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Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse?

Consider family setting , is it ideal to disclose the actual salary you earning to your spouse?

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"my hubby knows exactly how much l earn. He even knows my ATM pin and l know his. We operate joint and separate accounts. He is into private business, l might not know exactly how much he makes a month but l have idea, as long as he contributes his quota to the joint account and fulfills his obligations at home, no qualms.

Theres no need to hide your earnings. People hide when they feel their spouse will take advantage of it. l think if u have a financial plan for your home, there wont be need for 'financial hide and seek game'"

SAME APPLIES; WELL SAID

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I couldn't imagine not knowing what my fiance makes, talk less of a spouse (and vice versa). I don't understand this need to be secretive; when you rush to hide your pay, it would make me feel you're doing something you're not supposed to be doing. If something as intimate as finances are a no-man's land, I'd wonder about the rest of the relationship.

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Before I got married 7years ago I vouch not to let my wife know how much I earn.

But experience as taught me a lesson. I strongly support MyPeace and r231.

It is just the best As it will remove any doubt or assumption on the part of your spouse.

Learn from other peoples experiences. It works. Unless you have something to hide.

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i ve been married for 10 yrs and , till date my wife dont know how muchh i earn , and we ve lived happily ever since. letting her know my income may distrupt that happy home, it had been working for me sinse yr 2000. it has nothing to do with trust. i will not trade my family happiness for that so called 'trust'. my wife makes her own money too, and i have never bothered about how much she makes, i still do all the finances at home despite her little income, which she uses as per her discretion, guys, there is really no hard and fast rule to this issue. but follow what works best for u and ur familly.

good luck to you

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There should be no secret between patners. Love is greater than anyother thing, so disclosure of salary to your patners should not be a big deal (when there is love.)

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the greatest mistake of a man's life is to tell his wife how much he earn. I will never do that because it will always cause problem in the house, believe me. trust has nothing to do with it. a man is the head of the home and must maintain that position. ur wife may start monitoring ur expensis and u may loose ur freedom to do what please u with ur money. some like me give money to people a lot, and my wife is not comfortable with that

any man worth that name should not fall for the cheap trust rhyme, wake up male folk and dont let women box u into a corner,

(mo wi ire abi mi o wi ire?- o wi ire) is it well spoken?

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My wife already knows how much I earn.

Why shouldn't she?

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Femmi, wetin u wan read? I'll only raise d thread with kulyies permission. Dont want all our biz on d outside.

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Raise the thread now . . . . .we will love to read

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@Kulyie, not guilty. I told u; u just didnt believe. Do u want me 2 raise a thread about us on NL? Take ur time o, lol

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blessed one

u really need to chill out

haba wetin u're damn too aggressive for a woman

u can pass your pt across without going personal

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Kini big deal she has my ATM i have check book, y nt

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Why won't I, what is She my Wife for. I need not hide anything from her.

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yes why not, we are one. if i no tell am shey na my mama i wan tell

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I once had a BF dt wz always after my dough,didn't count it as a big deal at d initial stage(at least there's Luv in sharing,so 2 speak) but then it so happened dt I had 2 resign in order 2 further my studies, Kasala com burst! We finally separated when he insisted on collecting my T-fare to school. Sooooo,

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why not if not? are we not one?

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depends how close she is to me and her attitude

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Ideally , one should not hide his/her salary from his/her spouse. But a lot of things shld be put into consideration when taking a decision regarding this. But whatever decision one takes, it shld be in the interest of both partners and the family.

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if it is not a woman that has fear of God,it is not good

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I believe that once you are married, you become one in everything including sharing each other's income. A spouse should not keep any secrets from his/her spouse including how much they make, A married couple should have joint accounts because you are one and no one should be greedy,

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na wa oh.

I think this is something for the women to note that, the men in their lives is afraid oh

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I wonder for the women that people are marrying , if you can not share your income with your wife .

i understand not giving full access so there is some control on spending but seriously if you can not trust your wife to know your income why do you trust her to feed you and your children, she can kill you and take all that money you have been hiding under the mattress

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There are no fast rules to this,

What may be favorable in one circumstance may be adverse in another. Full disclosure has led to Bliss or Pain in some cases.

As humans we need to apply the innate gift of discernment in our social relationships,

Every marriage requires a constant pulse check to determine what best applies,

Yes "Trust" may be everything, but the "Betrayal of Trust" is a gaping reality in human relationships.

Full or partial disclosure, the choice is yours.

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depends, i cant tell a gf but i can tell ma wifey.

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I tell my gf how much i make,,,,right from the time i was on pocket money.what's there to hide anyway?

We just have to focus on the big picture except both of you stumbled into the studio out of curiosity.

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i cant disclose,my salary with my hubby,bt i can do all i can 2 make our marriage work,and supporting him fully.if he has economic melt like nigerians are now,i wl support him wt al i av.

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ofcourse, couples should not hide anything from themselves. it starts problems and affects trust

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As long as you are "husband and wife" not "man and woman" it is fine.

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You have to think carefully about who wears the pants in your household. Has she turned you into the female instead of the male? Part of been a man of the house is providing for your family with adequate input from your wife. Do you have visions for the future or just accepting your fate as sealed by God. When you show good common sense with money,then salary issues should not be fully discussed. If she earns more than you, you have my sincere goodluck on how long you stay married and what role you play.

Be carefull how you surrender that salary info because next will come the distribution method. Women by nature want to be in charge and guys by nature think they are in charge.

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With all pleasure i will do that any time and any day . It makes live easier for me. This is to forestall an occassion where my wife will collect fifty thousand naira wrapper whereas my take home pay is twenty thousand naira. Besides, since both of us are one by virtue of the sacrament of matrimony, we ought to be privy of each other's account. Let me as well add that any marriage shrouded in secrecy is bound for the rock.

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Sister if any woman takes that step then she should be ready for any unseen and probably irreconcilable consequences.  Full disclosure of salary does not necessarily translates to full usage in the right directions.  There are different model of marriages and both parties have to sit and plan a workable model that satisfies both party. one mans meat is another's mans poison. There is no general rule about salary and marriage. Our mothers of yesterday did not ask our fathers all these questions. I wonder what the world is turning to in relation to the African culture.

As a christian The bible says the man is the head of the house ( though both of them are equal), So in matters like this where there is no clear rule. The woman should abide and trust the final judgment of the man.

ouch  i thought the post was in the religion section.

After all those men killing their wives who are nurses in the USA practiced full disclosure.

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When a woman earns her salary she should bring it home kneel down before her husband

or prostrate before him and give him her salary then the man will rub her back and said

thou humble, sweet and melody wife take this pocket money then I will handle the rest. no be so? ochi ato gbuo lam

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my husband thinks he can play on my intelligence.whn we got married and i asked him how much he earned he said above 200 thousand.he wasnt specific about the exact amount.when i started working he stylishly asked how much i earned and i also stylishly said above 100thousand.he makes me laugh at times wit his response to some serious questions.maybe cause he is a lawyer so he feels he is smart.

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As a man, disclosing your salary to your wife is like telling the vulture where the meat is. I'm not saying women are vultures o but they do come close. . .well. . most of them!

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Based on your comment above, I disagree with you.  I know your live in the Uk and based on this fact, this issue is so easy.  It seems to me your wife does not know her rights and probably, does not know how to find out.  I suggest she write your Boss and HR Department requesting full and complete information about your salary. If they fail to provide that, she should go through her solicitors and you all will sh-t.  You know, there are lots of things she could cite for the NEED TO KNOW then, you will realise you are dealing with a clever woman and never again play this childish game.  I don't blame you guys for doing this to women, I blame it on the MUGGU women who don't know their left and right and would not ask for help to open their eyes.  I am really angry with them because they keep letting us down, all the time.

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Its a question that always crop up at most gatherings and the answers you get can be very revealing especially of the personality of the one talking. Just as the personlaities of those commenting on this topic is showing. The simple answer to this question is YES, I can disclose what my salary is to my spouse. Apart from the benefits other NLs have posted, I want to state this, if your spouse knows how much you earn, it will be very unlikely for her to demand for what you do not have. For a home to be free from money rancour, it is best to be open when it comes to finance in the home.

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Men are losing their value,I will tell her everything,my girlfriend knows all,she was there when my salary was increased and so on,keep talking and what happened when you took that oat in church/court.A man must have principles people and make sure you do your duties,do not fail in your duties in any form as a man.am warning you now, do not start life that way.Her heart is an ocean of deep secrets not minding the love.Did I mention am married with 2 boys and still she does not know anything about my salary but I make investments for her and the kids for their future that is my responsibility.

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It is important that you are your spouse are on the same page.  The bible says "Shall two walk together except they be agreed?"

My wife knew how much I made before we got married, we have joint accounts and individual accounts.  She has access to every account and has all my passwords and atm pin.  It is essential that marriage is built on trust and that is how we have managed to keep our marriage working.

Most importantly there is peace in our home, although I manage the finances, she trusts my judgement in these area and she knows that I am financially prudent.

I believe in full disclosure, although difficult it is very necessary.

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My gfriend knows everything about me. It is good to be free but very careful in everything.

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Only my boss knows how much i earn.

Not telling your wife is not an indication of trust issues.

It's just a need to have a level of privacy.

After all, why would she even need to know about every single penny?

All she needs to know is when you inform her that either you can afford something or not.

As long as the family is thriving financially, i dont see the need for all the details.

But then that's just me. . . . . .

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What a selfish lady? I pity ur husband/would be husband.

For me, it is compulsory to disclose everything to ur spouse including ur income.

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That is the biggest mistake any man can ever make. And this mistake unlike others does not have any remedy. Provide for your spouse as much as your income will allow. Full stop. Dont go inviting complications.

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yes of course, as far as love is selfless! and only a selfish person will not be able to do that.

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I will not disclose how much i earn, but he will disclose his own to me, afterall they say its a man world so i need to know how much he earns to model his obligatory family commitments, and i can support him with whatever i have.

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always have always will.

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