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Do You Associate With Other Nigerians?

Just came across this and I have to say his right

How well do you try and get to know other Nigerians in the UK? Do you pretend you are from another country if you are approached by a Nigerian, if

so, Why. Have you ever had a bad experience trying to associate with other Nigerians. Why am I asking?

I met a Nigerian guy in Brighton who after about an hour finally admitted to being a Nigerian. Naturally I asked why he was in denial. Apparently, he

used to try and help our fellow brothers and sisters until he lost everything because a fellow Brother informed the authority about his status.

Source: http://www.nigeriansintheuk.co.uk/forum/index.php?f=8&t=5&rb_v=viewtopic

Deji Sunday

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i'd choose the mickey mouse club over a latin or african club, cause that club looks crunk!!!!!!

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I joked i'd have to find a ginger man to have the ginger little girl i so want!!!

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mcclaren!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!very funny-i'm ginger and proud-

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^^^

yeah, just like the Mclaren i used to know,

offtopic never went better

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Sorry-nothing to do with being Nigerian, but alot of people think i'm either Scottish, or irish, cos of my colouring, Very pale, ginger with freckles!!!!!I find it quite amusing,

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doesnt wanna be stalked

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I love all my naija people jare. They are the some of the most amazing people on earth.

whiteroses,

Why the heck did you pull your picture down? You picture always brightens my day.

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Nigerian is like a woman, hard to live with and disastrous to live without.

I love my Nigerian people sha

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yes when i use to live in london but i miss them now no peeps like them man,i feel as tho i can be myself when i'm among my naija friends

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We are just unique sets of people

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@Radiant and Fhemmmy,

you both got very valid points.I'll be all means choose an African club, by the way I went to one way back in NY and it was off the chain, ,back on the subject, you choose base on individuals, but you just are unable to rule out the fact that, some stereotypes got some truth in them.

Don't judge a book by it's cover, but hey, you got to select your bookshop though, right?. As I had stated earlier, I love everybody,say hi when I see em,even sometimes offer assistance, but I don't do the big Nigerian "parapo" thing. I once had a license plate that read GREAT IFE, love Nigeria, but also love my peace. I once went to an all Nigerian church and come and see how they were fighting over rice, I was like really? in America?, lol, you got to be kidding me, love my people, I must add, but, hey, love my peace and sanity too. How about the Nigerian Progressive Union?, I attended once and it was like I was back in Ife, and its ALUTA continual, I was like, hey, I'm too old for this sh**t.

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If you were asked to choose between a Latino club and a Nigerian club which one would you choose to attend more often?

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Precisely but hey you can choose your crowd.

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yes u cld, but shd not be based on tribe, race or even ethnicity, but based on individual

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I associate with people, regardless of their race and tribe.

I chose who to associate with based on individual and not cos they are nigerians

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I love to be a Nigerian. With regards to association, I keep it low and use the same standard that I'll use for my Oyinbo friends. What I mean is that, I keep my friends within my professional level. Don't play around with no visa lottery kid, just as I would not be friends with an Oyinbo crack head. I see a secondary school drop out visa lottery guy out in the street, I'll hug him, introduce myself as Nigerian offer any advice i would, give him my number and that's it. He is not coming to my house and I'm not going to his. we're not going to the same church-unless he is already a member of my church- and I do not go to a Nigerian Church. I can't stand an all white church or all black church, to say the least all Nigerian church.

As someone pointed out, there is a lot of drama keeping Nigerian friends. As a matter of fact, I just don't have the time.As per indentity, I'll tell you up front, I'm an excited Nigerian. even if Osama is found in Nigeria today and yaho yaho boys scammed Obama, I'm still Nigerian. My job points to the fact that, there are Honest Nigerians who are also well placed in London and America. A friend of mine, is the Deputy District Attorney of my city. I once took a house buying contract from a Nigerian kid-though he is lived here for yrs-said he sometimes tell people he is from Ghana. I was like really?. I told him that's a shame and that I'm afraid he is not getting the 3 percent commission from the house I'm buying. So, it's really your choice. Please keep in mind that, whatever i say here is my opinion and it's not flawless, its just me. we really may not think alike, at least that's why we don't share the same DNA

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At the end of the day you go to church because of GOD and not any pastor or other member. If you feel uncomfortable in any gathering the you can opt for where you feel comfortable. I was comparing churches that are all Nigerian/African with the typical Western(USA/UK) Church. Your sister's church has Nigerians and Ghanaians so that will make a positive difference.

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I cannot speak for the whole of africa but for Nigerian churches I can clearly say that most of them are what I call modern day pharisees. It is not the all inclusive doctrine that Jesus taught. When people used to tell me about how Nigerians talk I used to go here they come again until I joined my church. I don't want to say much because even the Pastor has suffered in the hands of "christian" folks because he is a different tribe. When you throw other people in the mix then maybe Nigerians will not feel like it is their space and start to make the usual trouble they enjoy making with each other. It is a different feel I get in my sisters church where there are nigerian, ghanaian and american pastors.

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Nigerian churches almost choke you with their "love". No, thank you! Other things I won't mention.

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that may happen in a parallel universe perhaps.

Not this one, imo.

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Well said Mama-gee and Pittbaby, most successful Nigerians don't associate with other Nigerians like that <they normally associate with a much more diverse groups>. Unless they are selling something to them.

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LOL, I second you on that one Mama gee. the keys not letting them know you bizness. Naija people can seat down and analyze someone else's life. I only wish the passion dedicated to gossiping and backbiting was translated into work ethic

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most of my close friends are nigerians. I don't develop a relationship with all nigerians. no different from back home not every one is your friend. I don't go out of my way to deny being nigerian, tell you that I am nigerian, meet nigerians, or avoid nigerians. I just live my life

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well the issue is:

In Nigeria, you have no choice since 99% of the people you meet with daily are Nigerians.

When you go abroad, you do have a choice of socially interacting with only Nigerians or some other group.

Its up to you and I dont worry myself over other people's choices in this area.

Most Nigerians still stick with their comfort zone anyway so whats the problem.

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@Faakay, I guess you should work around with a BIG SIGN on your forehead saying you are Nigeria, 

Read the question posed again:

The question doesn't say Do you Deny Nigeria ? It says do you ASSOCIATE WITH OTHER NIGERIANS ?

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FAAKAY

YOU HAVE HIT THE NAIL ON THE BOTTOM. GBWAM.

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Honestly, I think this question is sorta silly, because I think its obvious that you are Nigerian through your first or last name.

and plus, there are some Nigerians that don't have accents, I've travelled a lot and unless Im in Nigeria, with my family, or amongst Nigerians speaking in my Nigerian accent/dialect, aside from this, you can never know or determine that im Nigerian just be hearing me speak English/and if you catch me abroad.

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even  you deny to be nigerian    abroad  just one thing will identify what you are . is your  English( The Accent).

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ROTFLMAO. He will not bother me then. Me pay a man's bills. Ha. I laugh.

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If it is just in general conversation and I am asked then I will say Nigeria. If it is for business I will not say Nigeria. Usually Nigeria and if they ask what part then I will say west Africa if they still insist then I will say Nigeria. I will never say another country though. I actually started to do the whole africa thing last year. Nigerians are not making it easier either. As far as associating with other Nigerians that just started recently when I moved and joined the RCCG in my area and so far it has been exactly as I feared it would be. Aside from my family and a few people I grew up with I just do not jive with most Nigerians in the US

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well, if i associate with every nigerian ive met?

no

do i claim to be nigerian every where i go?

no

y cos there are too many wierdos n creepy fellas out there

that said, i'll be spotted wearing my 'naija 4 life' tank on odd days

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Sure do, as they are most warm and friendliest people on earth. They do know how to enjoy life and are very cool about everything. They are also very proud of who they are.

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as in a cargo and silly? u dont get it? deji, come on.

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