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Do Women Change After Marriage?

Hey all,

I've heard a lot of talk about the real character of a woman never comes out until after marriage and no matter how loving/caring a woman is during the courtship period, all that gets thrown out of the window after the dotted lines are signed.

Is this true for most/all marriages? I'm asking both sexes (male and female).I need answers (especially from the married ones).I'm currently in a serious 3-year relationship with a gorgeous lady and from the look of things, it's headed towards the altar sometime in the near future.I need to know so i can know how to put my guard up when the "metamorphosis" starts setting in.

Thanks in advance.Your replies (both positive and negative are welcome).

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I want to guess where you could have 'known of' this gentleman since it is a matter of fact, from Alibaba abi? or Basketmouth? I hear these stories too and I do what they are supposed to make me do, laugh.

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Whatever the people's responces, aint you going to get married someday. My advice: Don't worry about issues like these because life itself is dynamic and human beings are the most unpreditable creature on earth. So changes must occure but never mind whenever you get to the bridge you will definately cross.

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not jst the women, i think i'ts both ways.

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Thank you. As a matter of fact I know of a gentleman who has been so badly mistreated by his wife that all he ever hears from her from morning till night was -"You are a useless man" just because the man did not earn enough.

It was so bad that on one occasion the man went for a job interview and when the interviewer asked him - what is your name., what came out of his mouth was " I am a useless man"

Guess who didn't get the job. Many men's life are completely ruined by marriage . If you don't love the woman enough to beat her up her once in a while you will die a miserable man. I know what many will say about wife beating after this post; but nobody ever says anything about husband beating because the man is often ashamed to say it to the world. Good luck with your marriage mate.

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I disagree with you. If you are a christain the bible made it clear that a woman should be submissive to the husband. the list you are talking about is an insurance for the man and all around him.

no man want a nagging wife, troublesome woman, disrespectful woman, non domestic woman even when you have all the money, non caring woman, insincere woman, unreliable woman, beautiful woman though it lies in the eyes of the beholder, inpatient woman, when it is good alone woman, the man is Good woman, etc.

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well it depends on situation sha

but all women change after marriage

either for more good or bad,

SHALOM

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@ sexyleamon i agree with you also circumstances make people change whether women or men they both change.

My cousin once told me that you dont know a man until you marry him likewise you dont know a woman until you marry her.

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They change with the changing situation.what i mean is this--------some women change with alot of things they met in the man's house(family) and the man can suddenly change over night cos he knows that their is no going back 4 u.it is vice-versa

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@ Poster,

I sincerely hope you'd grow up so you do not frustrate that wonderful woman you intend to marry.

You seem to be highly impressed with all the negative views expressed here, well, you know what they say:

''Expectation precedes manifestation'' and ''As a man thinks, so he becomes''

You might just get what you think about. Add this piece of advice to your endless ''foods for thought''

Peace out!

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Thanks for this infomation,it will be useful for marriage seminars,

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YES we all change.

like a poster rightly said ,  women tot men will change after marriage,  they rarely change, men wish the wife never change but she does.

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Again here is a line my married friend drop with me,  while we discuss some of the marital issues i see them leave with,

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Once you're hooked(married) to a WOMAN you're f uc k ed for LIFE watever & however u see f ck ed ,  go figure,

@ poster, So u got to learn a new way to live,  if u think u'll get it right by your old ways,  u'll get fustrated until u wake up, 

my 1cent

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I agree that no woman can be "superwoman" forever but our people and a lot of other races had reasons why they set up the marriage institution like they did.Compare marriages in westernized countries and Africa. . .BIG DIFFERENCE!

In the more "liberated" countries, a woman can just wake up one day and leave her husband for good in a seemingly happy marriage.They give all sorts of reasons about "not being happy" in the marriage or "trying to discover themselves" or "they needed sometime to get themselves together".Mind you, if it just leaving the husband, that would be understandable but they not only do that. . .they ruin the man financially in divorce settlements, the man loses most (if not all he worked for) and she merrily moves on to the next sucker that comes along.Our forefathers weren't crazy when they put women in their rightful place.See how "liberated" women make a mockery of the family institution in western countries.You can find out a lil more in these websites :

www.womensinfidelity.com

www.dumpyourwifenow.com

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In addition to some good points that some guys/gals have mentioned, I believe women change after marriage and I think the society is to be blamed for this.

In this part of the world the society is more tolerant towards men so that the man can have the worst character ever and will still be able to get a woman to marry because the woman is expected to live with the character, whereas there is a  long list of what a marriagable lady should be like, I call it the 'superwoman list', so the woman, in this society where marriage is the ultimate has to allign with this list or nothing for her.

I tell you, no human being can be the 'superwoman' for life!

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why are the boys here moaning?

Its not an easy job being a mother. Children need lots of attention and care. So maybe that's why.

But for me, i will try not to neglect him too much.

As 4 those who become irritable and all dat, there's more to it.

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Change is the only constant thing in life. So brace yourself for the worst case scenario and pray.

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Not just women, men too. People change behaviours all the time cos their minds accept new information regularly. it has nothing to do with whether one is married or not.

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@poster,

oh they change a lot!

My classmate who cared so much about how she looked, got married and

i sometimes wonder if she's really the young woman i knew very well.

She has grown so fat to the point of blowing up.

Each time i see her, i feel for her husband.

Its like sharing ur bed with a mountain.

Her manners has changed too.

She snaps at everyone in sight and gets angry for no reason.

She changed completely and it was bad.

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Did you read the text in bold below? Selective reasoning i call that. No sensible man will be unreasonable if his wife is physically incapable of having sex. Men resent silly reasons such as the text in bold or women using sex as a bargaining tool. God programmed man to like sex; it is a fact.

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Did you read what he said. "flimsy" excuses like "being pregnant" or "tired" or "just giving birth"

Tell me what woman in her right mind would want to have sex like it is out of fashion after just having a child? Are you men really that senseless?

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But sex is a deal breaker whether you are going to accept it or not. Assuming a good and faithful man is denied sex by his wife for 1 month. In a rare moment of weakness, he sleeps with a colleague at work who gets pregnant. Will the wife not be affected?

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So basically you are more worried about her not having sex with you after marriage than other important life issues? SMH

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The only sure thing in life is "change" its as inevitable as birth and death.

she will change. relative to you, its a two way street.

my advise is that you work in anticipation of that change, its nobody's fault,it just one of the natural pre-established laws that governs the universe and everything therein

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I'm aware of the above saying.What i'm scared of is me thinking i have married a "good girl" and she turns into Margaret Thatcher overnite.I've also heard so many tales of married men being denied love making for one flimsy reason or the other e.g it's either because they are pregnant or they just gave birth or they are completely tired or they simply don't see the need anymore since they already have a child or children and the only reason they show interest in love making is when they want another baby.If that's true, then that's a really sick situation.I need all the pre-marital advice i can get.

Thanks all.

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Women go into marriage expecting a man to change but he doesn't

and men go into marriage expecting a woman not to change but she does.

Na there wahala dey start.

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My brother,

You keep on managing women. expect the unexpected from them because that is their nature. if she attracted you with her looks or performance, after 2,3 years of marraige you dont see some of those things again. it may be as a result of stress or other factors which are unexplainable except by them.

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@POST: Yes, women change, they then show their true color.

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Yes, one actually phoned me to tell me she regrets being a virgin till marriage.

We were together at the university.

She said she wants to "test other men" before she starts making babies.

They got married last year.

But I must add that this singular act doesn't mean all women change for the worse

or that men don't change for the worse.

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They change every second

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@Topic

They do, of course on per sec billing!

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