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Does Your Christian Marriage Needs Help?

Does your Christian marriage need help? If so, take a few minutes to step back and consider this basic Christian marriage advice - straight from the Bible.

1. Give Your Marriage to God

Most "Christian marriages" are Christian in name only. One or both spouses claim to be Christians, and they assume then that their marriage is likewise "Christian." It doesn't work that way. To be a Christian is to be not only a believer in, but also a follower of Jesus Christ. Does your marriage truly believe in Christ? Does your family follow Christ?

The first thing you must do is dedicate (or re-dedicate) your marriage and family to God. Put your marriage on the altar. Give it to God. Don't try to "control" your marriage or your spouse. Give it all to God. From this day forward, your marriage must be God's marriage.

2. Re-commit Yourself to God

Before you re-commit your marriage to God, you may need to do that with your own life. In fact, we should put ourselves on the altar each day (Romans 12:1-3). Are you living for yourself? Are you trying to make yourself happy and/or expecting your spouse to make you happy?

As bestselling author and pastor Rick Warren puts it: "You were made by God and for God, and until you understand that, life will never make sense." Give God back the keys to your life. Give Him control.

3. Pray Without Ceasing

Prayer is not so much about petitioning God and asking Him for things. It's about spending time with God and bringing yourself into a deeper relationship with Him. Truly effective prayer is not possible until you have done the preceding step, which is to give yourself to God. Once you've done that, pray without ceasing.

Pray. Pray. Pray. Never stop praying. Pray in the morning, during the day, and at night. Pray while you're driving. Pray in the good times and in the bad times. And, right now, if you're trying to put your marriage back together, then pour yourself out to God every day (as David does in the Psalms). Give all your burdens, cares, and stresses to the Lord.

4. Love Your Spouse Unconditionally

This is the tough part. You must love your husband or wife unconditionally. (Side note: If you are in an abusive relationship, especially one that is putting you in danger, get out of the house and seek help! You should still love your spouse, but you don't need to put yourself in any more danger). Assuming that you are not in any physical danger, you must commit to loving your spouse unconditionally - and expressing that love in consistent, practical ways.

If you want to know about unconditional love, consider the example of Jesus. You should also read I Corinthians 13. By putting these four principles into practice, you will see positive results in your Christian marriage.

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Some men are just like that, like my husband he doesnt buy at first i used to complain and he would say if i wanted anything that i have access to money i should go and buy that he doesnt have that kind of time but i buy for him.

Then when i bought he will never say thank you but just look at the thing and smile after which he will ask "How much did you buy it" and i will be so angry. But, one night after love making (knowing he was in a good mood) i told him how i felt about the whole thing and he apologized but until now he doesnt buy. I buy and i am still buying coz i know what i want for my guy and if i have the opportunity to do that i just go ahead without minding. At least the Bible says a virtuos woman see consideres a field, and buys it: with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard.

So my dear just fulfil your part, i know certainly that someday he will realize it and appreciate you.

Some men dont appreciate their wives in their present but do it outside and we (women) dont like that we want to see it but it doesnt always work that way.

Smile and be happy dont let that disturb you as long as he is doing other necessary things.

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I always tell my husband that, i don't like cloud in my house especially now the champions league is on, he always bring in people to watch the match with and i don't real like it because of my kids. Please help me

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Some men aren't into all those stuff. But give it time and a change will come. When I started dating my BF he wasn't interested in birthdays,vals, xmas etc. I knew from the start the kind of person he was so it didn't bother me, I just went along with my romantic self and did the stuff for him, not expecting anything in return. Our first Christmas together he bought me a present and carefully wrapped it, even his mum was suprised. Be patient, as long as you know he loves you, That should be the greatest gift.

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thanks for your reply. my husband is all you said except, like i said, i provide all that i need. he doesnt provide for my personal needs. i take care of my parents and siblings myself. but he does for our baby and things we need at home. All the same, i will take to your advise and rise up to all these. thanks.

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if im wrong pls tell me.i love my husband unconditionally. before we got married and now we dont go out to catch fun like other couples, we dont exchange gifts (birthday, valentine, christmas, etc). he doesnt see it as necessary. when i complain, he gets angry and classify me as materialistic. i feel so bad that it doesnt exicite me to make love to him now or even to pet him. ever since we met, i have never received anything from him. and when i did for him, he didnt appreciate it. he said the gift i bought wasnt his standard. now he says providing what we need to make us comfortable at home as man and wife shows the kind of love he has and no responsible wife should complain! i get moody once in a while because i cant discuss it with him without quarelling with him. i buy anything i need for myself and even contribute my quoter for running of the home.is it wrong 4 me to feel bad about this.

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