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Do You Let Your Kids Bathe Themselves?.

I have this friend who lets her children bathe by themselves nd help her do sum little chores at home. The oldest is nearly 6yrs nd d other one is 2yrs. Recently i helped her babysit d kids while she nd her husband went on a trip, nd while i was bathin them i discovered sum dirtlike substance in their 'konko below'. I had 2 discuss this wit my friend, nd she complained abt how tired she gets by d tym she is home frm work, she doesnt have any extra hand 2 help out, nd besides d eldest is old enough 2 bathe herself nd her younger sista nd bla bla bla. i rily wanted 2 tell her then that d kids are 2 young 2 handle such responsibities, bt she is not d type who listens 2 other people. . . she is pregnant wit baby no3 nd im wondering how she's gonna handle her household responsibilities.

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Not really my business, but should your 3 year old still be wearing diapers??

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@ poster. . . The children are tooooo young to care for themselves at such age na?. . . And i assume they are girls. . . Na wa o!. . . Na so smelly p*s*y take dey start enter adulthood. . . Lol!.

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I do not have a child minder at home. i do not see the need for one. My kids have to grow uo to learn to do things for themselves.

No one to clean up after them. That makes them more responsible and protects them from outside influence in the intimacy of their home.

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I started bathing myself in my first year in secondary school after my classmates discussed and boasted bout their experiences. I couldn't pass a comment. The next day I told mum I could do it!

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@mutter, we cannot rule out the possibility of some lazy housewives but by and large, their prescence will be better than the prescence of maids and paid servants. Nobody can take care of your kids like you. In the bathing topic which we are discussing, maids have been known to violate the privates of kids, since they are most times not related by blood, the female maids expose the young male child to fondlind and putting his 'JT' in her experienced hole. The male househelps lubricate small girls they are bathing and later deposit Fluid on their 'abunna' entrance to enjoy themselves. All these while the man and women of the house are busy chasing money! What a world!!!

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There we go again, the women abandoning their God given responsibilities in the name of making money for who? The women should sit back at home and wash, clean, scrub, cook, pound, arrange, dust, cobweb, pamper the kids, teach them morals, teach them to cook, wash and play in a safe way. The men should provide all the money necessary for his family to enjoy themselves. The man is lazy if he cannot bring enough food to the table and the woman is greedy if she thinks she must help the man make money. Till the kids are grown, the woman better stay at home. This women leaving homes has wrecked havocs in many a home, and will still cause more problems.

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if a mother is too tried to bath the kids the father should do it

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Funny how everybody has concluded that she is lazy. She is a pregnant woman with two other kids. Something will have to give unfortunately she chose bathing the kids for that. I am sure this woman's hands is more than full especially since it was mentioned that she has no help. My suggestion is that she gets some help to help her.

Sorry you cannot be a student, a business woman and a full time housewife. It is impossible. Full time housewives do just that. Be housewives full time. If you think you are doing it all and doing it perfectly it is only because you are lying to yourself. True, there has to be a balance but you cannot do all three as well as if you were just doing one.

I say this because I noticed people especially women can be very judgmental of other women. A lady I know was criticizing another woman for needing a help at home and she felt that it should not take so long to clean a house as she can clean her whole house in 2 hours. It took all of me not to say something because this woman's house in my opinion is so nasty that I can honestly say that I was worried about my children eating there. Even on any given day when I get ready to clean the house I cannot clean my whole house in 2 hours. There is absolutely no way.

So she might have let the childrens hygiene go and her friend drew it to her attention but to start talking about her kitchen and everything else is a whole different thing

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In all honesty,that woman in question is just lazy.

why on earth you dint have time for your kids.

There are millions of people out there looking for kids,

and she messing about with hers.

I have 2 lovely kids,4 and 2 years old,i bath them sometimes

when their mum works early,as i leave work for work bit later.

No matter in this world,try to create time them,because it goes

a long ways.

For my fellow,naija men there is nothing wrong in you bathing your

kids,

peace

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The woman in the story is just lazy.Anyway i will not blame her she got married and was blessed with kids before she knows it.she shd have being a bit active if she had taken concotions and spiritual baths all in the name of looking for babies and then live them at that tender age to care for themselves.I am a mother of 3 kids with househelps yet i bath my kids .My eldest son will be 8 by sept.i only allow him to bath himself at nights.I am a business woman,a pg student fulltime and a wife.So ,she is working should not be an excuse.I wonder what her house esp.her kitchen will be like.

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Some 10yr old girls has started showing signs of maturity at dat age and such kids wont accept that anymore bt if she does,never wash her private for her,allow her to do it herself. Reason is that ur fingers might be stimulating her to pleasure and once she gets used to that ur in serious problem. Just bath d boys if u like.

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lol but still things happen that are often not talked about in african society.

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^^^ Lol . . . . Fathers of those days never have weird thots

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kinda creepy but understandable i guess

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There is absolutely no problem with a father bathing his daughter. It is just important that parents are not poking in areas where the child is understanding that those parts are private. You cannot be all up a prepubescent child's stuff when you are at the same time educating him/her not to let a stranger touch them there.

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started taking ma birth when I was like 8 or there about i know I usually rubbed ma stomach most the head at all and my was just too hard to reach, though once in awhile ma aunt comes to the rescue, sum up, little by little we learn but not without supervision!

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She need some talk into her head. If she cant raise the kids, why have them?

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I think a man should also be sensitive enough to help in bathing his kids when he sees that the wife is busy with other house work. In 2009 we had no house help. i had to help my wife to bath the kids whenever am around. I washed plates, washed clothes etc. It was also that period that my first child of six learnt how sweep the house and dress the bed, bath himself etc. Even though we later got another house help lasr december, my boy and the girl following him can do house work co

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It depends on their ages. although, i don't have a child of my own yet, i have cousins and one of 'em is 7. I allow him to have his bath himself, but i still inspect him afterwards, cos most times, water never touches his back.

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my papa still 'baf' me till i was 12 years old

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So great to know that we still have some mothers that knows what it takes to be a mother and not just being Mom. . . . God bless all the mothers in the house

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The Six year old can bath while i brush and fix my hair on the weekdays. and when he/she is done i can wash his/privates properly. Will give him/her a good scrub down on Saturdays and Sunday. For the six year old it really is about teaching him/her to take responsibility for his/her own personal hygine. I will also expect him to know that dirty clothes go in d laundry basket and dirty plates go in the kitchen sink. Will also expect her to dress herself if i lay out her outfit for the day

The 2 year old cannot and should not be allowed to bath or play with water in the bath room by herself. Period

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that boy must be a rockamania lol

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what a loss of motherly care.

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I feel u! It is important that children get good baths often.

My daughter is always crying about her not being allowed to bath herself. She will be 5 by July.

I do allow my house help to bath her once in a while, and at other times I do it myself.

The importance of this task can not be over-emphasised, especially for a growing girl who needs thorough washing down there.

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both kids are too young to bathe themselves

she might let them do it if they want to just to learn

but must bathe them herself after they finish with their childish bath

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Some comments really made me laugh.

Kids wld always want to play with water, they enjoy it a lot. My 4 yr old wld always tell me dt he can bathe himslf but i wont allow him do that. An adult should still bathe a kid at least once a day until the child is at least 10.

Some kids complexion start looking dull and dirty after a long period of not having a good bathe.

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God bless you.

I am very angry with the lady who is not ready for her responsibility and feel sorry for the innocent kids brought to the world by such parents. I only allow my 6 yr old to do that once a week and that's on saturdays.

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Men dat don't allow their wife 2 work, i don't blame them. A grow-up child should be at the age of 8-10, even through u want d child 2 take her bath, it could be in d afternoon after school hour. But for morning and evening d mother suppose 2 be giving bath 2 d children.

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Lazy mothers we got these days. Work has become a very good excuse for their failure as mothers.

When the kids become an adult with an uncontrollable body odour, people will began to ask how. This is jst how it all began, leaving a kid beyond 10years to bath him/herself.

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That child is true son of is father, i am sure is father is really reallay gooooooooooooooood

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rotflmao. Femi please stop. I think I just cracked a rib laughing

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LOL. I agree but I think she was joking

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I feel you jare my sister, but bathing a teenage kids like was said above is going too far.

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He is still a baby so I will do it till I feel comfortable with him doing it himself. I was making fun of miss lady up there because she was joking about bathing teenage kids.

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Well, his dad could wash him and all that.

Cos i think most kids cant wash very clean at a tender age

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A 2 years olf kid and even a 6 years old bathing self is nonsense.

That is too young and needed supervision to bath very well and be clean.

Doing some little chores around the house, like bring me remote control is kool, but hope not tell them to go and cook hot dogs

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LOL ok o. My 3 year old got an Attention(maybe not that type) when I was taking off his diaper in the morning. I was like whaaaaaaaaaaat. He even laughs when I wash him there. Very soon I will be leaving him to handle his business.

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