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Dna Results, Seriously, Is It A Curse Or A Blessing?

Trust, the underlying factor in a marriage cant be questioned when one's wife gives birth and the baby is a mirror image of the father. That was one of the determining factors used to establish the paternity of one's child, especially in olden times. But trust can be sabotaged. A woman can easily pin her pregnancy from an adultereous affair, on her unsuspecting husband. However, science is finally catching up with these unfaithful women as men, can now request through conventional means if a child is actually theirs, biologically or not. And in some cases, the old saying, "Only a woman knows the father of her child can easily be validated, not unless the woman had multiple relationships (Povich's show is an example)

But seriously, do you think that DNA has been more of a blessing than a pain? Larry Birkhead can always thank DNA for establishing paternity of her infant daughter, a slap to the cruel and malicious intentions of the mother (yeah, it was very malicious of Ms. Smith to have done so) to have presented her to another man. I am actually in awe that he went at great length to prove that he was the father. Others may have given up, besides, who can always be certain of their paternal rights?

On the other hand, read this story. http://www.nytimes.com/2007/04/10/us/10dna.html?_r=1&pagewanted=2&oref=slogin.

A man's attempt to bring in his children from Ghana ends in a tragedy, because DNA results came out to disprove his long held notion that only one of his four kids, he had invested financially and emotionally, like a dutiful father was his. Angst, despondence, a constant reminder that his late wife was unfaithful to him, perhaps in their marital life has weighed heavily on him, since he was presented with the results. His next move is to petition for them as their step-father. His only biological child from his late wife is in the states with him, while the the 'step-kids' , unaware of their true parternity are in Ghana, and wondering when they can join their 'father'.

If the DNA results had not been used, the Ghanaian would have gleefully believed that all those kids he had raised were actually his, and would have been excited in reuniting with them. DNA has only erased the pain, leaving behind a sense of betrayal. So, while the likes of Birkhead are rejoicing over the established paternity of their infant children, there are others, who are lamenting over the emotional void in their psyche due to the knowledge, courtesy of DNA that the children sired in one's marriage are not actually theirs biologically, but were products of an adulterous relationships.

Is the pain and angst associated with DNA really worth it, or do you consider it to be a blessing?

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nobody doubts that sisimose but when you have a man going into marriage with someone he supposedly loves with a mindset that he'll DNA test any offsprings proceeding from the union,I dare say that is no marriage.

I don't know any woman that would marry such a man if she knew this hidden agenda.

I would not!.

Not because I'm hiding anything but because marriage is supposed to be based on trust and there's is none here.

This guy is telling us that the woman doesn't have to show signs of infidelity for him to suspect foulplay,in other words she is guilty until proven innocent.

I hope no woman ends up in this situation because this would only be a tip of the iceberg.

She may be sniffed for smiling at the mailman.

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Na wa ndipe,were you burnt in a relationship that would make you have such a poor opinion of women in general.

Going into a relationship with such an attitude doesn't seem right,it's like going to the altar with divorce papers hidden in your glove compartment to make them handy just in case.

Stop watching all those silly sitcoms,dear.

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Abeg, make una no misconstrue what I had earlier written on the blessings/anguish that DNA has caused. I know that DNA has been a blessing in securing the freedom of innocent prisoners, particularly in the USA. We have read stories of incarcerated black men, who gained their freedom as a result of DNA test. However, the story of the Ghanaian man whose life has taken an emotional tailspin, after DNA results proved that he was not the father of three children that he had supported financially and emotionally could be a negativity. Should the truth have been told him, or should he have wallowed in blissful ignorance that those children were actually his, biologically? Of course now that the truth has been out, the trust that he had on his late wife has been shattered. In its place is angst, anguish, perhaps, bitterness and all sorts of negativity. If you were in your shoes, would you have preferred if the truth had been revealed to you, or would you just prefer to be completely ignorant about it?

As for those who are writing about trust, like some girl who told a respondent that if he had problems trusting his significant other, then he should not marry. I have to tell you that trust, however relevant in a relationship, can be shattered. There are stories of men, who trusted their wife, like the Ghanian man, only to realize through DNA test, that the wife was unfaithful to him, at least in the course of their marriage. Now, how can you reconcile the level of trust that the man had on the wife, and the wife's unfaithfulness?

Mine, trust or no trust, I am doing a DNA test on my kids. I dont want to be upended later on in life that so so and so does not belong to me biologically. It is better to know the truth at a young age, than to be confronted with facts later on in life.

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@davidylan

why should a Molested woman allow herself to get pregnant?

u are supposed to report to the police station pronto and from there straight to the hospital where they know what to do. the talk of pregnancy and dna wont even arise!

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my wife can never be Molested God forbid. But in the event it ever happens, it was not madam's fault. No matter how painful i will have to over look it and take whatever baby comes. No need to do a DNA test, even if it turns out negative i wont be giving that baby, my wife's flesh and blood, to a Molester! That is the best i can do to soothe her pain.

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I agree, but just a thought

a lady is married to her one and only, she gets Molested. Goes to the hospital, results prove her clean.

Couple continue in harmony, moths later she's delivered of a bouncing baby boy, man and wife are all happy to have a son.

Many years later, the boy is not his afterall (thanks to DNA), the tests taken at the hospital were inaccurate, no tests are 100% sure afterall.

It becomes a blessing because they now know the truth, but a curse because the guy might despise his wife for being Molested(something that was totally out of her contro), even if he doesn't, it takes an extraordinary man to take in the kid with all opened arms.

Now tell me, in that kind of a situation, does your above statement still apply??

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For me DNA is indeed a blessing,a similar thing happened to a friend of mine and then on I made a matter of policy to test all children I will have without madam's knowledge.Just to make sure,you just can't trust women,some women are still in love with their EX

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DNA! Best biological breakthrough of the century.

Thanks to DNA, Larry Birkhead can claim his daughter and not scum bags like Howard Stern. Thanks to DNA innocent people are not sent to jail for crimes not commited. Thanks to DNA we can now treat previously untreatable diseases.

If you are faithful to your partner DNA should be no problem to you.

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I don't really know. Imagine a man who is impotent and the woman decides to help his ego by "providing" him a child. This man might be aware of his fault. Just try and guess what would happen if by mistake he comes to find out that the child isn't his? His life would be ruined. I think in some cases this DNA things just causes more damage than good.

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