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Can A Woman Steal From Her Husband?

I hope she does not get to read this.

But really, when your wife sneaks behind your back, picks a few naira notes from your pocket and keeps mum like nothing never happened. Somehow you find out and confronts her only for her to tell you that what money did you think you have that is not mine?

Really? Can a woman steal from her husband?

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Well, it all depends on how you view marriage. If it is two people becoming one flesh, then technically she is not stealing from you. If you think you are under no obligation to her, then yes, she is stealing. The question is: why is she doing that? Maybe you do not provide well enough for her needs. A woman has certain personal needs and personal care products. If she does not work, then her husband is responsible for covering those needs. Why don’t you sit down and talk to her openly about it. There is nothing wrong with having “your money”, “her money” and your family money. Just set up a budget and come to mutual agreement on things. If she is “stealing” from you, then she has some unfulfilled needs. Discover what those are and solve the problem.

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na wa oh! some peoples reply here amazes me!, just shows people different understanding of this marriage thingy!

@Poster if ur wifey picks a "few naira notes" from ur pocket, WTH is wrong wif it?, d day u married her was the day she had every right to pick 'em naira notes from ur pocket, if she were a girlfriend, i wld have been a diff ball game!

, and of course u knew she picked it, why d u have to go into asking her?, Nice answer from her anyways!

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Do u give ur wife enough money 4 housekeeping each month?

Things r expensive in 9ja these day.

If u increase her monthly money & she still takes from ur wallet, then, she is a thief!

Report her to an Elder cuz our kids copy our actions!

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it is one thing to take it is another to steal .if a woman takes money from her husband s wallet it is not a crime.something u might want to buy something urgently and his not around at the moment the only money around is in his wallet i dont think it is bad but when intentionally take a huge some of money from ur hubby without telling him it is pure stealing, and it is very bad

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there is nothing wrong with a wife taking money from her husband`s purse when he`s not there but at the same time, its good for her to let him know she took to avoid certain embarrasments.

a lady i know once had issues with her husband. she saw a girl`s picture and a hotel address and receipt in her husband`s wallet one evening and promptly took offence. instead of confronting him, she decided to vent her anger by empting his wallet *he had over ten thousand naira in it*. unfortunately for the man, he stopped to buy fuel on his way to work the next day *his tank was almost empty*to his greatest embarrassment, his wallet was empty. trust some fuel attendants, they made sure they abused him and of course people gathered to find out what the issue was.

to cut a long story short, he had to take bike to his office which was quite a distance and later send hid driver back with some money to pay for the fuel and collect his car. this could have been avoided if he knew before he left that his wallet had been emptied.

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whatever u own is authomatically supposed to be for ur wife.

The issue of she taking naira note from ur pocket is not an

issue that ought to surface, safe.

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The fact that she said what money do you have that is not mine tells me that she did not feel like she was stealing the money. Why would you call it stealing if your wife takes money from your wallet? That seems strange. I take money from my husbands wallet all the time if I didn't get money from the ATM. He is okay with that especially since I usually work late and I am not comfortable at the ATM when it's dark. He just needs to go get some more if he needs the cash that desperately. I can't even imagine that leading to my husband calling me a thief. I think that is too harsh.

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Kai, which kind woman will do that? After giving her enough, she'll still go behind and extract from my wallet illegally. I'll first beat hell out of her before I send her packing.

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To me it not stealing cause is taking what BELONGS to me.

Some Ppl call it Stealing

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A woman cant steal from her husband, cos all he has is the woman's too.

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Even the Bible says " ask and it shall be given unto u".Why can't she ask first?

Its stealing! even if we are married, i can't take money from his pocket without his consent.

We are sending wrong signals to the kids.

They may think its proper to take money from dad's pocket and so, they will also join in the act.

My dad will never tolerate that.

Is better u ask him, then he will give u.

anyway, why would a wife even take money from her hussy's pocket? Is she not working?

Is she a liability?

No matter how small or big the money is, if she is broke, she should ask the hussy first.

Even if the man is stingy, ask him first so that he wont think he housed an armed robber.

Stealing starts from somewhere and its better not to indulge in it at all.

There r so many ways we can get money from our husbands, but definitely not from tacking it from his pocket without asking him.

The money in question may even be the last with him and so , he may be stranded.

lets face the fact, even if we share things in common, if there is no privacy, if we operate the same account,if we are one, there should be respect for the husband.

Just like the Yorubas will say " oko baba ati omo kole wa, ko ma laala" meaning in summary, there is limit or extent u can go.

Thats my own candid opinion anyway, and I stand to be corrected.

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You see, majority of men are highly tight fisted, they forget all those juicy promises they made at the beginning and turn into glue hands.

You sure know that your wife is in real need of something you know you can afford, instead of you to be the man you are and provide it for her, then you deny her of it giving one silly excuse or the other, and trust some women, since you refused to bring it peacefully, they decide to take it forcefully and I think this is what our Dear poster is talking about here,

cause as long as I know, no reasonable woman in her right sense will like to steal from her husband (except those born with the blood of a thief), even if not husband, no responsible lady will like to steal from her boyfriend.

You know ladies when they want something they know you can afford and you bluntly refused to give it to them because you want to meet some other unnecessary need, Trust them, they will look for the nearest means to get it from you even if it means stealing it as you said.

I have seen this happen a lot of places.

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hi

we are alwz quick 2 blame d woman but do u know some men dont give dr wives moni 4 personal upkeep?do uknow dy just force themselves 2 feed her n buy cloths 4 her only during special occassions?

any woman well cared4 will never steal.

Bros make una dey take care of d women.She is not just a baby making factory.Cherish her pls.

babes, if una dey steal pls stop it.

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I don't agree with a woman stealing from her man like that. NOR do I think a man should steal from his woman either. goes both ways.

What should u do? First, you need to talk to her to find out why she would do such a thing, when its much simplier for her to ask. Then you need to find out WHAT is the real reason she is stealling from you,, is it to buy food for you BOTH to eat? Does she need money to buy things for the house, or to look pretty for you? She may have a gambling or drug problem, and that will be bad if so. but, Obviously she is taking the money for some reason or another. Find out what that reason is, and see if u can reach some agreement as to some allowance u can give her to stop her from stealing.

OR. better, just keep your money in the bank, and use your bank card or debit card if its allowed in Nigeria. You dont always have to carry cash around to have access to your money.

love & light,

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She should let me know so that i will re plan myself. Take for instance thats the only money in ma wallet and i have planned to use it for my lunch at work and she took it without letting me know. During ma lunch break i ordered amala or whatever and after they have served me, i blow the amala finish without knowing that am koboless. Imagin the embarassment when the mamaput ask me for money and i could not pay for my food when am 100% sure that i have some kabadash reserved in the wallet for the amala.

In essence let him or her know incase he/she dont have plan B.

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thief na thief. I know some wives that really steal in the guise of partner.Me i am generous so if u want anything and I have no problem. My ex even knew all my passwords and pins to my cards. Unless she's just a chronic thief or the husband is bloody tight fisted. As my wife if you want something, ask or say you've taken something for a just coz a least

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no b person d man be?, if he constantly denies her provisions and sprays it on mistresses, then its probable that she'l steal.

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No matter the nature of money she collects, theif is a thief and it is not good.

She should tell her huband any need she has and he will consider if he is able to solve it

No room for pampering whether one nair a or more

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Yes a woman can steal from her husband, if it were not stealing she'd simply tell him after taking it after all whats his is hers. I think we should be open about it then its not stealing.

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The woman on this thread is a wife,there is a very big,humongous difference between her and an ocassional bed warmer.

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yes so, you are honest, and have a good husband, haba, how can a man call his wife a thief?, God forbid, if your wife steals from you, as in intentional stealing, then there is a BIG BIG problem!!!She is certainly not your wife, maybe married you for your money, or maybe you de set blow take sleep(stingy),

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I do take money from my husband's wallet or car when I need cash and I don't want to go to the cash point. He always has cash on him. I tell him sometimes and other times I forget.

In my home everyting is completely joint . So basically for those saying it is stealing that means I am stealing from myself.

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I don't think its the best for a girl (wife) to:

(i) keep secrets from her hubby

(ii) take money from the hubby without permission

But we have come to realize that we are not in a perfect world, so relationships are not perfect either.

I had this girl who is a student, and is financially challenged. She feels shy asking for money, especially if its for some really personal, or sometimes. family issue.

More than once she had picked up money on my table, pockets etc and send me a text like "pls I took N1000 from your pocket to solve a pressing issue, can we not talk about it?". I hardly get upset with her because I think she is matured and sensible and knows what she is doing, most likely she would feel embarrassed raising family issues and asking for my assistance.

Certainly she does not steal this money from me, she is only embarrassed discussing some things with me but hopes that I would understand.

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a man who understands.

God help you for not requesting that madam fill out an application to grab some change!!

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What of a situation where by the husband and the wife lived like cat and mouse? u dont consider that? what about a situation whereby the husband is rich and the wife poor and the husband is nt ready to help her, ofcourse she wl opt for taking the money if it comes her way. pronto, so what do we call that, thief? nah

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Case closed then, I suppose?

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in all, i guess closeness in marriage makes a woman, and also the man, forget the thin between what is appropiate and what is taken for granted. but constant communication will indent this thin line. i have talked it over with her and she seem to see the point that it is not all the money in my pocket that is vailable for free spending. certainly  not.

however, any money i leave around the house is certainly free for spending. that of course is different from the normal house keep money.

in all, i will rather have a wife who is too familiar with me and sometimes misses the thin line than have a reclusive hermit at home.  who needs a stranger for a wife?

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Well it depends on how much we are talking about here.

Some guys here will call for a family meeting if the amount is substantial.

All in all, as long as the woman admits, or denies playfully (as my missus often does) then its all good ( only for the moderate figures, mind).

I dont buy that concept of 'how can you steal from yourself', well you can, if you did not take permission from yourself before moving the dough. That means 'you be tif'.

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imagine the molestation. . . . .

i think the best thing is to inform ur hubby before such action, the funniest thing is he may not like it but pretend as if he does, thereby, discussing it with friends and some peeps close to him just as the author of this post did.

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when ur wife cooks cleans gos to work and looks after u and d kids y make a fuss when she takes ur change stingy men

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I would very much say yes to that, cos i have seen cases where it happened. Believe it or not, my uncle's wife does it alot to the extent that he had to change the combination to the locks of his briefcase. Well, i don't think it is a good thing to do. Why not just ask like the bible has said, afterall he is your husband and he owes it to you. Haba!

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sure! if a woman takes money from her husband's wallet and keeps quiet over it is outright stealing. In as much as we are one, it is good to inform my hubby if i take money from his waleet without his knowledge. I wouldn't do that because i don't need to.

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I never have to answer for money taken from my hubby's pocket or bank account for that matter. since we got married we are one, needless to say whatever money he earns is ours and whatever I earn is ours. Been married for 25 years.

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When the Wallet is at home then the man is at home.

She should tell the mn she took it.

But some people do not like it at all in that case she should ask b4 taking it.

I for noe do not mind as long as am told.

I may think i have some money and go and eat out only to find out i cannot pay for my meal.

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No wonder we now have two strangers living in a house and calling it a union of one.

God help us!

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LOL @ robbing kids of pocket money!

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Charity they say begins at home. the day she did not see mine to take, she will go and search the children's bag for their pocket money. Ok, alright, what if she did not see any in the children's bag? God forbid she rush to the neighbours house to sniff around or as they say just take a look and try her luck. God save us from pick-pocket wives.

Still me

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I will not call it stealing but after taking the money you have to tell the husband.

my husband used to take money out of my bag. Thats because he never went to the bank so it was actually also his money he was taking.

But I had to tell him to let me know what he took out.

Just think about it i may go shopping only to find out i do not have money to pay because someone took some money out without telling me.

My kids also take money out of my piggy bank for their needs but thats what the piggy bank is there for,. if they need something either for cooking, school or common Transport money when am not home they help themselves to piggy bank and tell me when i get home.

When piggy is empty they tell me.

But when my bag is at home am at home too and be it Husband boyfriend or kids no one should enter my bag with out asking.

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Babyosis still refuses to answer what she will tell her child if they caught her taking money from Daddys wallet!

No Im not married yet but will be soon and if I need anything I will ask before I take it. Even if I know the answer will be yes and even if I am told "you dont need to ask before you take" its common manners

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Any wife, stealing 5 dollars from the husband has serious issues.@babyosis

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I will not take my hubby's money without letting him know (b4 or after) vise versa.

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you are again comparing apples and oranges.A leader and his nation to a wife and husband.

Who are the feminists anyway?

My man knows I take lunch money all the time from his wallet and will not deny it when asked,he does not expect me to ask for permission to take $5 dollars,he is not that petty over little things and it works for us.

I guess I'll say it depends on what sort of relationship you have with your spouse.

whatever works for you then.

They say marriage has no formula so everyone to his own way.

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when there's someone who does not understand that there is a difference between a wife and a child,need I say more?

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LadyT, honestly, I was just laughing at your rebuttal. Very classic and straight to the point. I hope other women would think like you.

Stealing can't be justified, no matter how meagre the amount it. Some of our leaders had the mindset, by stealing millions of Naira, because to them, the sum is paltry and would be undetected by the public. Marriages break down when there is no trust. So, for a wife, to go around sneaking behind her hubby's back, digging her sticky fingers inside his wallet, is condemnable.

Like I have asked those feminists on this board, "Why can't you all have a job, instead of relying on a man to provide you with basic necessities" If you are a homemaker/housewife, then, directly point out to your husband that the housing allownance is insufficient to cater to the needs of the household. If all else fails, get a job.

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Is this what you will teach your children? "Its only a couple of bucks"

Stealing is stealing its so laughable that people are trying to justify it.  And can I ask why you need to be asked before you confess your theft?  Why is it sooooooooo hard to have common decent manners and ask before you stick your grubby fingers into someones wallet? *rolls eyes*  I'm sure a lot of our past presido's and governors had the same mentality "its only a couple of MILLION Naira"

Rubbish and nonesense!

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i dont think its stealing but a woman shouldnt take money from the husband without his knowledge cos he might have budgeted that money for something else and not finding it there might make him angry.

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It is stealing, she obviously knew there was something wrong with it to go behind your back and take the money. If she can not be upfront and ask you for money rather than take it without your knowledge, then it shows she has no respect for you.

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If my husband takes money from my purse,it's no stealing.

I have no problems with it.

C'mon Ndipe we are talking a couple of bucks here and there its not like your taking his pin number and wiping out his bank account.

As long as the woman doesn't deny it when asked,there is nothing wrong with it.

If a woman has to "steal" from her husband on a regular basis and worst still denies it,it's a different issue,such a man may consider giving her allowances,he may be too stingy and giving her no choice but to watch out for his wallet (or Ghana must go bag) .

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And what if the man is 'stealing' from his wife? Would you women condone it? Ete, I am tired for some women, they are advocating for feminism on one hand, while being dependent on their husband for finances on the other hand. What else do you want? You cant eat your cake and have it.

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If you live in Nigeria without social security what do you expect your wife to do. Haba!. If it's some "careless change" it wouldn't bother me. If however we are both leaving in a country with social security benefits, then it would bother me.

Last thing i would want is her building a 3 bedroom house in her village with my money.

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