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Can I get a witness here. If you are a first born just holla back here.

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Pls I know this is coming late buh I nid a reasonably answer to this. What about when the first born feels he/she must have a particular responsibility to take on u even wen both of u are on d same level. For examples she's a graduate d second born too is a graduate n she's still feels she will still take responsibility on u because she's d first born. N she doesn't give room for u to enjoy anything except her alone before d next person will be settle. She alwais want to be d first in everything. Is it right? And it happens dat d mother alwais like to talk to second born rather than d first born.

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First born. Four great younger brothers. Love being first born o.  As kids you did as I said or it was Total Annihilation.Don't mind the responsibility so much, though if you're a first born you'll soon notice your parents push more responsibility on you than you'd like.

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1st born here e no easy at all,

A lot is expected of you. At age 7 I was expected to take care of my younger ones when I am still a baby myself.

My father had a template of how he wanted me to be in life. He had the career he wanted me to follow. I had no choice but to be a science student because thats what my dad wanted. I cant imagine our last born studying arts because i wasnt given that choice.

I was beaten a lot as the first born compared to my other siblings I can imagine my dad telling our last born to go out and play when during my own time if he saw me playing na flogging.

If my dad enters he must see me with a physics/chemistry textbook else na wahala. I must always be top of my class.

my Dad had a theory on how to raise children and I was the guinea pig whom he tried all his ideas on and he was succesful cos I was beaten into shape. When he tried it with my other siblings, he was not that succesful

When I started working I had to settle my siblings by the side. I knew what they needed and couldnt tell my parents like i want to change my phone, i want to buy latest dresses and my bro wanting to trip his girlfriends all fell on me as they cant tell my parents that.

When i give them money we would all agree not to disclose the exact amount to my parents so  they wont cut down on their allowance.

1st born dey challenging

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1st born--second 2 none. Often imitated never duplicated!

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I am the first child for my parents and the first grandchild on my maternal side. it can be fun being first but the responsibilies can weigh you down.

Now i have to start talking about boyfriends with my little sisters and how my dad would kill them if they made the terrible mistake of getting pregnant. lol.

I now say to them "you have to study hard ooo so that yuou will not waste my money"

braaaap to all first borns, its fun

laters u'all

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hi

im the 1st 0f 6. im really enjoying it, the responsibility and that my younger ones are learning 4rm me.

cheers

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yess oooooooooo, 1st born here

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am the only boy and the last born in the family of eight girls. they name me Inumidun (meaning, we are all happy), but people call me wale, okanlawon, olumuyiwa, adebowale, but all the same, am facing alot of challenges, i mean is a burden being a first born, lol, whatz ur suggestions, waleONE

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I'm my parents first which gives me some priviledges but the cache is dat it comes wit responsibility and expectations if u know wat i mean

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What do you mean by that? Can you shed more light on that.

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yepp yepp yepp. . .

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I am the first born of two girls, female, deaf in my whole family who are hearing - - -all of them.

I am talented and gifted child---computer age while my family are old-fashioned christianity rural age---still lags far behind in computer technology world. They all always depend on me when their computer shut down.

Not easy to grow up as a deaf child in all my hearing family.

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kai me too b first and the thing comes with a lot of responsibilities.

i believe there is something spiritual about bein g first.

so first born needs a lot of prayers o.

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6th of dad, 1st of mum. I think previous posters have said it all. Being the first isnt easy but one has to make sacrifices for others

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first and only girl Dad's pet but responsibility sucks i have to be the "perfect" one

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Well I am in the middle but must say that the success of any family often influenced by the attitudes of the firt born. The firs born can make or mar the family, If the first is a bad egg it is easier for the rest of the family to follow suite.

A word of advice, if you are the firt in your house, you are like a sheperd. others follows.

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where is your starting point for the count and what is the reward.

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first born and only girl.

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1st one and trying to make my folks smile---it aint easy but, all 1st ones know they have a duty so no hassle

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I am the first and the only son. So wats the big deal? You just have to sweat it out yourself.

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the best way out of frustration is to be the middle men, i play my games cool,

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first of eight. its not easy o!! everybody behind you is waiting for you to fall into a trap so that they can escape it.

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i am broda - it is a very gud tin.

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Any news for the FIRST born cause i am ONE.

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Sacrifice for what? Salah or christmas? Or did you mean something else?

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if we have to  psycho analyse it i guess there were ups and downs even till now but i don't really think about,  how i was conceived does not really bother me,  yeah my parents got married only after but i don't think it affects me,  the way i see it, everything is as it is,  second child, third, fourth, whatever the case may be, even an only child ,  we all have issues,   to me whats hard is suddenly realising one day that you are not a child anymore,  hey but what do i know, [color=#770077][/color]

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And If I am? wetin dey?

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I am the first & i tell u,e no easy @ all.

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Being the first born will guarrante you a lot of opportunities:

YOU WILL BECOME WISER BECAUSE ALL THE ELDERS WILL BE LOOKING UP TO YOU FOr MAJOR DECISIONS REGARDING YOUR FAMILY,

E.T.C

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yes,homies beign the first child could be very challenging,they alwayz want u to succed in everything u do,always want u to be super human and all that,now i want to make it ryhming,though ma pupssy aint said nth yet,but i know deep in his mind he's somehow hopeless amd wondering if i am ever gonn make it rhyming,but i dont care,i 'llfollow my heart,though i've been offered admission to study law,still i can never 4get rpp,so make them fall 4 toilet if they no like am.

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It's never easy both ways, Gentleman or a Lady.

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First on both sides. I get both the juiciest piece of the pie as well as the shittiest end of the stick. I'm complaining; at the same time, I dare not grumble.

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am the 1st of 3 children being the first born is not easy at alllllllllllll.

especially when u are a lady.

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Okay, we get enough firstborns here.

What are the challenges? What are the positives and negative implications?

Personally, I learn alot from my parents by virtue of being first. I know things other don't know. As we grow up, it happen that our parents also advance in age. Naturally, the first born had to start helping out in checking the juniors. I don't tolerate nuissance and I am not a dictator either. We are all free but at times, you would be needed to solve a problem.

Unfortunately, I know someone who is equally a first born but can best be described as "AGBAYA"! The parents married by force after "accidental discharge" arising from their illicit romance. They have to arrange emergency wedding to consumate the good news. Sadly, the glaring disaffection between the couple was passed on to the firstborn. The couple eventually make it up and have other kids. The firstborn is a waste! The other kids get to reap from their parents new found love while the firstborn live useless life.

The above illustrates how first born can themselves be vulnerable.

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Okay, we get enough firstborns here.

What are the challenges? What are the positives and negative implications?

Personally, I learn alot from my parents by virtue of being first. I know things other don't know. As we grow up, it happen that our parents also advance in age. Naturally, the first born had to start helping out in checking the juniors. I don't tolerate nuissance and I am not a dictator either. We are all free but at times, you would be needed to solve a problem.

Unfortunately, I know someone who is equally a first born but can best be described as "AGBAYA"! The parents married by force after "accidental discharge" arising from their illicit romance. They have to arrange emergency wedding to consumate the good news. Sadly, the glaring disaffection between the couple was passed on to the firstborn. The couple eventually make it up and have other kids. The firstborn is a waste! The other kids get to reap from their parents new found love while the firstborn live useless life.

The above illustrates how first born can themselves be vulnerable.

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There is a new scientific device that has worked well but the device is strictly for catholic fathers. It is designed by a catholic doctor for church members, it's new. This device is actually for under 17 girls. The device works like a fire alarm and it's a temporary medical implant given like a shot. when the girl is sexually excited around the bosom area, the sexual hormones in her body sends a signal to the electro-potential of a special designed family clock and the bell rings six times to alert a family member. The only side effect is the false alarm set when the daughter is self-servicing or watching a romantic movies and also rashes around the butt cheeks. They are doing more research work to reduce the side effects.

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For dumb people it's a type of strong shampoo used to get rid of dandruff like mellow. By the way mellow or is it meow is some bum's cat suffering from feline infectious peritonitis aka feline FIP. Someone please call the zoo to quarantine this meow.

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First born. Is that the name of a new shampoo?[/color][color=#990000][color=#990000][/color]

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YEAH YEAH I LIKE BEIGN NUMBER ONE AND I AM ENJOYING IT BUT WAT IT WIT FIRST BORNS

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I am the 1st of 5 children and I must say being the first child is not easy o.

Too much is ecxpected of you and you are not allowed room for mistakes

You are much more mature than your peers (which sometimes is a benefit btu not always, sometimes you may be seen as been boring).

Then again you get to make the decision for the whole family and you get evverybody's respect.

Been first has got its ups and downs, I am grateful to be the first child.

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Attention Attention Attention

pls i think is high time topics posted in Nairaland should be looked into.this topic if ur the first born makes no sense at all, if u dont have anything reasonable to stay just read other topic please.thank u

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i'm the first born in my family. sometimes i like and sometimes i don't. but all i know is that it is all responsibilities.

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I am not the 1st born of my father but the 1st son. I can tell you that being the 1st son carries a lot of responsibilities as well. All the ladies in my family look onto me for leadership since the demise of our father. As much as it can be fun, I tell you it is not a joke. To whom much is given as 1st son or 1st born, much is demanded/expected.

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You know what sucks about being the first born? Also in the typical African search for their children being doctors the first has to reach that goal. Any deviation that casues the younger one's to deviate is your fault. The sucks because organic Chemistry is a killer not to talk about the future P. Chem.

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i am the first and the responsibility is enormous. you are the specimen - any experiment that needs to be done is performed on you first. parents learn from their mistakes and try not to repeat it with the others. you have to watch your every steps so your siblings have someone to look up to. the moment you make a mistake, you'll be used as an example to your younger ones.

at this point in time, i cant think of anything exciting about being the first. if i do, i wont hesitate to share.

one love

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I am also the first child of my parents, and being also a man , it comes with a lot of responsibilities.But I believe there is a touch of destiny in everything .I believe I am born to lead many more things.

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Yeah, I'm the first born and only son.

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