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Can You Marry Someone You Don't Love?

Every other thing you need in a relationship is found in this person and he or she is likable but you don't love that person. Can you marry such a person?. Please vote

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Yes I will if d situation warrant it!we can build lv together.most marriages didn't start with dat chemistry and still stands.some girls marry with a preconditioned heart.provided d respect and finance is there,carry go!an average igbo gal marry for d doo, also when ur biological clock is thickin,u will still be waitin for prince charming,I hail u all, unless u don't want to marry and u hv all d time in d world.I hv friends dat r in their forties, tell me how will de start,people came but they were lookin for what I don't know.now they r goin to diff churches,castin and bindin what I don't know while they missed their opportunities waiting for prince charming.and who said that pple that so much lv each other don't hv marital problem and even divorce?

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no i cant because i do not want to divorce

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again, it's in the mind. simple!

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Na true u talk oh, cos it is damn easy for ladies to mistaken good talk to love

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I can't even imagine a scenario close to marrying someone I don't love because its going to be a disastrous one indeed. It will be "so so wahala every minute". God forbid

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abi. many young ladies made the mistake of falling into this love hype that they

passed their prime before realising only too late.

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Methinks that this LOVE thingy is overrated. If every other thing is complete and the sex is great, me I go marry o!!! I can't shout abeg!!!

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People really don't marry for love this days.Hate me all you can,people most especially girls marry degrees,sex,money and material things in general while guys on the other hand marry beauty sometimes money and literacy.

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Marrying some one u do not love is a big disaster

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Why would you even spend the rest off your with someone you don't love.?,

No scratch that, You need to be in love with that person, It won't be a successful marriage if your not i love.

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yes of course, it depends on the situation. life is not cast in stone. will you expect a 34+ woman to keep waiting for love rather than snatch a marriage opportunity and produce kids before the damned eggs run out? leave the fall in love thing for teenagers and those below 28years. They also eventually find out that love is what you make of it especially when you wake up to the same man everyday for a couple of years

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@topic

It would be downright dumb for a man in particular to marry a woman that he does not love.

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NO i can't how will i marry someone i don't love impossible

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There are the conditions.

1. Wealth

2. Sex

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PLEASE DON"T COMMIT SUICIDE!

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Is this question for real? Why on earth would you want to make a lifelong comitment to someone you are not actually in love with? Marriage works on love, trust and friendship as well as other factors.

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love is a phenomenon,from personal experience Its working right here in my matrimonial home. Some married men might have experience such too, Now I believe my wife is the most precious woman in the world. A worthy wife to envy. She is more than a jewel,  true wife, best lady for any desiring husband. (I only tell her this in a pragamtic ways).  Back to the topic,Love transcends beyond words,and all the theories we read in the book,I believe love has an inherent pull that is beyond us. No one can say how much he/she will love or hate in future. things change. Life has taught me that "you can be the change you hate so much" love differs from infatuations,we see newly married who separate on wedding eve,we see friends who celebrates 20 years of "happy married life" God is all knowing. for me I am enjoying and loving my woman than yester years thought. I really love her so much,we both dont believe it. Our son (in the profile) now add to the passion with his attitudes.  Wish the poster the best

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I've never felt that way.

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How do you know you are in love and how will you know a man who loves you?

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Their must be love in marriage in order to succeed. I can not marry some one that i don't love because it might be disastrous. I need to know that i love her first before i will now try to know if she actually loves me in return before i will venture deeply into the relationship.

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u guys get sumfins straight. love is over rated these days.

love is a feeling thatdoes not last foreva, bonding and understanding kip couples togeda.

if u meet a guy/girl that meets 60-70% of what u desire in a spouse, u mean u wud leave d person cos, u don't love him/her.

CHARACTER IS BASIC, not trivial feelings, love is good but not the most essential, it wears off with time. and come on, we dont even know the definition of love these days

and for the records, proximity does a whole lot, u cud love d meanest person on earth courtesy proxy.

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You have said it all.

Most people have a rather lopsided conception of love. Most of what we perceive love to be these days are borne out of our exposure to foreign culture. All across the world, the western culture which unarguably are the greatest evangelist of "modern" love and romance, sadly have the highest rate of unhappy homes and divorce in all of the world history. Think this is a coincidence? It isn't. I think we are all privy to the fact that our forefathers, whether you are Yoruba, Hausa or Ibo never had this kind of rather bogus definition for love and yet, they enjoy the best of marriages. Love is more than a fantasy, a teenage wishful thoughts or a fever that can be caught on the fly. It is a whole lot different from that. Love is understanding, maturity and willingness to make things work. Little wonder celebrities with unrealistic fantasies and expectations almost always fall in and out of love like it is some roulette games. Love is not instantaneous, it springs up from true friendship and with true understanding, maturity and the willingness to make things work, love blossoms. Like every good things,It is never a day job. We young people are so accustomed to fast things, the internet, the ATMs, and the fast foods, yes it obliterate our true meaning of love. This statement is almost true, if you can stand me, then,you can love me. Love takes time.

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No! No!! No!!! Love is essential in marriage, although i must admit that Love only does nt guarantee a happy marriage.

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You are right.

Some pple think when u are shaking over a guy/lady, when u think without ur head , then means u are in love.

Love comes later, initially l can call it LIKE or ATTTRACTION, but as ur true character unfolds within the marriage, you begin to understand each other better, tolerate and forgive easily, then u call it love.

Most times infatuation, lust are called LOVE, thats why we have divorce cases, unhappy homes all over the place.

Love is reality and not an abstract thing - sometimes u hear sentences like ' l just love her'. To me Love is Character! and you can never know ur partner until you are living with him or her.

There is True Love but it comes later!!

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Love has bin a little bit hard on u. U r coming up in yrs (say 35?). Each time u love a guy, he falls asleep on u. Some guy comes along after yet another disappontment in love; he LOVES u. Ready to marry u. U dnt love dis guy (not yet anyway), wat do u do. U tell him NO 'cos u r waiting 4 Cupid to shoot his arrow?

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What then will be withholding the love?

The love shld then be automatic. Except ur heart is battling with someone/something else.

To ur question: YES

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I guess so, sure. Marriages aren't always built on true love. It could be done for reasons that are legal, economical, social, etc. How long such a marriage would last is a different story!

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I don't think this topic is news when it comes to arranged marriage.

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Love has more to do with will than feeling. You can will yourself to love someone. You might not be attracted to them physically but you can still will yourself to love them.

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ok oooo! just be happy that you're not female.

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i can probably do it 4 a period of time.

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Yeah, love is overrated

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personally i can not marry the i do not love cause there wouldnt peace in the marriege

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Marriage of convenience

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Marry the one you love which obviously is the one with the magic wetincall. Don't be deceived, if you marry the functional one just coz u want to eat good food and etc you will be miserable the rest of your life and end up taking a mistress that reminds you of the other lady, When a guy loves a lady he is ready to tolerate all her shortcomings and be happy no matter what but if he does not love her even the slightest mistake d lady makes pisses him off and irritates the hell out of him no matter how almost perfect she is, A word is enough for the wise my dear!!

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marriage is all about accepting your partner the way he/she is, this is impossible to achieve if you guys are not in love.

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@Ben2001

Nothing personal I am speaking from experience

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@Ben2001

Don't be naive to go into marriage thinking you can change anything about a person, it doesn't work that way

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@bootycall

Are you married? If not then I wouldn't be surprised with your reply and would really be interested to know what other things you think are required for a succesful marriage

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