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Does A Woman Have The Right To Choose Not To Have Kids At All?

I was watching on the tv when one of these women (celebrities) decided she was not going to have kids so as not to lose her shape then another saying she does not think she has to have kids.

As women, is it necessary and our duty to have at least a child?

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No, women most definitely have a right to decide whether to have kids or not. There are so many reasons why a woman would not want to have kids of her own. And contrary to what some think, it does not then mean they have bad mothering skills or something of the sort.

As the celebrity said, it is possible to simply choose not to have kids to maintain one's body image. Now that is superficial but there are superficial beings out there.

Other reasons could simply be that these women would rather adopt as there are 100's of millions of children in need of mothers and fathers in the world we live in and that number keeps rising each day. Many of these kids only need adults to adopt them and make them their own. So these women see no difference in having their own biological children and adopting the babies already here.

Another reason could be that they simply have no desire to have children or become mothers. Again, this does not make them bad mothers as they could be best aunties already. Motherhood is a choice and to them they would rather make the choice not to be mothers.

So, yes, women do have rights and this includes right to be mothers or not.

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LOL. . . . sarcasm is extremely difficult to detect on the internet.

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yeah rightand what happens to those who doesnt believe in god.does this "command of no choice" also apply to them? no wonder many kids live in miserable home today

"popping" out indeed. shm

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should they have a choice to do the "replenishing"?

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Aren't women supposed to do the replenishing? Hmmmm. . .

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Every woman has the right to choose whether to have children, or not.

Child bearing / bringing up isn't for everyone. I'd rather a woman chose not to have kids, rather than have them, due to pressure from hubby, friends, family etc, then maltreat them.

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i totally disagree with you. some people are unfit to have children and  therefore shouldnt have any. the fact that their parents were fit and sound minded to have children is irrelevant in the situation.

unless a person is physically, emotionally and financially ready, they shouldnt have kids!

. . . . . . . . . and we know there are many out there who will never be.

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LOL you are absolutely right!!!

you reminded me of the news this week about the heiress who died and left $3million for her favorite pet chihuaha while only leaving $1milla to her only son.

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meaning, we dont really have a choice then?

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Well for starters I think except for medical reasons no woman should close the door on child bearing, afterall someone gave birth to her and if her parents had decided to forego childbearing what would have become of her.

The fact that some "oyinbo" people do it does not really make it the norm, you'd find that even most professional women have kids and leave the bringing up to nannies,

If however she decided that having kids os not for her, then she needs to discuss this with her man BEFORE THEY GET MARRIED, and not just spring it on him afterwards, all these talk about people not meant to have kids is just pure trash, no one is perfect even parents

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I dunno. . .i think some people treat their pets just like they would treat their family member.

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she can decide not to have children. duty some reason

If doctor advice her not to have children base on her health.

or there's no money bring up the kids.

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I asked my fiance did he want to have kids, He said yes,

I asked my fiance what if I didn't want any kids, HE DAMN NEAR CRIED,

BUT I DO, SO IT WON'T BE AN ISSUE FOR US,

HE LOVES CHILDREN, HE MAKE SURE I TAKE MY FOLIC ACID DAILY,

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^^^^^^^^lol

not as much commitment into owning a dog, as being a parent. less stressful and when you are tired (or aint fashionable any longer), you can dispose of it without feeling guilty!

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you have to remember that these celebrities live off their looks and thats what pays the bills therefore they will do anything to keep it going "fresh and funky" as long as they can.

imho its all down to each individuals to decide if they want to have kids or not. the catch is to let your future spouse know about your choices well in advance so they dont expect something you are not willing to give.

not everyone can be a good parent and NOT everyone should have/want kids!

ask Oprah, Eva Mendes or even George Clooney and Jay Leno while they are gazillionaires and could hire all the best nannies but prefer never to have children.

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Sure, a woman has the right to choose.

Having kids is not meant for everybody. Some people have no business raring kids, they are better off without one.

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1. Yes, while you're single.

2. No when you're married. You and your husband had better talk about this "right" before getting married. Because it aint gonna be about YOU anymore.

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@ luap

- - Wife says she doesn't want kids because she might lose her figure and you go with?

- - You are considering adoption not because one of you can't have kids but because your wife doesn't want to lose her figure bearing children?

Alright Luap, 'fess up. . . where are you from coz there's no way you're a Nigerian man.

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Some people do not want kids and not because they think they will be bad parents. It just is not a necessity for some. They might love kids even but they just do not want the responsibility

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This thread has really enlightened me about a lot of stuff *sighs*

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I can't believe this but I guess people are different. Why would a woman like me, with my womb decide not to have any kid at least before I die just because I don't want to lose my shape or jealousy but oh well!

To all, guess I was wrong, I thought it was a bad thing for a woman to decide not to have any kid because of trivial reasons unless of course health wise that could be risky. I also thought that women were made without any side effects as in health wise to have at least one kid to leave behind in the event of passing away.

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My wife decided not to have children. She admits she, one reason is that she said it might change her figure. Another is that she said it would be hard for her to commit to a child. Another she would be jealous. We have considered adopting and we could send the child to a boarding school. I told her we would be better off just giving to children through charity, she agrees.

I do not feel the need to have children either. I have many nephews and nieces.

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If the man and woman reach a mutual agreement whether or not to . . . . .Then, fine.

The woman or man should not decide alone.

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Please, how would u help me out of this? I studied philosophy at UNILAG with a good grade. Please, i need a job at presence because i am tired of searching of moving around./ Someone should come to my aid in case there is any available/ vacancy jobs. thanks.

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Yes, she has the right to decide if she wanna have kids or not.

Just like some has the right to decide how many they wanna have

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Lmao! So if she decides not to, what are they gonna do. . . pry her legs open and shoot sperm into her with a turkey baster?

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avoiding kids 'cos of shape?

its her body. . .she can do ANYTHING!!!

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we should have the right to choice for the obvious reasons. its our body,we bear the pains/joy for 9months,the sleepless nights,nagging/worry and responsibility of raising a child and in many cases without help. and not every woman can be a good mother or have the patience required for it or have those emotional attachment people think every woman have or should have for a baby/child. the list is endless

however, your right to choice greatly depends on where(culture) and who(person) you are.

if you live/stay in a culture where its almost a mandate that a woman not only marry but have kids your choice is no longer yours to make or you face the consequences and stigma.

and then the kind of person you are also plays a role in your choice. if you are tough enough to withstand the constant bickering of families, friends etc who will question your choice, tell you how its selfish not to have one, how cute kids are, the joys of motherhood and not having investments(kids)for old age. blah blah etc etc

i think most people esp women were pissed off by by jullians statement not because of her choice not to have kids but what her statement implies about women who do have kids.motherhood doesnt mean lack of shape or lost of ones self. thats a choice(staying in shape or not) many women make, motherhood or single. i personally think her statement were out of line.

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To each his/her own. Some people are better of without kids, just as some are better of without parents.

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