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Do You Believe In Surrogate Babies?

Surrogate babies, do you believe in letting another woman carry your baby?

if you are the other woman will you give the baby up after 9 months?

In India its reported the cost is $5000.00 and it cost over $50,000 in the USA

what are your opinion?

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i know what surrogacy entails, however, it is still not a choice or an option that i am personally comfortable with regardless of whether it contains my DNA, or that of my partner.

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That's where you're wrong, Mutter. No one's putting a Surrogate mother through anything - she's not being forced, she has a clear choice, and can always say no. Some Surrogates actually offer to become Surrogates, to help out a friend, sister, brother etc to experience the joys of parenthood. Does that make them inhuman?

You're looking from the perspective of giving, what about receiving? Because of the emotional aspect, that's why prospective Surrogate mothers are screened thoroughly, and given all the options. If it's felt she'll get too attached, then she won't be selected. The child carried by a Surrogate is not in any way related to the carrier - don't you get it?

As for adoption. It could be worse. A woman carries a baby for nine months, gives birth, and sometimes keeps it for a year, before deciding she can't cope, and puts it up for adoption. Are you honestly telling me that isn't worse than Surrogacy? A mother has had over a year to bond with a child, and decides she wants out? Hasn't she also felt her own baby kick inside her? Unless you're telling me, A surrogate baby (not related to the woman carrying it) kicks differently from a baby that's carried by it's own natural mother?

Try seeing things from a different perspective, and seeing the bigger picture. Not everything's black and white, there are shades of pink, brown and the rest involved!

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Sissy, if you're the recipient, then there's really no difference. As a matter of fact, with surrogacy, at least it's possible to implant your own eggs, fertilized by your man's s[i]p[/i]e[i]r[/i]m, into another woman (surrogate). So the resultant baby will actually be yours, i.e carry both yours and your husband's genes. What's wrong with that?

I think a lot of us here need to really read up on Surrogacy, and see what it all entails.

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@ Siena

That`s exactly why I feel this way.

Do you know what it means to carry a pregnancy?

To feel a baby kick inside you?

To give birth to this little fragile thing

and then give it away?

That is inhuman

To put a woman through this wonderful journey of motherhood and then separate her from the child

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Mutter, there's nothing immoral about surrogacy, as long as it's being done for the right reasons, and the moneys involved are just for care during pregnancy. It's when insane amounts of money are involved, and it becomes commercial, it becomes an issue.

I think it's unfair to say sirrogacy is egotistical, just because for some people, it's the only option. It's easy  to take the moral high ground, when you're in a position to have children naturally at will, and say you'd rather adopt. The truth is, it's all too easy to say you wouldn't go for surrogacy, untill you're faced with a real-life scenario. We respond differently to hypothesis, and real-life issues.

Adoption is fine, but at the same time, it's not for everyone. Just because you'd be happy doing things a certain way, doesn't mean the rest of the world would. Calling those that would go for surrogacy immoral and egotistical portrays a high degree of arrogance on your part, and a lack of human understanding.

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I think I would adopt. It is an abuse of another woman's body for money.

I find it immoral. The women that do it need the money.

The heartbreak of parting.

I watches a documentary once. The woman had a child of her own and the boy was quite uset that the baby was not for them.

I think it is egoistic to go to such lenghts.

Why not adopt, there are enough babies out there that need love.

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I did it once and I will again if need be, but only for my blood not for the money.

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Nothing wrong with surrogacy, as long as all parties involved are aware of the strain it may place upon their respective relationships, and it doesn't become commercialized - i.e, a licence to print money.

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some parents who cant have children of their own would rather have their flesh and blood rather than adopt. i wouldnt care either way.

lets not forget that the cost of adoption in the states can sometimes go up to $40000(with all fees included and depending on who you turn to) so looking at it in the eyes of a well to do person, the difference between one and the other is just 9months and about $10000.

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My easy answer as someone that’s had a child before is if the morning sickness can be passed on to someone else, why not? However, for people who have no choice it’s probably a decision not taken lightly.

I can do it for really special people if they had no other options. With regards to giving the child back, I don’t think that should be a problem as the child won’t biologically be mine and I believe the bond with a child is when after it is born and you are getting to know each other not whilst it’s in the womb; though tends to be different with 1st pregnancies. Some might disagree though.

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I do not see anything wrong in allowing som1 else carry my baby and I see no big deal in carrying someone else’s. in as much as both parties clearly understand what they are going into . no cus 4 alarm. imo

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I do not pray that will be the only option for anybody, 'cos for me, I wouldn't.

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I will rather adopt than do surrogate, i dnt really fancy it.

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A lot is not right these days but the circumstances surroundting decision-making have given people no choice than to go

on with certain actions. If a couple can not have kids the normal way and all other options have been visited without

success, definitely surrogate solution should come in handy. Just that some cases get really complicated after birth.

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If there's no other option then it's a splendid idea. I very much believe in it.

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