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Do U Think This Is Okay From An Inlaw To Be?

I used to be very close to my mother-in-law to be until suddenly things were not too cordial for reasons i dont know and her daughter doesnt know too. My gfriend's brothers too do not know why she has been behaving funny to me, all i know is that i am not too close to one of the younger brothers cos he his not aound.

Last xmas, i took a pack of hamper to my in-law to be as Xmas gift. She was the only one at home and she said she was going to get me something as my xmas gift too. I was still telling her not to bother but to my greatest surprise she went in and brought out some money and she put it in my hands. I was shocked, i refused to take it but she said she would be annoyed with me if i dont take it,  and that is it that she is too small to give me money? Still confused i sat and started gisting with her and thinking if it is right to take the money or not,  It is not that am a broke guy cos am planning to marry the girl so i insisted on returning the money but she wouldnt take it back.

My question is " is this normal? or she is only trying to say take the money u ve used to buy the gift back?

i hope i get the responses of those who are expeirenced in this area ( i dont think it is normal though). Thx.

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when i think of a hamper, i'm thinking clothing hamper, when did we start having xmas hamper, but then again naija has silly names for things.

it depends on how cheap the gifts in the basket were.

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@Ima, do you mean that Xmas hamper is not a befiting gift?

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hamper as in hamper you put clothes in or am i mistaken, why would you give someone a hamper, i understand men can't buy gifts but a hamper come on. did it have gifts in it or wat

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U just spoke my mind on this issue and i couldnt said it any better.

Also I think u should start making alternative arrangement else ur next thread will be

*MY MOTHER IN LAW IS A GOLD DIGGER* OR MY WOULD BE MOTHER IN LAW KILLED OUR LOVE*

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^^

did i jst read 2 same post from 2 same people

wtheck

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There are two things involved here. Its either she is sending a message across that what she needs from u is money and not a hamper. Or she thinks the hamper is too cheap, so she feels insulted and to tell u that she is not suffering and that money is not her problem, she gives it to u.

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There are two things involved here. Its either she is sending a message across that what she needs from u is money and not a hamper. Or she thinks the hamper is too cheap, so she feels insulted and to tell u that she is not suffering and that money is not her problem, she gives it to u.

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actually i tink u made d rite move as a potential son inlaw 2 present her a hamper and trying 2 refuse d money she forcefully gav u, its not too good 2 colect such but she is like a mother 2 u so u gat no choice than 2 colect it and tank her immensely cos i she's tryin 2 play a motherly care and i gues her strange attitude might av result sometin else

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No. You should give her money.

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@ Outstrip,   I collected the money, i only tried to refuse but she insisted,  so i had no choice than to collect it.

@Pwaves,   So u think she might be acting that way cos there is a wealthier man somewhere? but the girl hasnt told me anything like that. There were some guys sometimes she told me about that me her mum wanted her to go for but she didnt like them. The mum liked me too and maybe still likes me.

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Why did you refuse the money she gave you and then assume that she thought you might be broke. That says a lot.

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May be theres a welthier man with same intrest as u.

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And she thinks being nasty to you is the best way to go about getting her message across? Nah, i think there's more to it than that.

Have you asked your girlfriend?

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Funny as in :

Not picking my calls at times,

Not greeting and gisting with me like sh used to,

A friend of mine who know her a little is of the opinion that she just wants me to quickly make a move on her daughter (as in the proposal/engagement stuffs) and am not, cos she is the next t be married in her family, her elder sis is already married.

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Funny as in :

Not picking my calls at times,

Not greeting and gisting with me like sh used to,

A friend of mine who know her a little is of the opinion that she just wants me to quickly make a move on her daughter (as in the proposal/engagement stuffs) and am not, cos she is the next t be married in her family,  her elder sis is already married.

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On the xmas issue. . .Nah! I don't think it's weird. It's such a motherly thing to do.

How has she been acting funny?

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2 b onest, i dont tink it was ryt bt we know dat pipul ar diff. I dont tink she was tryin 2 bring u down. Just kip on being friendly with her. She wud come around. If she doesn't talk to her calmly and wit respect.

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2 b onest, i dont tink it was ryt bt we know dat pipul ar diff. I dont tink she was tryin 2 bring u down. Just kip on being friendly with her. She wud come around. If she doesn't talk to her calmly and wit respect.

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