Hi landers, I have a friend with this problem so i told him that i will share with u guys and know ur views.
My friend's parents started out together as a very poor couple living in a face-me-i-face-u apartment. With the woman's effort, he helped the husband all the way until now that he is a successful businessman. They have grown up kids, some in the university, my friend the eldest on his NYSC.
Now that the man is successful, he goes around town chasing girls and generally misbehaving. Everybody knows about this, I mean everybody apart from the poor wife.
The most annoying part is that his escapades are around the neighbourhood. He goes out with the neighbours' daughters, wives, his secretaries, everthing on skirts both underaged and overaged.
My friend and his siblings also know about this too. Each time he challenges his father openly, he charges up and threatens to lay a curse on the poor boy saying that he is ungrateful.Once he tried to throw in words indirectly to the dad in that direction in presence of his mum, all hell broke loose. The dad ranted and shouted and threatened fire and brimstones on both the mother and the kids calling them ingrates and reminding them that after spending all his money on their school fees, they come to insult him. The mum at the end of the day dint even catch the gist, she ended up begging her husband (as an ever peaceful woman)on behalf of the kids.
Now my friend is confused. He wants to tell the mum about everything. He doesnt know if he should do so because in as much as the mum is peaceful, she culd be erratic. If it hurts her so much, she is the kind of person that can pack up and leave the marriage; and the consequences will definitely fall on the kids.
On the other hand, he is afraid of confronting the dad because he doesnt know how he would react. Without the dad, how wuld they feed talkless of paying bills like school fees?
He also thot of confronting the dad's girlfriends, but how many will he confront?
I told him to get someone to talk to his dad but he said the father intimidates all his friends cos he's richer than them all. The bad friends follow him on his escapades while the good ones will be too afraid to confront him (cos he pays some of their children's fees).
The only person the dad respects is his elder brother and he pretends to b a saint in his presence. Going to him might bring up too many problems afterwards.
What should he do