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Does The Black Woman Know Her Place In The Family?

saw this in our inbox. tough it is mainly AA you bet our people always copy the bad, worse and the damn right ugly.

http://sandrarose.com/2009/05/21/does-the-black-woman-know-her-place-in-the-family/

Does The Black Woman Know Her Place in the Family?

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I also used to think that way till I saw what some of those guys go through with these women. I know at least 3 guys who were willing to just stay married to their wives even after getting papers but the way that they were treated like slaves and fools during the period of waiting for papers made them change their minds (so they said).

Secondly, many of the women are using vulnerable boys to satisfy themselves after being married and seperated severally. So what is wrong with the boys also using the situation to their own advantage? I spoke with a boy in Lagos on my last visit and he told me about a woman he had been chatting to. . .whom he met when he was studying abroad. . . he said that the woman is his only hope of going abroad now and he desperately wants to leave Lagos. According to him, the woman was not particularly desirable to many of the guys in that area and so he was heaven-sent to her in her search for love.

She clearly is using him to satisfy her craving for love. . . why cant he also use her to get what he desires?

2 don cut 2!

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Bless your soul for this post!

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It is not only Jim Crow that affected/affects black Americans but also Willie Lynch (sp).

Psychological damage runs far deeper than any outward oppression ever could.

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you that got taken into america complain what do you expect your brothers in haiti to do?

read nairaland and see the wahala in niger delta in nigeria it is all trouble every where for black man.  do we blame jim crowe for nigeria too?

who is undoing the white man by the way becos as you know they do have their issues.

somebody have sold black america a big lie sadly the lie is continuing to work effortlessly.

until you guys consciously begin to destroy race as an industry i dont see how in a 100yrs some black people wont still be crying they are producing fatherless kids and going to jail because of jim crowe.  i bet you want to believe he was governor general for africa too.

there is a gross moral failing we have refused to address as a race and we are still crying jim crowe in 2009. why couldnt jim crowe stop obama, oprah and the others that pulled through his hurdles?

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I agree with most everything mimi08 wrote.

Black women know there place and try to play their role, but alot of our black brothers are damaged goods.

I believe alot of it is hold over from Jim Crow. Our men were made to suffer humiliation and degradation beyond my understanding. They were forced to watch their black women Molested and treated as belly warmers. They were stripped of their manly pride and ability to provide for their families. They were treated as breeders and lower than life.

Can you imangine watching your wife be a white man's belly warmer and not be able to do anything about it? Can you imangine as a black woman being Molested by another man and your husband has to sit idly by and let it happen?

I dont any of us can really understand the depths of what the black has had to suffer and the beating his self-esteem and self-respect has taken.

This has been passed on from generation to generation. Dont forget slavery has not been that many generations away from most of us now living.

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i have lived in england long enough to remember shows like kilroy and the likes in the 90's to know there are some good for nothing scum bags amongst your lovely english. if you watch day time tele or read the red tops you will almost conclude lying, cheating and jumping from one relationship  another is what the english people do best.  what fills jeremy kyle and the trisha shows of this world?  would the sun, mirror, express and mail newspapers sell without you people washing your dirty linen in public?

fair you were not smart enough with your Phd to know a con artist why pour all your vernom on nigerians? look back you will see where i wrote my best friend and my ex griend marrying for 9yrs. it is not nigerian thing.  we do not hold copyright on these things.

when i started reading your story in some other thread i had enormous pity on you however the more i read, i came to the conclusion you are one of the "gracious" white people doing the under priviledged black people a favour marrying them.  some of us had the opportunity we said no thank you and passed the opportunity cos of the baggages your types carry about.

i am beginning to think we should do a big poster @ MM warning some of these vulnerable young boys you people take advantage of to beware of your types.  if i ask you how old this boy is after spending 15yrs in another marriage maybe you are old enough to be his mum and you expected him to be with you forever.  was your ex a nigerian too?  how did he survive 15yrs of you?

next time marry an english man or a polish for that matter and probably go read building good relationship101. it does help.

you have made a bad choice so live with it.  NL did not choose for you ma'am. when you were enjoying his foolishness what did we gain from it?.

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people like you and leilah are good reason for not marrying a white woman. by the way PHD does not make people. my uncle married one good one she is a one of many of you think marrying you is a priviledge which i am yet to see cos some of us have managed to live nicely without you and thankfully gainfully employ you too.

there are many daft and foolish phd holders about.

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You are right MrBROWNJAY, .

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i think that any woman should know their worthiness and be comfortable with themselves before entering any union. if a man can come in your life and make you believe such a thing as you being unworthy etc etc etc then you were insecure with yourself to begin with.

no man/woman should tell you who/what you are, just look at the mirror and SEE that you are fantastic, SEE that you are worthy, look at your children and SEE that your a great person/mother.

as for the 9ja marriages that you are talking about, yes, nigerian marriage are mostly based on money. just read the many threads on NL and you will have a pretty good idea but men are not the only ones to be blame and women play a part in it too.

remember that out of the many deadbeat 9ja men out there, there are many who doesnt think like cave men and only having an open mind might make you meet him, if you still searching.

thinking the way you think, NO MEN(black or white) can sort your problem!!!

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I wouldn't MRBROWNJAY,

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we are sorry to hear that you ended up with a no good/deadbeat of a nigerian man but how can you sit there and judge the whole country based on the action of ONE Naughty Person guy that, by the way, YOU DID CHOOSE!!!!!

you are THE only one to blame for making a poor judgment, move on with your life and make a better choice next time.

we can all sit here and tell OUR nightmare stories with the opposite sex. that SHOULD never be a reason to put the whole nation OR RACE into that same category!

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The above quote is so true and now they times their men.

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the angry black people syndrome!!!!!

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