Can A Hushand Forgive Wife Caught In Act?
To me not matter the circumstances, she is gone forever.
Can A Hushand Forgive Wife Caught In Act?
To me not matter the circumstances, she is gone forever.
I will forgive her without thinking twice,because i forgave my girlfriend when she cheated on me. I will forgive her and we will both work on forgetting and making sure it doesn't happen again,infact i believe if done well we can come out even stronger in our marriage. The key is knowing what led to her cheating,very important, then we will take it from there as long as she is trully remorseful and willing to change.
why is it so hard for a man to do this act and when a woman do it its like we committed murder, This isnt fair. In my marriage we were separated during the time i made this mistake does that count for anything, as well as him walking away from the marriage twice. As a woman its not easy for us to even think of are men sexing another woman either. I just feel like if i love him enough when can get through the past and move forward. He should be willing to do the same. I know some men that took their wives back and woman as well,
Whatz up bro?
The bolded above is pretty sick ain't it? Makes the whole marriage facade look bleaker and bleaker by the minute. Makes me feel sorry for "husbands" out there. No wonder men are dying at younger ages than their predecessors. Our forefathers married WIVES and didn't have to bother tolerating the nonsense from one woman. Hell, they would be busy nagging themselves to death while he gets his well deserved rest. Today, it's different.
The things women do in marriage appears to be a deliberate attempt to kill the man slowly by inducing heart ailments or mental breakdown through endlessly nagging and never ending demands. Being single for life seems more appealing with each passing day!
Forgive: YES, Forget: IMPOSSIBLE!!!
Unfortunately this is the case, it may well be the end of the marriage CONTRACT. It's a breach of contract no matter who is involved (Husband or Wife). I do not think any "limitation on liability" can apply in this case. If there are children, it beomes a bit harder to deal wth.
As for me, I pray I never find myself in any such situation.
You see my point? If she knows her man would surely forgive her, she'll be emboldened to mess up. I know that for a fact. Once a woman knows that the man she's with is a weak wimp (only a weak man would so readily forgive such nonsense), she'll be ever ready to cheat on him with so much impunity. But once she has a positive fear of her man (e.g. a violent repercussion awaits; the marriage/relationship is over, etc), she'd think twice before creeping.
Oya come and woo me endlessly (with lots of awoof gifts, recharge cards, etc etc), pay my 'groom price', do all the courtship spending, be the bread-winner of the household, let it be for you to worry about how to make money and 'take care' of me, and permit me to be a 'house husband' with a large monthly 'upkeep' allowance amongst other commitments on your part. Thereafter, if I am found to be unfaithful, it should definitely be considered more unacceptable and condemnable than if you were found to be unfaithful. Go figure.
I'm not justifying anything, I'm only rationalizing everything. And I really don't understand why you people want to have your cake and eat it.
I'm not married yet, and I don't look forward to cheating on my future wife. So the issue of being caught wouldn't arise. In any case a husband's cheating and a wife's cheating are not the same thing - and this is the truth, no matter how hard it is for you women to swallow. If you re-read my previous post you would see some of the reasons why a wife's cheating would be absolutely unforgivable. Clearly these reasons may not be applicable in a situation where the husband is caught cheating.
Only a very foolish wimp would forgive a wife caught cheating (forgive as in continue with the marriage). If you remember how long it took you to woo her, all the shakara she did as if her womanliness is beyond the reach of any mere mortal, how she put you through stress and sexual starvation during your dating/courtship years by claiming 'good girl' and saying 'no sex until marriage', how she pretended to be a virtuous woman and a good Christian, how hard you work to provide her with material comfort and cater to her needs, etc. . . .only to later find out that she has been opening her legs so easily to another man (or men) outside, the sheer disappointment and hurt is enough to drive a passionate man to murder. Your ego would be torn to shreds to imagine that what you worked so hard for, another man is getting so easily. How can I forgive such a trecherous animal? Her life is in serious danger if she doesn't leave my presence permanently. There can be no forgiveness for that, unless the man is really a naive fool. Like I always say, a woman who has the assurance that her man would forgive her no matter what, will always be emboldened to commit worse atrocities - knowing that the wimp she has for a husband would always forgive her. Not me.
very difficult question
why would a man or woman cheat? Maybe it was lacking in her/his home but that is no excuse. its easy to say forgive, end the marriage, leave him/her but you may never know what might drive someone to do such. all i can say is may we not fall into such temptations. it could happen to anybody.
It is for God to forgive
But I can't stay married to that kind of woman. I'll never be able to to trust her again and that means there is no marriage again. If she goes out, I'll think she's gone to another man. If she goes to work, i'll think she's going to see another man. It just cant work again.
you are a dangerous forgiver. i would forgive too but she would have crossed the point of no return with me. life living with such a woman would never be the same again.
i personally will forgive and tolerate every other sin but infidelity in my book is gross betrayal of trust. i will not look at her the same way again. her value and stock would have greatly reduced in my eyes.
If i were a man, it would be the most difficult thing but it will take alot to forgive and definitely to forget as well.
But if i were to think about what she brings to ma life, what joy she adds to ma life and the kinda good mother she is and good spouse, then i will surely think about it sha.
We are humans and we err.
i came home with my HIV result reading positive and i told my husband
he was weeping uncontrollably and was telling me to please forgive him
was wondering for what? he then told me he's been having an affair with
a girl i know to be his cousin's friend for a year and was sleeping with her unprotected.
thinking he was the one that infected me.you can imagine what i was going through
just been told i was HIV+ and my husband confessing to adultery. i beat him blue and black
and i was considering divorce.i slept on the same bed with him for 3month could not stand him touching me.
i wasn't thinking of the virus in my blood, i was think my husband i love and trusted has betrayed me.
our marriage was 2 year and he was already cheating i asked him what time and how he was able to have a relationship without me knowing because he doesn't sleep out.he said he dint want to go into details because he doesn't want to hurt me.i kept wondering if i wasn't diagnose with HIV virus i would never had know my husband was cheating.i have since forgiven him because i love him. he took his test and was negative and i make sure he takes it every 6 months.
I will forgive her but will not forget. Anytime she does something wrong afterwards i will remind her of it, so the best thing for her to do is to marry the other guy or run away, because oneday i fit kill her. We will stop sleeping on the same bed, and I will look at her as just a bleeping partner afterwards. I will get myself another babe, and collect my children from her. But me i can do it and get away with it as a man, nothing dey happen.
Actually from where i come from, Ishan, if a woman does such thing, she will definitely fall sick and later die. Bendel insurance
if truly he has the luv for her, i believe he should be able to have a forgiven heart for her as well. becos if he forgives and promise not to forget, there must always be a silent beef between both of them and they might divorce each other at the end of everything.
though is not an easy doing, but becos our creator forgives we the his creature should also learn how to forgive one another no matter what the case my be, becos a home or marriage that there's no peace, what do expect out them?
I have not have the priviledge of reading all the replies to the posts.
Promiscuity and infidelity is interestingly much common in women than men. women are able to conceal better than men.
alot of times there are silly reasons for cheating.
From the Mens perspectives, it is usually lust (men are usually into physical) whereas women have combination system and it can be a combination of things.
Now if a woman cheat, it is unlikely to be like men that can be on impulse, so there is usually an element of premeditation.
Now, the man seriouly need to find out the reasons why she did it and a true confession and sincere promise that she will never do it again presumably with her parents and the pastor.
Then it is definitely forgivable even forgetable and becomes a point of strenght for the marriage. Any second attempt by the woman she is a goner as that may well be a sign of significant spiritual problem.
However, a good investigation is important for the Man to discover the true reasons for the woman doing it because if it is spiritual or a love-addict(hmmn, it is like madness, it will always re-appears once in a while)
There are some women who are like men who are simply indulging in lustfullness and nothing more.
On men cheating, i think it goes same way, if the wife work in everyway as much as possible with her husband in a loving way and do not carry bad friends who knows her secret to enable them seduce her husband, then such infidelity calls for the wife to call a meeting again and read the riot act because a lot is at stake including her health and life. One strike rules apply and the man should be out of her life.
I hope and prayed that we can all stay faithfull, it is not hard but temptations and also inability to stay focus on more important things than physical be it sex or money,, because sex is for the man why money is for the woman.
God help all of us. Forgiveness within reason, even Jesus christ told the adulterous woman, 'go woman, your sins have been forgiven, sin no more'
An unrepentant sinner wil die as a sinner and forgiveness is not only impossible but unavailable as forgetfulness that may bring permernet forgiveness will not be there as the sinner has not repent truthfully and sincerely.
Here is where I wanted to catch you all hypocrites.
You are saying you can't forgive if you caught your wife in the act but you all are asking this woman to go back.
Ha Nigerian men and women. I have never seen hypocrites like you.
As they say only the person who wears the shoe knows where it hurts. You guys are only capable of making mouth!