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Do You Get Beatings From Your Parents?

I'm just curious, I want to know if you get beatings from your parents and tell us about the worst beating you got from your parents and why?

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My parents whooped me all the time till my late teenage years. I was a mighty handful and only God knows how I would've turned out otherwise. Once when I was about six/seven my mum tied me to the bedpost and whooped me till I almost fainted. I had only repeated a four letter word I heard on Tv.

If my dad's predictions are true and I reap what I sow, I would like the opprotunity to discipline my children whichever way I see fit!

yes I was beaten, but I did not die, I am much stronger and disciplined for it so to each his own!

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panties pulled down ke? sounds like molestation going here or is it discipline.

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Spare the rod and spoil d child doesn,t mean u shld use cane whenever ur kid doe7 wrong.discipline is always used wrong to abuse children in our african culture and it,s unjust.

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I remember the worst one I got- My sister had tripped up and poured water on the carpet by accident. She told me and we tried to dry it up quickly before my mother came home. When she did she saw 2 soaking wet towels on the radiator and then felt the carpet. First she stripped me and my sister Unclad and pushed us out into the garden Unclad. This happened to be about late winter and the garden wasn't private we lived in flats so other houses definitely could have seen us but it was night. Anyway we were left out there for about 20 minutes. She then dragged us back in the house told us to kneel and then phoned one of her friends in front of us calling us demonic evil children. She told me to throw some of my possessions away like my necklace She then took me by my hair swung me around and then threw me to the side of the room she did that to me a few times then did that to my sister. Thats about 45 minutes in. Then for the next hour or so anything she could lay her hands on she beat us with, shoes, brooms, umbrellas, sticks. Shen then told us to chores. I have to admit that was one of the worst days of my life. I remember at 12.30 at night crawling into bed then crying myself to sleep. That whole episode was about 2 and a half hours. The next day I was in the worst pain of my life. I couldn't stand straight coz of the pain in my back, walking was a nightmare, and I had a massive swollen bruise on the side of my head. She made us stay home from school the next day, I guess so that people couldn't see the extent of our injuries. When I told her what had actually happened after the beating, because she didn't give us a chance before she didn't apologize she just took us to MacDonald for a few days afterwards and that was it. If me and my sister ever talked about that day again, ironically she beat us.

That one was the worst but there have been other incidences. Like my sister one time storming off in a strop to a bus stop. My mother ran after her, put her fists up and just started punching her face. This was in a busy street in camberwell and when someone said that what she was doing was wrong she screamed at the person swearing and stuff. My mother has tried to stone me a couple of times, she's beaten my younger brother when he was like 5 for ripping a small piece of wallpaper. I remember that night because I could hear him screaming from the living room. My mother has whipped my hands till bleeding for losing my bus pass. Shes also thrown a big heavy book at my face for eating a sweet pepper. I was too scared to show it to her because I was hungry and I thought she was going to beat me for it. So she asked me to show her and i couldn't because i was scared so she picked up a heavy book and threw it at my face saying that I should trust her. I had a black eye for a week. When I was asked i just said i bumped into a door. There are many more situations too many for me to list.

My father wasn't any better. He never toughed my brother or sister he just beat me. I remember one time in primary school me and my siblings were eating he came into the room and with all his might smacked the back of my head, i was about 8 at the time, He has threatened to kill me on 3 occasions once holding a knife near my face. Hes whipped me with belts. Every time he walked into a room he told me to leave. I remember once when he walked into room. I took the hint before he said anything and left and went to my bedroom. I remember my magazine being left in the living room so i walk back in pick up my magazine and leave. He follows me calls my name, i turns around and slaps me across the face, the reason, i picked up a magazine rudely (if thats even possible) once again too many situations to list here. And this is all the physical abuse not to even mentioned the almost endless verbal abuse. Funnily enough when i did ask my mother why she did these things to us. She called it discipline.

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Beatin? Mhen, i chop enuf frm my mum wen i was young,and i tank her 4 whopin my Bottom. Bt my dad jst slapd me once wen i wantd 2 pour hot tea on my lil cousin. Lol. My mum's beatin was u 2 lie down and b Unclad or jst ur pants. Tanx mama i gt ur msg frm da beatin. Luv u

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My dad never smacked me but my mum smacked me a couple of times when i was about 8-9

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i got beaten with koboko,my dad ll tell u to remove your shirt and then gave me a good going over when that didnt work nemore he told the labourers working on one of his buildings then to stop working and got me and my other brother to lift the blocks 2 storeys up,we were realli scared of him but we r realli close now funny enuff,i ll smack my kids and talk with em but ill never ever beat my kids cause it never dissuades you from these bad habits you get punished for in the first place,

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Men, did I get my Bottom Whopped. Ahh, no be small thing, my mother was an expert, ahh. i can still feel the belt sraps on my back. My Mom had sort of an invisible belt, you ill be doing something bad and from nowhere you ill hear twash n your back. She never over did the beating sha, and When we were old enough to know wrong from right she stopped beating you. She ould not even scold you then.

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I only once got beating from my paternal grandmother on a small minor thingfessed about when i was young about 8 years old. My paternal grandfather pissed off at his wife yelling,"WHY MY PRECIOUS CHILD you beat up for? She is so precious DEAF CHILD i would never lift my hand on that DEAF CHILD"

He took me away from his wife (my paternal grandmother) to console me while rubbing my red swollen fresh marks on my leg (healed normally---no scar) that was beating out of thin young fresh stick from the tree or bush branch. I saw my grandfather's face weeping as if someone just died suddenly around his arm on me.

OHHH TOUCH GRANDPA i never seen other sensitive side of him---EMOTIONALLY!!!!

With my children, i do not believe in beating. I disciplined them the right way of their quality life they need to know.

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@siena, i cannot believe hearing your disturbed story that touched my heart seeing you now what you had become A FINE GENTLEMAN with God-given talented and gifted---God bless you, Siena!!!!

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bless you siena.

esss you are the better for it now okay.just move on.all the best.

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I got beat down regular cause i was a wise Bottom.

My worst one was when i was like 14 i think and ma dad slapped me.

That wasnt a good thng- i was so angry.

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Ever since I showed her I wasn't her punching bag she thinks twice before hitting.

I am not the passive type so she should expect the worst next time she decides to act silly!

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My daddy has never laid his fingers on me, in fact my mum has this rule that my dad or any other male gender will / or should beat us.

My mum has beaten me couples of time when I was little, most of the time she usually slap me when I don’t expect it but she hasn't touched me in 8-9yrs now

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@Siena, I can relate totally with your situation, I got beat so bad I can't not even begin to explain. I get beat with water hose, head slammed against the wall, punches, koboko, up till today I still have the marks all over my back of the beatings I got from my "dad".

I remember those nights when NEPA has taken light and all you hear is my scream for help but the neighbors just pretend like they can't hear me.

When I was in SS1 i got beat so bad I had to run away, I was really comtemplating killing myself but didn't have the guts too. I lived with my aunt temporarily then I was forced to go back home, quote from an elderly uncle "beating doesn't kill a kid", The beatings stopped for a month or so then it resumed, then at the age of 17 I ran away again and never went back.

For 13yrs I didn't talk to my dad but I forgave during ministration service couple of year ago.

@ the poster, to name the worst one? It's just too numerous to mention !

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beatings? hell no!

dirty slaps(igbaju olo yi)? oh yeah got a lot of that.i fainted once.

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not necessarily stronger, but maybe different  ( from him). Different environment than his, different nature.

well, glad to know you're okay now. The story just disturbed me.

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I can count the number of times my parent raise there hands to beat me .But talk of counselling and feeding you with word of God they are always there .Thank God for the legacy left behind

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i must say, siena's story really disturbed me, but I think Militia has just about covered every angle on that issue.

I'd like to add, however, siena, your dad was also  a product of his own environment: ie to understand why he acted like that, you'd probably have to research his own background ,upbringing, and history. i can just imagine the pain your mom went through, having to watch all this. i did know a guy whose dad was very abusive almost in the way you described, when I was young, but I dont think it was you ( you're igbo, right? I doubt this boy was igbo).

Its really not good when a child wonders why his parent (s) dont love him. I mean,  a child should not have to search for signs of a parent's love.

anyway, its all in the past now- what's done is done. the future is yours. emotional wounds dont heal easily, but the key here is forgiveness, both for your dad and for yourself.

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@ Tpia: Aye, my old man MUST have gone through some terrible things to act the way he did, at least, those were the excuses I used to make for him in my mind. I went through hell too as a kid, but I certainly didn't turn out the way he did.

Still, folk react differently to unpleasant events in their lives, perhaps I was stronger? We'll never know. But, all in the past now, I only hope his soul's at peace.

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I really got beaten when i was much younger i guess i was so naughty then.

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Cheers, ladies. Still, most folk these days are quick to blame their upbringing for their behaviour. But, we're all responsible for our own actions, from the age we were able to differentiate right from wrong.

If I'd gone off the rails, I wouldn't have blamed my dad, I'd blame myself. Besides, when I used to get beaten by the old man, it made me all the more determined not to inflict the same treatment on my kids, or anyone else for that matter.

Did I hate him? No. Most of the time, I didn't LIKE him, but that's about all. Hate is a very negative emotion, and I've got too much living to do, to allow myself to become consumed by bitterness. I'd rather be indifferent to him, rather than hate his guts.

@ Esss: I'm really sorry about your problems, sounds like you had a bad time, hopefully you'll resolve things while you have the chance. I can't imagine my mom being the beater, she was so gentle! Please, try to forgive her. Remember, you only have ONE mom, anyone could be your dad. As the Igbo folk say, "Nneka".

Mother is supreme.

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@ Militia: There wasn't much my mom could do but cry, and beg my dad to stop.

The beating could be for anything from playing outside with my neighbours kids, to getting a low grade at school.

Still, all in the past. I'm not bitter, and I actually forgave him before it was too late, back in '90. He died in'91, so I'm glad I didn't lose the opportunity.

The beatings stopped when I was about 18, I guess I was too big for him to attack then, besides, I'd become immune to pain at this point.

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As a kid, my mum beat the poo out of me on a regular basis. If a mug fell to the ground and broke, I got beating, If she called me and for any reason I didnt respond, I got beating, She finds me playing outside with the kids in the neighbourhood, more beating, She misplaces her money or watever, I get beating, I get a bad grade, I get beating, and it just goes on. One time she even threw bottles at me. Her weapons of choice included Copper wire, belts (the head), Sticks, pots and anything in the visinity. And the scary part was that although I had two other sisters, I was the only person that was being assaulted. My dad always tried to explain it away (its for your own good.). I still hate my mum even today.

I saw a shrink in London and New York and both said I needed to confront my past, but that is a place I do not want to visit.

I will discipline my Kids, but I will never abuse them.

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i agree with u vieira i live in uk also and the kids are damn too rude

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And, he busted 2 of my ribs, by stamping on my chest, when I was 13. I can still remember the sound they made as they broke, and the excruciating pain.

I can also remember the look on my dad's face as I looked up at him - he looked like a savage gorilla.

No way would I beat my kids. Folk do confuse issues though - a little corrective smack probably won't do any harm, a beating, however is different.

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My dad used to beat me, up to when I was 18, he's use fists, cane, steel cable, table legs, once, even slammed a complete dining chair down across my shoulders.

Or, he'd stamp on me, slam me against the walls - neighbours could hear the racket 3 blocks away, and nicknamed him, "the panelbeater". But, it's all in the past, right now, he's filling a hole in the ground.

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well not now am an adult

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Beating isn't the ultimate punishment, Like i said earlier, my dad das never whooped me like you would a horse in the race, but he has corrected me with lots of punishment, you'd prefer been beaten to. Just that the act of lashing out appears too aggressive in nature, he'd afterwards, make sure you understand why you had to be punished and corrected.

I'd prefer that philosophy to whooping my kids, it somehow doesn't look right to me, note, ''to me''

But if my hubby feels thats the best way he can correct a child, i'd only try my best to make him see otherwise. But NONEOTHER dare lash out at my kids.(either by slapping, knocking, hitting, or canning). temi ni yen o

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Do you live on the streets of UK?

Have you been accosted by 10 year olds

or by gangs of teenage girls

or seen them having it off on the train in front of you?

ability to hold an elelction and lawlessness on the streets are two different issues, do not get it muddled up.

The kids in the UK are a law onto themselves and fear no one becuase they have been brought up to realise there is NO consequence to thier actions.

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LOL, indeed.

It is my opinion that the philosophy represented by Seun's last comment  is dangerous to say the least, and irresponsible in certain situations.

However, given that the idea of administering smacks is for correction and direction, I suppose that any sensible (note, sensible refers to - legal, acceptable, non-threatening, non-harmful, etc!) method that actually achieves the goal cannot be dismissed as impractical and unacceptable.

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i think i was last beaten by my mom (my dad doesn't) when i was in jss3, and thts like 12yrs ago. The only beating were from school teachers on general punishment cuz i never get in trouble. And my bros or uncles or aunts dare not lift a hand on me(none has ever even tried it except my siblings- and its more of fighting each other as the eldest is just 3 yrs older than me. My dad wont have anyone beat his daughter except my mom.

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No, you were not a big pain, but the beatings made you feel that way. A happy child cannot really be a big pain.

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i use to get a lot of beatin from my mum and my older brothers ,anyway i was really a big pain when i was growin up

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against ur peeps.C'mon,u dont expect uc to beleive that.Do u?

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bulala, cain, belt, kicks, blows, plates, slippers, elbows, sticks. Anything I can use to defend myself, I will use.

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Which one be non lethal force; Oga Seun

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I will defend myself (with non-lethal force) if anybody I can handle attacks me, uncle or no uncle. That is my own.

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if u were in my shoes will u do such?

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He would have been sorry if he got a good Bottom-whooping from his junior, or arrested by the police. Very sorry.

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Why didn't you kick him hard back or report him to the police? I'm sure that's how he whoops his wife too.

I can't be whooped by anyone who is physically weaker than me o. Especially not a woman or an older man.

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i had the beating of my life 4rm my in law(sister's husband), five months ago in ATLATA GEORGIA, couldnt belive my eyes when he started whoopin my Bottom,kicking,hittingme so hard, that i got to work the other day felt sick and weak, but praises to God ve relocated

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of course i understand you are curious but this is a forum for adults. i dont think most people here receive beatings from their parents. a lot are parents themselves! i wrote that response before checking your profile. i then saw that you are indeed 14. now i understand!!!!! it wasnt meant to put you down or anything dear.

and no i dont get beatings from my parents.

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Hey! is that legal in ur location? If it's no longer acceptable in Africa where parents are known to instill discipline with rod, it should not be in any other part of the world.

There are better ways of correcting kids these days. Bytheway, if you know any kids whose parents still beat them, you can cantact me and we will sue their Bottom off, cos i am a lawyer.Lol

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lol,I'm so sorry,I'm always mixing up their name, I'm talking to spoilt.

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@ spoilt,i said that I'm just curious, I'm not even going to say anything else because some people are going to say that I'm been rude

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@poster

what are you? 12?

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that should be 5 years back

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@spoilt, ok thanx for making it clear

@ifezue,no its illegal here but i know dat some parents still beat their kids.

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