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Can You Marry Someone From A Broken Home?

can you marry anyone from a broken home? why do we have broken marriages these days? and what can we do to stop a home from breaking?

These are questions bugging my mind. Who can help me out?

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@ Poster,

What is wrong with marrying someone from a broken home?

There are people from broken homes who have learnt how not to get their homes broken. So it all depends on you.

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Broken homes are results of marrying for wrong reasons.

1. My mates are getting married so i must

2. he's rich and drives a big a$$ed jeep

3. his/her family is responsible/ rich

etc

list is endless, many cosmetic reasons for marriage.

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Someone from a broken home can decide not to have a broken home.

It is not where you are from that defines a man, but where you are and where you wanna be.

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I wont advise any man to marry a girl raised by a single mother sha

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Thanks Easyym. I had to start another thread on this crap cuz I was so pissed when I read some misinformed posts on this topic, it just showed me how shallow lotta people think. Anyway Easy, I appreciate ur post.

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I'M FROM A BROKEN HOME! Does that make me bad? Hell No! I believe it's a learning process cuz I wouldn't want my marriage to fail. I might even prefer someone from a broken home who's been thru what I've been thru so we could love and appreciate our marriage better. It's not the home, it's the person!

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if i love the person i can

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What happened to anyone does not define who they are, what defines who we are, is how well we rise after falling. Having a blissful marriage goes beyond, what family we were both raised from, it's more about who we choose to be.

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We can't really blame retro. it's sound crazy but you have to have the experience to understand it.

@retro

sthick to your believe only if no part of you says it wrong!

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Sure. Just because he's from a broken home doesn't mean he's gonna have a broken home.

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Broken home Broken home how many people stay together because of eye serves,?

Picking Husband or wife because of unbroken home is also eye service,

I this day and age even kings are marring below their class very normal women , one even brought a child into the marrage and her father is a drinker ( is that in Sweden?)

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Yeeee why not,wetin happen whats that got to do with me and my partners future,as long as we both are in love and all other things considered are in place,omo life goes on.We cant continue to linger on our bad past else the future will be worse,life is all bout risk.

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Oh, so i should take the risk of getting divorced? Think about my children here. They probably grew up with 2 loving parents and all and few years later bam!, they get divorced? Think of how that'll traumatize them. It traumatized me, like hell. I certainly DO NOT want them going through that pain, EVER.

I would not take risks at the expense of my children's future/life.

For your information, i'm madly in love with someone right now, but i don't want to marry him. He isn't even talking to me to begin with.

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You haven't lived life or experienced love if you don't take risks, that's what it's all about.

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I'm from a broken home and i'm not planning on getting married.

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@nikinash

Go to Mapquest.com and download the direction to the Jungle. I'll put you up in one of my most cozy trees. You'll love the big oak tree on the eastside. I assure you, you'll forget all your trauma coming from a broken home.

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yall who say u cant marry or date someone from a broken, i'd love to know the criteria yall base ur judgements and opinions on.

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@bolaoni

Of course, na AJ- African Jungle! Not Ajegunle.

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If I can afford to fix the roof, windows and doors. Definitely a fresh coat of paint will fix all the wear and tear.

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Thank you nikinash, like I always say, love can move mountains and can heal all wounds only if dosage can be administered. TRUE Love knows no failings and habours no ill feelings.

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good for you da saint. like i said before, that someone came form a broken home may actually make him/her a better spouse. besides people who don't come from broken homes are all great are they?

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I am happy alot of us guys are begining to uderstand what it takes to make a marriage last, I would say 40% understanding mixed with 40% love,spice with some amount of love and finally 20% caring attitude. I am presently dating a girl from a broken home but to tell you the truth, she is very caring, loving and understanding.

Of all the girls I have gone out with she was the one I least expected to be this special in my life, to me I will say she is one in a million and I am crazy about her too, I try to do my best to keep her happy and safe from any problems that may arise from my family, she is good with my Mum and dad, and that I think where most of the troubles comes from. But i have been able to nip that in the bud.

Not all girls from broken homes turn out to be bad and mean spouses.

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raldsfield ,thanks for your comments ma broda!It is not easy,but it is very possible to make the best out of any terrible experience. You have the right attitude,so just keep it up. I have thought many times of writng a book,but I sometimes feel no one will believe the stories I have! If you ever write the book,make sure I get a copy.

Marraige works ,only when both partners are committed to making it work. But most importantly, both partners should share a common belief, have open communication, and avoid interference from others(whoever they may be!)

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As for me i will like to marry from a broken home cos im from one n i know the cause and remedies.

so i really dont fear anything

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Maybe the first question should have been "How many people come from a broken home?"

I come from one, I think I can talk abit about it.

It all depends on the mentality of the individuals involved. Sometimes, you won't even notice that they come from a broken home, but some people have been so badly affected by their experience that they find it so difficult to relate to members of the opposite sex without recourse to their experience of their families.

So, it all depends on the individuals involved and the mentality exhibited.

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I really can't understand this unnecessary fear. Do u know that almost 50% of an average young guyz/girls actually come from a broken home. Y? 'cos the family unit system has broken down in our society. 80% of these pple come out strongly, well determine to face the future and have a settled family for themselves. They are very sensitive and totally avoid 'repeating history' They r more cautious and careful in a relationship. I am not just talking theories and exposing facts around me, please that is definitely NOT an issue.

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yea it does affect they way the person will see others especially if its a woman if she had a father who cheated on her mother openly or who beat her mother it will definately affect the way she sees other men

but if you truely love the person then you should be ready to face anything for better for worse

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Of course you can marry someone from a broken home. There are many great children that grew to be amazing adults that have come from broken homes. Someone mentioned earlier about experience being the best teacher and I have to agree with them.

You can always see how your family struggled to deal with a broken marriage which could only motivate a person to work hard at keeping their union together. Also, as in any relationship one must work hard at keeping it together. If you're dealing with two determined people, no matter the background they would strive to make it work.

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for myself i wouldn't like to marry from a broken home. I pray not to marry from a broken home. If u feel like going ahead then u have to bear whatever comes out of it. I wish u all the best. cheers

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i dont see anything wrong wit marrying someone from a broken home,

so sure,why not love is love

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I would advise anyone dating anybody from a broken home to really take time out to study him/her.

I married someone from a broken home, but I went ahead because I knew my partner was like a 'rebel' in her family. Someone like that would obviously not have imbibed the negative attitudes of a broken home. In most cases, if a lady is very close to her mum who is from a broken marriage, her impression of MEN would extend to the daughter and that would definitely affect her.

People should know that the same rule does not apply to everybody. Study your partner very well and never allow your emotions to rule your head. What is more important is your lasting happiness.

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Why not, it is the mentality that matters not the totality of her background I will go ahead ofcourse and marry her if I love her.

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julietnice I guess everyone in this life deserves a chance, what if the guy turns out to be the best man you've ever met, would you say he was God sent but the devil tried to play pranks with his fate by bringing him out of a broken home? How you treat anyone from a broken home detemines how that person will turn out to be in future. Like some one said, "There is nothing wrong with that, ones past never determines ones future, only makes you stronger."

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As far as I am concerned, Love is the determinate factor in any relationship, so if the girl I am dating or planning to take her to the altar is from a broken home, I guess I would only check to see if she truly loves me and not if she is from a broken home. One thing we fail to understand is that much love shown to any one who has had problems from the home front, generally brings out the best out of that person.

So for me I would say I would get married to a girl from a broken home, 'cuz as much as I know, what ever happened in her family will not rub off on her or my relationship with her, all I would do is to show her love like she had never been loved before in her life. I will make her so comfortable that she would have little or no time to sit and be thin king of what happen ed to her parents and there by allowing things to affect our relationship. i will try to give her much of my time and love and most of all give her the due respect for a woman.

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There is nothing wrong with that, ones past never determines ones future, only makes you stronger.

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for me anyway , i cant marry a guy that is from a broken home, that is sure for me

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