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Between Husband And Wife, Who Should Greet The Other First In The Morning?

This probably sounds silly, innit? You can make light of this issue, but it really isn't. I know many cultures would allow several things as appropriate, let's talk about the African culture. Personally I think anyone can, but there's this ego thing in a man that would drive his demand for it. I listened to a heated debate about who greets the other first in the morning or at any other time of meeting and a man was so tough on the matter. He said his wife will never sleep in his room another night if she doesn't greet him in the morning. How crude I thought he sounded. Does it really matter who greets who in the morning in a husband-wife arrangement?

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Lol. No I'm kneeling down o.

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What don't you understand?

You kneel down and greet me everytime you see me in the morning.

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Depends on who wakes up first, we have no preference, no big deal.

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Hey guyz does it really mata who greets who first its only a crude and highly egoistic man that ponder or even raise an issue over that kind of trivial fin since greeting first or last does not signify respect or love.over bearing men wake- up and get busy there are one thousand and one fin to bother bout considering the stress and th bad economic state of the nation , nonsense fin to bother bout by unbusy nagerians u dont command respect u earn it ASAP.

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i dont know the problems of we ladies. what is the big deal about greeting. Is your husband your mate? God has made him the head over u. Do u debate who to greet your father first. What is the big deal of greeting your husband first and give him all the respect due to him. Haba!!! this is africa and not western world. If u have a husband that notices this type of things why dont u do it and have peace in your marriage. Haba!!! na waoh for ladies

And i do not know what is your problem, Sir! So it is an African, an Nigeria thing to greet people and your husband and not an western thing.

Na Waoh for youself. Shame on you for talking so badly about western womans. As it is for me, i am so sorry to disappoint you - my German Oma (Grandma) would give me "pepper", if i did not greet my husband in the morning and in the afternoon and make his cup of coffee or tea for him and serve his food.

Way some African man thing always the western woman is so bad, if they do not know about your traditions and the different cultures!

We, Germans - we even "greet god every day" - "Gott zum gruesse oder Gruss God" - and if you are in German and you can not greet your working colleagues, your boss, your familiy, your neighbours - you have a lot of problems!

And by the way, no one " have got our "Sie" in Germany we greet a lot of people in an second for of "you" or "du" to give propper respect to them and no one call anybody by the first name at work or in church!

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Honestly! A good nigerian or european wife of the old generation (our mothers or grandmothers) got up 30 to 60 minute earlyer as there husband, they made the breakfast table ready, made tea or coffee and were ironing his shirts and trousers and made sure the children are washed and ready for school and then she woke up her husband with a kiss and the sentence "Dear braekfast is ready, please come and greet the kids or something of this kind" - it is nice to see this as a kid and my mother did it, every day, my dad in the kitchen unimaginably, but my mothers was a home maker and a house wife back than . . . later on my mum started to work again, i got older and the time has moved on . . . i set the breakfast table and my dad woke up first and he kissed my mother every morning to wake her up and he said to her "darling, sleep longer our girl is old enough to take care of thereself and i know where she had put my coffee or tea - and my mum was the last person, which had to stand up than and it was good to see this too.

Now to me, well at the moment it is me how wake up first, make breakfast and even cook rice in the morning and i wake up the kids and make sure they are ready for shool and than i call my husband to join us for brekfst before i leave for the office, sometimes i can not eat myself, but i make sure everybody does and i make sure i had a big cap of tea or caffee with a lot of milk. Every morning my husband say "Thank you to me for doing all this things" and he always pray for the children before school. But i am sure things might change for me too as the did for my mum and even my nigerian husband have started to make breakfast for us on weekend or set the tea time or supper for us.

It does not matter, how does what first and how does what last - it does matter, that the things are done in time and all the work in the house ore outsite is appreciated - PLEASE and THANK YOU - COULD YOU PLEASE NOT YOU MUSSED -

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People differ. What matters to one, matters not to another.

A single rule cannot apply to all. Study your partner and do what's good for your marriage.

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lwkmd! abeg i no fit laugh jo! hehehehehehe, laugh won kill me die! hahahahahaaha, I CANT BUT KEEP LAUGHING! lmfao!! Pls help me stop, hehehehe!!!

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ok!

too many ibons to bother about.

these days.

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@myfrances

sorry if my approach caused a stir.but sincerely

I'm so ashame of u;PRINCIPAL!

I am sorry for ur husband,and i fear for ur students.with this derogatory language of urs,i bet they are some disaster waiting to happen,but olohun onifunese.u r so full of pejorative and dyslogistic words.God!

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Duluxe,

You love me don'tcha? Come here let me give you a big breasty hug! MMMMMMMMMMHHHH! Feel better suga?

Duluxe, TRUST me, I be married a looooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooong time with ONE MAN and we both are content with each other. But, I understand you stick up for the macho men. Get em!

Don't worry suga! I got this! My fiance will tell you he is HAPPY!

You want to call him and ask him?

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I don't understand this topic.

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Hahahahaha! She's back! Hell has no fury to contend with u wat u gat. Lol! Now I can comfortably conclude that you have a big problem with written stuff. You contradict yaself when you hit ur keyboard. U use offensives when it's needless. I foresee ur so called boy-girl relationship crashing when d Africa in ur man wakes up from d grip of ur love potion. U sound Carribean tho. Are u Jamaican? I hav a hunch. Someone like u can hardly stay married. Work yourself!

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Yo Duluxe,

Not that it any of your business, MY FIANCE GREETS ME EVERY MORNING AND EVERY NIGHT. He is NIGERIAN. He is older than me, NOT ONE TIME HE TALKS ABOUT GREETING PROCEDURE and HE HAPPILY GREETS ME EVERY MORNING AND EVENING, GUESS WHAT, HE DONT MAKE A BIG FUGGING DEAL!

And control your OWN WOMAN IF YOU GOT ANY! If that how you operate, I FEEL SORRY FOR HER, OR HIM, who knows what you do behind closed doors!

Check that!

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Thank you, Ayetty!

I am a sexist because I did not read anything in the bible that said WOMEN MUST GREET THEIR HUSBANDS. There is nothing in the bible that said YOU MUST GREET YOUR SPOUSE. Each marriage is DIFFERENT and that is what I was trying to project to these KNUCKLEHEADS.

As for REV RUN, HIS WIFE DOES NOT GREET HIM THE WAY YOU SAID TO GREET YOUR SPOUSE. When Rev and his wife see each other they GREET EACH OTHER. There is no oooh my wife must greeet bullchit.

I don't believe it African culture for SOME OF YOU TO BE ARSEHOLES so don't contaminate AFRICA name with that BULLCHIT and I am not AFRICAN!

How the fugg am I confused cos I dont agree with you? Some of you men need to find your balls and cup them up because you begins to stink like little boys throwin a tantrum because a girl won your marbles in a game!

Grow up!

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@Mayfrances: I'm trying 2 figure out what kind of rude and and loud principal u'd be. Why're these ladies deep into using arrogant + obscene language? If you could type like this, u can do worse in real speech. Jeez!

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ficoarm or whatever the hell your name is; any Nigerian woman that is bad enough to come take my man, then my hat is off to her. However, she needs to know that I have 2 pickens by this man and twins on the way so there will be no money left for them and they can do the babysitting, Lol!!!!!! They may be doing me a favor by taking him away fool!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! When I am working my Bottom off everyday as a schoo principal and taking care of these children, I could care less who speaks first. Please move on to matters that mean something!!!!! NEXT!!!!!!!!

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please ladies no one is saying that it is mandatory 4 u 2 b d 1st person to greet ur hubby.but one thing u must understand is that,man ago is a factor that can not b underestimated.it is lil issue like this that destroys marriage.d reply from most of the gals shows dat they are making enemy out of their husband.ladies should try to respect their husband, this is d norm of the african culture.

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@mayfrance.

u will no who is making big deal out of nonsense.when these young nigerian gals have the oppourtunity to show your husband some respect and he is carried away by such humbleness.

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@dinachi: God bless u. Case closed. I never knew dis debate is still not settled.

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Hell NO!!!!! Whoever comes home first and is at home when the other spouse comes home should greet. What difference does it make. This is 2010, not 1810!!!!!!!! Maybe in Nigeria, but not America!!!!!!!! And yes, I am married to a Nigerian. He does not make a big deal of nonsense!!!!!!

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When you see your father, as a highly modernised westerner that you are , do you wait for him to greet you first? When you encounter your pastor do you wait for him to greet you first? Okay lets not go very far? What of when you encounter your senior sister, what happens? Your guess is as good as mine. The problem is simply that some women have become slaves of women liberation. While the wise ones sieve the information they are getting others are simply led on hook  line and sinker.  It is only a woman that is pathetically tied to unhealthy discuss that will ever challenge this notion. For one can you name one single originator of the women liberation struggle who had a successfull marrige. Lets not fall into the trap of Adam who let the wife patrol around without supervision and got all of us involved in this mess. Ones again to buttress my point why did God Call Adam first, instead of eve  when he wanted to find out what they had done? Abraham the father of faith was addressed as Lord by his Wife and even the bible admonished christian women to emulate that.  In case i have not made it clear, Man is totally superior to the woman in terms of leadership the way God intended it. Lets take it from another pespective even though we are one with christ  are we equal to him?   As for men and women, we are equal as human beings but not equal as leaders. Therfore a man deserves to be greeted first. I rest my case.

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There's no convention to this. Anyone can do that. I don't force greetings from person(s) neither should do i force respect. When you deserve greetings , respect it comes to you.

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you dont understant my argument i am trying to say that pet names has taking up the whole issue inother words i dont see any issue on this as far as i am concern a wife should always greet her husband first that is just the courtsey ok mind you i am stand to be corrected.

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Don’t be drunk with wine, because that will ruin your life. Instead, be filled with the Holy Spirit

NEXT!

O yes, ur not gonna tell me drinkin isnt equivalent to smokin

smokin is not forbiden but is discouraged- anything that will intoxicate u!

now talk betta tin cos this is irrelevant

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^^ what's the connection between smoking and greeting one's husband?

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ARE U GUYS STILL ON THESE?

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^^ leave them

when they want to display barbarism they like quoting the bible!!

people want to behave like monkeys and start quoting scriptures i dont get it

where in the Bible does it say a woman must greet her husband first in the morning??

kmt

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It does not matter who greet first as long as they greet. Lets leave God out of this discussion, people call God too much in nigeria but still do the wrong thing all the time and that's why the country is the way it is.

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From the way you wrongly quote the bible and the bogus interpretation that you give the wrongly quoted verses, it shows how much more knowledge you need to overcome the rage of sexism you're putting your arrogant self thru. Don't talk about what u hav no clue about and stop sounding sandy. What word is 'saracastic' again! Lol. Make u no kill person oh! Don't greet ur husband if u like, nobody has made it a rule. Remember the topic limits itself to the African culture. Even Revd. Run's wife greets him and he does dat to her too, talking of d West. Be wise.

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@queeneve: You are a confused woman. You keep conflicting with yourself. Your analogies don't add up. You are just too ego-ridden. Stop now if you don't have any reasonable comment to drop. Peace!

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my family is full of good nigerian men!

so i even no of thier existence!

i dont no where all these men come from

even my great grandpa doesnt carry this backwardsnezz!

i seriously would like to know from under which rocks these men climb?

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Ayetty,

My fiance is Nigerian and he does not act like these Nigerian men for certain. He is not petty and egotical like some of these men on NL. I think there are some nice Nigerian men, maybe you will have to filter through them. But, they are there. Now if you prefer white chocolate than HOORAY. I don't like undone meat and it smell when not cooked. Winks.

My fiance does not expect me to greet him first or bow down to him. He is a great example of a GOOD CHRISTIAN MAN, WHO LOVES ME AS CHRIST LOVES THE CHURCH. Unfornately, my friend got a bad Nigerian man who beats her and mistreats her like a dog.

Sometimes, you have to screen them by praying for unveiling of the unseen. It works!

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being the head of the household has absolutely nothing to do with greeting in the morning!

its just sick twisted backwards nigerians with cerebral degeneration and misfirnng neurones that bother themselves with this rubbish!

i thank God for where i am! dayuuuuum!

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Honestly, I dont know what has gotten into the heads of some women this days. Many of them simply do not understand that their husband is thier boss. And, iam going to base my analogy on the bible. For one it says the man is the head of the woman as God is the head of man. that is clear enough. there is nnothing like issues of equality or not about the issue. Men and women are different both in make up and roles. It is just like in heaven where we have God the Father, Son and Holy Ghost. even though they are united but it is very clear that God the father has an upper hand. Besides women were basically created for the man . They were not in Gods initial plan. Man is Gods direct image while woman is mans own image. That is why we have God the father and son but no God the mother. That is also why none of the 12 apostles of Jesus was female. If God in his infinite wisdom did not see it fit to include a woman in his heavenly plan for mankind why then is it so difficult to get the picture? Women submit and enjoy your Marriage or refuse and die single the choice is yours.

NO THIS MOFO DIDNT! NO THE HECK THIS MOFO DIDNT! YOU KNOW WHAT, I WILL BE RIGHT BACK, WE GOING TO HAVE BIBLE STUDY TODAY!

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Anybody can greet first. Big deal

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Not compulsory. Anybody can be the 1st 2 greet

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@dinachi THANK YOU BROTHER, YOU'VE SAID IT ALL AND GOD BARES YOU WITHNESS. LET 'HER' WHO HAVE EARS HEAR!

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exactly. there's no big deal in being the first to greet, it's only a problem when the man starts to make a fuss about it. besides i think if a man respects his wife he shouldn't have a problem with greeting her first.

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Honestly, I dont know what has gotten into the heads of some women this days. Many of them simply do not understand that their husband is thier boss. And, iam going to base my analogy on the bible. For one it says the man is the head of the woman as God is the head of man. that is clear enough. there is nnothing like issues of equality or not about the issue. Men and women are different both in make up and roles. It is just like in heaven where we have God the Father, Son and Holy Ghost. even though they are united but it is very clear that God the father has an upper hand. Besides women were basically created for the man . They were not in Gods initial plan. Man is Gods direct image while woman is mans own image. That is why we have God the father and son but no God the mother. That is also why none of the 12 apostles of Jesus was female. If God in his infinite wisdom did not see it fit to include a woman in his heavenly plan for mankind why then is it so difficult to get the picture? Women submit and enjoy your Marriage or refuse and die single the choice is yours.

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it doesn't matter who greets each other first,what matters most is the love they have for each other

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lolz

the problem is not the greeting

the problem is that the greeting is a problem!

i think any man who thinks too deep into it has some psychological issues he needs to face!!

dayuuum!

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my friend, i like u sha where are u based

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Thank you queeneve for quoting that verse, 'husbands love your wives as you love yourselves[b]FOR[/b] your wife will reverend you'. Don't you people understand that sentence? In real life, if you have that much love for a person, I see no reason why that person will not be willing to respect you or why you would ensure that she is constantly reminded of her inferior position in the marriage by making her say 'good morning' first.

(And by the way, I know that the thought of loving your wife as you love yourselves is unpalatable to a lot of you.)

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and if u are in the shoes of this ur friend, what will u rather do?

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If you wanna get technical bruh, Bottom IS NOT A CURSE WORD, it a donkey,

How dare you compare yourself with my fiance!  My fiance can read and knwo when someone is agree with him.  I am known?  Who is you?  Chile, you sipping on that PATRON A LIL TOO MUCH, stop it!

Oh, Beau, THIS ISN'T FIGHTING TRUST ME,

But, I digress, I see a fool gotta feel good somehow,

Done with it,

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I dont think it should be a big deal for the wife to greet her husband first, after all, the man is the HUSBAND and the head of the house.

But it shouldnt really matter who greets first, abi?

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come, i nor fit seperate fight oh

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My dear, from your choice of words, it shows how much tolerant you can be. How can you sustain a happy home with you kind of attitude. One moment you are quoting the bible, another one you are cursing and using swear words. You can't hide nothing about yourself from the way you write. You are known. Watch it.

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