reality and stop deceiving ourselves.

This is not to say one cannot have a happy married life; definitely there is nothing as good as a good wife, it comes with his challenges and they are summontable. It is that sex part that is really the issue, and promiscuity, and bad dressing being permitted in our society today is not helping matters.

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Regardless of who you are married to, Vows are hard to keep to, both men and woman are faced with temptations.

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the present generation cant seem to uphold the marriage vow. [size=8pt]reasons we are yet to come up with [/size]

why cant we go back to the days of old (marraige wise though) where everything isnt money based.

we have cases (in those days ) where a mother brings a spouse and they have lived together for many years happily.

can that work today?

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The problem with marriage is not keeping the vow, but marrying with wrong motive.

1. Marrying a rich spouse not because of love but b/c of the money, so if the money finishes, then to your tent oh Israel.

2.Force marriage by parents.Minister child must marry a minister child etc.

3. Frustration as a result of getting old and not yet married. So you get married to any available person.

All these will make people not to think well before jumping into marriage and when they find that it is me and your till death do us apart. Wahala will come.

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Sincerely, if you do not have Christ and the power of the

Holy Ghost working in you, the probability that one will

misbehave is 99%.

The first thing is Salvation.

Thereafter, renewing of the mind by studying the Word of God

Then fervent and undiluted prayers according to revelation of the scriptures

Then, check the kinds of friends you mingle with.

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Marriage is what you make out of it. Before getting married you need to ask yourself some questions important ones for that matter so that you won't get the wrong picture about marriage. You should be mentally, spiritually, physically, emotionally mature to venture into this great institution.

Marriage vows are not difficult to uphold if you are married to the right one.Its not just saying the vows on your wedding day that matters its keeping them and making sure you abide by them if you are in love with the person you got married to.

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For the Christian believer, the rules of marriage (and the attendant blessings) are biblical and therefore unchangeable.

God's principles do not change. He is the same yesterday, today and forever. Unconditional love is (should be) the foundation

of relationships - with spouses, siblings, colleagues, politicians etc. Until you can truly decide that your role in a persons life is

1) to love him/her in spite of him/her and 2), to help him/her become the best person they can possibly be, you are not ready to marry that person.

Tough principles - I am still learning to accept this.

Human beings, after all, are flawed, and prone to sin, selfishness and stubbornness.

@spikedcylinder - be encouraged. You will make mistakes, but go to God first in everything.

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This seems like "Why do we marry" Part II

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We should all pray to God for guidiance and protection from Temptation of women that are everywhere, office,church,school market places, the kind of seductive dresses they put on. They now prefer married men, even men of God survive by the grace of God. May God help us.

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I think our generation is missing the concept behind the institution of marriage, Marriage is a beutiful thing created by God and if done according to the manual then it will be well with us. Marriage is not a prison or a bondage ground, but this new generation have been polluted with all sorts of thrash that we have taken for granted the beautiful institution of marriage. yes the vows are difficult to uphold becuase we live in a sinful world but it is not impossible to uphold them.If it was impossible, God would not have endorsed it.

Marriage is not finding the perfect person but knowing that your husband/wife is nothing but a wonderful, lovable sinner.

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Spit it out. Is your wife cheating on you?

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To me, marriage vows are not difficult to uphold, at least from personal experience.

However, it is seemingly difficult to uphold because a lot of people go into marriages with little or no knowledge of what they are about to go into.

Some married people have failed to draw the line between bachelorhood/spinsterhood and their present status. This is where the challenges start from. There MUST a clear demarcation in all ramifications, including the company one keeps because it starts from there.

It almost ruined my marriage when i married newly. I had some football granitic friends that i could just part with. I would abandon my wife at home to watch matches with my friends outside, whereas same matches were shown live in our satellite TV at home. It got to a point when my friends started introducing me to some daughters of Eve, it was at that point that i had to take a decision to withdraw from them and save my marriage.

So, is all about knowing what one is going into and knowing when to draw the line.

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Then lets take sharia law serious. May be it will reduce the unfaithfulness rate.

Or there should be instant judgment on such individual who has broken the vow.

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E no Easy Abei, you can pray to God for Divine Mercy and Grace to Overcome.

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What are the marriage vows that are difficult to keep?

Then my question to poster?

1. Should abortion be legalized b/c some people get pregnant and don't want the baby.

2. Should we remove don't commit adultery from the commandment b/c people can't obey it?

3. can we legalize bribe by police b/c police are taking bride.

Thanks

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I think it will be good if couples can stick with the old rules, considering the rate of divorce these days.

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Depends on the agreement between the couple and the couple themselves.

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marriage- no b by fire or by force

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yes o its quite difficult to uphold

temptations left, right n centre

dats y u need Gods guidance to see it thru

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