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Can You Marry A More Successful Woman?

African men are known to be egoistic and it is also known that they don't like a woman to be higher than them.

Guys on this forum, can you marry a more successful woman? I mean a woman that is wayyyyy richer than you. For example, maybe she has 2 cars while you are still perching on okada all around or maybe she already has her own establishment while you are still struggling to get a job. Can you say "I do" to a woman who will foot 99% of your wedding bills and even buy the suit you will wear on that day?

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true love really matters, I can

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@Topic I will over and over again. It enhances marriage

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Marrying a more successful woman should not be a big deal, i think it is time for Nigerian men to let go of the ego and remember that being a family is not just about being the head, but that someone has to be the neck, which is the woman, and being the head doesn't mean ordering the person around.

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WHY NOT

what has money got to do with this

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There is nothing wrong in it.

But the problem is that most women will allow it get into their head and want to "take over" the headship of the home.

This is where the problem begins and if not handled properly ends in a very bitter "WAR".

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Olohun maje,Olohun maje,Olohun maje oooooooooooooooooooooooo.

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It depends on her attitude. With the right traditional attitude, of course yes! Anything else, make she go look for people way like wahala!

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I'm looking for a more succesful woman. I guess I am not looking in the right places. I hardly meet them

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A woman will respect he who respects her ( I didn't say worship o). A guy could be handsome, rich, good in bed and a whole lot of things. however, i've noticed smething almost all women like. A guy they can look up to. Like a mentor or something. Someone she can easily approach with a question and knows that she will get a wise answer. Even if she has all the monet in the world, you'll tell her how to spend it. Get my drift?

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Oh Hell yeah! In fact, thats my target

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Go read about infosys, its a multi-billion dollar company in india. The guy had to borrow money from his wife in the beginning to start the business now its worth billions. There's really nothing wrong you just have to be smart about it and use it to your advantage.

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the choice of marrying a more successful woman depends on atittude,if the rich woman u want to marry believes she is richer than u and that u can't control her,then no matter what u do u will always have problems with her becos African culture and even the bible dictates that a woman must respect the husband,no matter what she thinks she is.but if the woman has the right attitude,there is nothing wrong in marring her

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i would really like to know ur opinion on this new topic cause as a woman u could make me understand better.

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Well i think if one is not egocentric i wouldn't mind marring a more succesful woman

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There aint nuthin wrong with it.

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@seun- submissive doesn't necessary mean u are dominating her. she certainly sholud hv a mind of ur own, to make the home more beautiful and lively.she obeys u when u are making sense and politely reject ur decision when u are not with cogent reason to prove u wrong. if not there will be disorder in that home when l woman is not submissive. Seun at the end of the day, u will not hv a lively home but a likely home because u will hv something that look like a home but later found out that it is a garage.

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i can marry a woman richer than me,as far as she submits to me

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To ANY MAN ASKING THIS QUESTION, answer is GETOVERRRIT

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I would not hesitate to marry a woman more successful than me as long as she is humble. Humility is key! Money can't buy a happy family life

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lol, i know, i mean i'm just tryin to imagine that, marryin a guy and payin all the bills in the house, i'm sorry, it just too hard to imagine. not cuz of money but, there's just sumfin about it. its like tryin to imagine gettin married to a christain.

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People, its quite funny 4 a guy to attend his wedding in his bride's car,his bride paying the bills 4 everything,and even his best man's suit. That is so not it!  i wonder how many ladies will like that.

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lmao, why dont i believe the guys who say that having their wives earn more than they do wont bother them?, it cant be bcuz i dont believe them can it? i mean its no real big deal, i can just see someone like Oprah marrying one of her make up artists guyz! hmmm, really convenient dont you think? plz guyz dont make me laugh! i mean plz!!! and then maybe if you guyz go for a dinner party of one of ur not so mutual friends(i mean she has two cars and u r still takin Okada) then whats gonna happen, you are surrounded by glamour and glitz of the cream de la cream of the society, she fits right in, while you are there totally resenting her for being so much at home while you feel like an outsider, ofcourse you wont mind, yeah right!

abeg make una face reality, we girls are always shouting of our insecurities but do you know guyz have much much much more fragile egos than we do.women, we have more strength than we really think.

i doubt if any guy that marries a more succesful woman than would be able to make that marriage last, even if he loves the woman more than he loves his life, his pride will always come in between them.

then, i dont think i can marry a guy who isnt making enuff to support the family, i was brought up with the image of a guy being the head of the family, so he's gotta have something going. i mean, he might not be the only one supportin the family, i'll definitely put in my 2cents but he's gotta have something SOLID goin for him.

Seun, wow!!! ur post knocked me off my feet, it was so totally unexpected and i respect that in a guy. i hope u put those words into action when you finally get married.

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he above statement is made in an ideal situation. In any case, as my grandmother would say( GOd rest her sould) what you wont take as a rich man, you reject it right from when you're still poor. The success or otherwise of the marraige is made long before the wedding.If you don't take time to study and understand who you are getting married to, then you will hastily retreat from the wedding.

true.

it's takes a woman that's God fearing not to go haywire being the one footing your bills from day 1 of ur marriage till weneva , not to get bossy. i know of a lady who was richer than her hubby and they got wedded for just 6months now she's tellin the guy she want's a divorce, Guys if u goin to get married to a richer lady make u sure u do ur best to step up after ur weddin if not u go wound oh,

how abt this topic" how do ladies feel gettin married to a man less succesful @ thier staus"

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A marriage 'partnership' should not be competitive but complementary, you should strive to align yourselves for optimal success, as a unit not for individual egotistical motives.

All this "I will stive to do better than her, " is nonsense.

If two companies merge to become one would it make any good business sense for the companies to keep competiting for business?

Na wetin dey kill as be that, we are always trying to 'out=show' one another.

Abeg, if my future Mrs dey better skilled than me, and they wan make am CEO of Microsoft or whatever then hey, I'm happy with that!

The most important thing is that whatever decisions WE make makes the most sense for our family unit (for example: me, taking on more of the business of the home ie picking kids from school, or me relocating with her, or even quitting my own job, etc)

Supporting one another is key, not competing to see who can do more,

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this is some topic, well many guys don't like getting married to women that are more successful than they are, coz we know what happens at the end of the day.

However, the fundamental or root of every romantic relationship or marriage is [b]LOVE.[/b]so i don't think that is a problem but itz still dangerous

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hmmmm Bisanke i guess u into this system.

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I think every man shud b happy if his wife is successful. Because the wife wont be depending on the guy for nothing and she's got a career. But i know most guys dont allow there wives to be like actresses,models things like that i think thats what they really get pissed for.

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yea,y not.i can marry a more successful woman,it does not matter,the sinei-qua-non thing in this whole issue is to have an understanding woman,who will be submissive,to the husband.

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There is a basic problem nowadays; women or ladies as they are preferred to be called are easily influenced by friends who want them to have problems for reasons best known to God. She may have good intentions despite the fact that she is rich. But situations around will warrant that she misbehaves one day.

It is not a misnormer but is the woman ready to respect her husband. I known an elderly woman who built a four bedroom flat apartment but her husband has the final say on all her dealings with her tenants. Can we have a thousand of such women in our society?

I got to know that the building was not for the man after his demise.

There is nothing wrong in marrying such a woman what is her motive for saying I DO

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I think there is nothing wrong with marrying a woman that is more successful than you. I look at it as a challenge,it will make me strife harder.

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I think there is nothing wrong with marrying a woman that is more successful than you. I look at it as a challenge,it will make me strife harder.

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I raelly don't believe that my wife should take up to 99% of marriage expenses.

Ego just won't allow me.i will work harder to make more money than my wife being the man.Honestly a friend is in dat poo now.He is regreting everything,divorce is on his lips 24/7.Guys work hard,very FEW women will understand that you don't have.

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Yes I can. I can because if she really loves and not that I will become a slave for her and i am not also loving her for her money then let us proceed to te altar. I think she has a matured lady will not let people know that she is the one taking care of the family cos she will like to put everything in care of me.

But i don't pray to be poor anyway, presntly i still cater for my family but if it is what happened before now, i will go for her on the basis i said earlier.

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Ya i can marry Who EVER i Feel to.

Fu*K what all the critics say is right and wrong. ALWAYS DO YOU SIMPLE!!!

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I don't want to be a puppet husband. I want to be a real man that am supposed to be.That man in me must not be compromise.

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yeah, i think i can marry a woman richer than me , marriage is all about love though the money is important too  but its just all about love. and guys please how can i post a new topic here on nairaland, can somebody teach me how by writing me a private mail or take hisor her time to write me on hop2021@yahoo.com, i will really appreciate it.thx

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Its not bad, but it depends on the attitude of the person if she wants to be dominering towards me because of her cash, then thats a NO. Whatever the situation of cash marriage isnt supposed to be based on the cash just understanding between both partners. The guy can even become more successful than her. Just like David Becham wasnt as rich as victoria when they got married, but who can compare them now.

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For a smart man, that could be to your advantage. Many successful men has been at a point in their life set up by a richer (or more connected) wife and later become the breadwinner. An example is even my own boss. So I can def marry a richer woman you just have to be smart about it and not wait around for her to bring money to support you.

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i aint got no problem wid it as far as she wont try to tell me she is the boss of me cuzz dats when i will tell her i got a koko and she aint got nada. ones we are happy, it dont matter who is richer dan who but imm@ be richer though. so help me God. Amen.

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It takes success to recognise another success. That a woman has more money than a man is not a taboo. As  for marrying a woman with more money than you-- Its great and men should thank God because over 60 percent of the expenses will be taken care of by the lady. So u can go and buy presents for the kids and wife with out thinking other things are being neglected. For a rich person it wont be "how much the gift cost" but the "thought" behind the gift. Marrying a lady richer than u does not mean u don't have money. Remember u have become one and as a result her money automatically becomes urs. Thats the reality in marriage.  The question is what kind of Marriage do u want. God's model or Contrat model.  For contract the woman keeps all her belongings but when God joins u, u become one. Period. So guys go ahead and marry Mrs Rich. God has brought her ur way so u don't have to struggle through life.

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there are some women out there that are competitive when it comes to comparing what their husbands/boyfriends make. its not only men that feel "threatened" (for lack of a better word) by what their partners make. as a woman, i would want to make as much as my husband, if not more, why not? but i think the main issue is what comes as a result of that. most women tend to become domineering and bossy once they are in that position and men dont like that. there should be some form of respect between 2 people irrespective of whos making more money. with more money comes a sense of power and its up to the person to control it and not let it get out of hand, man or woman.

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Good one. I like that. Seriously!!!

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Only if she is 100% loyal totally to the Lord All Mighty. then i can marry. if not. forget it

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I don't want my wife to be submissive, because I should not be dominant.

I don't want my wife to be meek because I should not be haughty.

But I want my wife to be respectful to me just as I am respectful to her.

"Humble and submissive" women are disgusting. I want a woman that's really alive!

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y not, if she understand what marriage is. that if she can be submissive, respectful and humble.

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yes i can do all things

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