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Are Men Really Scarce Or Rare For Marriage?

Most times I hear ladies say that men are scarce or rare this days as regards to getting married or being ready to do like that, but what still baffles me is that their are alot of single men out their looking for women to get married to.

Or what do you think is actually the problem? Abeg make una jist me Ooo.

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^^^^Please stop insulting women. . .even at their worst, you can't compare.

Thank you.

Lmao!! What happened to you? What Dastardly deeds put you on the banned list?

I'm trying my best oh but these women are so stubborn. It's woman right this, equality that. . .they are just so taken with the notion that they are human beings with feelings and genuine thoughts of their own. I don't know how to rid them of that nonsense idea. Sigh!!!

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Men and women alike should be very scared of getting married especially to the wrong person. when u are dating ur bf/gf you don't really know them till u get married, get behind close door, and then all character get loss. no one want to take the chance of spending that long life commitment with someone that is not right for them.

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There is nothing wrong for the woman to chose comfort, however, i have a problem with a woman that has no job and yet insist that he has to marry a man that has this and that, i think the woman ought to bring something to the table and complete one another.

Although, if the man can afford it, nothing wrong in the man take care of it all oh, but women needs to be real and at least have something to offer and not just walk into the house with nothing and some couple of ghana must go and wanna live like maddam

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It supprises me when men complain about women prefering a man that would at least make them comfortable,

Men choose women if they are fine, have the right body and figure, botty size and all sorts

So why cant a woman also choose. Why is her basis for choosing now looked down upon.

Personally my hussy aint rich but he aint hungry and its good enough for me, i did not suffer in my fathers house so i cannot marry to go and suffer.

If your sis were to bring in someone you think is not responsible or cnat at least feed her, wount you discourage her,

Guys get real

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how have you been and how is everyone? you see how you have failed to educate despite the huge budget. i feel sad reading some nigerian women.

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Absolutely yes and well blessed too, for that matter you know.  For he who lives in a GLASS HOUSE must not throw stones.  A married woman should remain in her marriage and look no where else so should a married man.  There is ONLY one law in the Bible against this behaviour for both men and women and men keeps breaching it all the times.  Based on the Bible teachings, it's only this ACT of unfaithfulness that a man or woman could cite as an authority for DIVORCING their partners yet, men keeps breaching it and getting away with it all the time.  So, it about time women catch up!  And for those women who could DO IT, in RETALIATION of their husbands selfish/disregard for marriage - as shown by their continuous and uninhibited exposition of affairs with  other women, to them I say, more grease to your elbow.  At least their husbands would now understand how it feels to be hurt.  You see, a head cutter never likes his/her own head cut and, that's true!  Men are the most selfish animal in this world.  To hurt them back after several pleadings to change their ways, women have to RUB THEIR NOSES IN IT AND RUB IT HARD then, and only then, would men understand the hurt the entire family is EXPERIENCING because of their selfishness.  Maybe, they would change their ways however, chronic CASSANOVAS would never change so, kick their A-SES as you can do much better without their STRESSES!

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Absolutely yes and well blessed too, for that matter you know.  For he who lives in a GLASS HOUSE must not throw stones.  A married woman should remain in her marriage and look no where else so should a married man.  There is ONLY one law in the Bible against this behaviour for both men and women and men keeps breaching it all the times.  Based on the Bible teachings, it's only this ACT of unfaithfulness that a man or woman could cite as an authority for DIVORCING their partners yet, men keeps breaching it and getting away with it all the time.  So, it about time women catch up!  And for those women who could DO IT, in RETALIATION of their husbands selfish/disregard for marriage - as shown by their continuous and uninhibited exposition of affairs with  other women, to them I say, more grease to your elbow.  At least their husbands would now understand how it feels to be hurt.  You see, a head cutter never likes his/her own head cut and, that's true!  Men are the most selfish animal in this world.  To hurt them back after several pleadings to change their ways, women have to RUB THEIR NOSES IN IT AND RUB IT HARD then, and only then, would men understand the hurt the entire family is EXPERIENCING because of their selfishness.  Maybe, they would change their ways however, chronic CASSANOVAS would never change so, kick their A-SES as you can do much better without their STRESSES!

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Absolutely yes and well blessed too, for that matter you know.  For he who lives in a GLASS HOUSE must not throw stones.  A married woman should remain in her marriage and look no where else so should a married man.  There is ONLY one law in the Bible against this behaviour for both men and women and men keeps breaching it all the times.  Based on the Bible teachings, it's only this ACT of unfaithfulness that a man or woman could cite as an authority for DIVORCING their partners yet, men keeps breaching it and getting away with it all the time.  So, it about time women catch up!  And for those women who could DO IT, in RETALIATION of their husbands selfish/disregard for marriage - as shown by their continuous and uninhibited exposition of affairs with  other women, to them I say, more grease to your elbow.  At least their husbands would now understand how it feels to be hurt.  You see, a head cutter never likes his/her own head cut and, that's true!  Men are the most selfish animal in this world.  To hurt them back after several pleadings to change their ways, women have to RUB THEIR NOSES IN IT AND RUB IT HARD then, and only then, would men understand the hurt the entire family is EXPERIENCING because of their selfishness.  Maybe, they would change their ways however, chronic CASSANOVAS would never change so, kick their A-SES as you can do much better without their STRESSES!

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This, coming from a supposedly married woman, is shocking.

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i think there are many reasons for men being scared of marriage,u see a woman can bring a man down in life,and a woman can also bring a man up in life,havent u heard of the saying "behinde every succesfull man there is a woman"i also say behinde every unsuccesfull man there is a woman"honestly women are very powerfull in a mans life so i cant blame some men 4 runing away o

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And what if the man never feel anything with all that being done.

What if the man is even willing to drive the woman to the slaughter house.

I am not supporting a man doing bad, but never support the idea of 2 wrongs making a right either

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guys are not scarce but guys are scarce for marriage. i know loads of girls that want to get married but can't. because there are no guys to get married to.

Guys why are you scared of getting married?

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I agree with Sir Kay he has said it all there are only few responsible men out there and like wise women!! Only few of them, especially some ladies that are after money i can hardly imagine marriage now depends on POCKET WEIGHT!!

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yeah. i am one of them

and right now i know of 5 girls that'll jel if i just say the M word.

they can't understand that i won't sacrifice my goals for marriage. any gal that can't fit into my plans can go.

this decision is for the greater good

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i no believe say men scarce, the problem be say everybody has negative motive in any relationship and the truth is scarce

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C'mon now, why cant u marry a struggling man? Is it not better to work together and enjoy together? Even tho mine wasn't like that but i wouldnt have minded if i am in love.

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I wish i knew cos am married but i do know that most women r too too picky, i have a few friends like that. I was a little picky but i asked GOD for wha i wanted and i gat it. So if u r religious just ask and u shall recieve. Amen? Amennnnnnnnnnnnn !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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We are. The reason being, while it is acceptable to marry a struggling woman, it really is not right to marry a struggling man.

So, while they are not a shortage of guys per se, there is definitely a shortage of guys that are marriage material. The rest of the guys are just losers and therefore will not be considered by any woman that has any interest in not dieing wretched.

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(wow, so i guess if women just went back to being sweet, gentle and submissive, men would be happy again, and there would be less divorces ehn? just wondering, )

i dont believe men are scarce neither do i agree that women need go back to being gentle ********** , marriage is a two way thing, divorce is a product of two coconut heads especially a bigger head by the stubborn bullish man called men.

women go on and be ya selves, dont bend for any man!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Marriageable men are scarce because the economy does not encourage the youth to be self sufficient. Young ladies i am readily available and seriously searching for the right partner

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@Grafikdon, what about the guy she jilted after their traditional wedding ?

And the girl herself, what is she doing now ? How about her family, what are they saying now ?

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Men Scarce No way. We are just wising up and living life to the fullest be4 marriage.

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Duplicate post.

my bad.

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men, scarce? nope

scarce for marriage? they are still 'playing' and 'catching ' fun

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This is a wonderful topic considering the age we live.

To be able to understand the situation very deeply, we must recognize the fact that the generation before us did not show us a good model to follow.

Women are not to blame.

Men (depending on their perpective) are the bread winner so they must act as one.

Women need to be taken care of so they sought for such.

I wonder which generations experienced what we see in the movies as a wonderful marriage but marrital issues have been since the world was created.

The marriages that last are those built on Jesus- those with the maturity to recognize selflessness.

My submission - Women are not to blame because they dont want unbaked men, the inherent human selfishness is operating so what do you think? Men also wait long because the same selfishness operates within their soul- they are scared of letting go of the little they have.

Men and women are scared of letting go of their inherent selfishness. So nobody is to blame.

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That is obvious considering the level of materialism of most Naija babes.The want ready made guys.Men now prefer to have enough dough before marriage.some work till they are 40 years or more before thinking of marriage.Nigerian babes needs change of heart!

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I don't blame guys for seeing it as payback time when they eventually achieve some level of comfort and refuse to get married, playing the women like a deck of cards instead.

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I dont think men are scarce, but the problem is with the fact that getting a realiable, responsible and committed men are the issues. Many men out there are for nothing more than going to bed with ladies and so far this is done, definitely the so called ladies are viewed as useless bedmates.

Let ladies give themselves the needed respect and you'ld see that men will treat them with respect too and hold them in high esteem. Some ladies also are not serious to me, insincerity has taken over, with the mind of aiming to be what you are not, I mean looking for ready made big men, ready to spend money on them, whereby this affects their desires and wants, even when they have a relationship with other young men, which leads to breaks in relationships.

Humility is no longer there, even the so called sisters in churches have gone the way of the world. Some are choosy, while some are domineering, so where do we go from here. There are so many stories in a column in Sunday Punch about this, you'ld see for yourselves what ladies are going through today

That's why you see that marriages are no longer sweet as it used to be. Divorces are taking over here and there

May God help us all

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like? pls let us know,

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