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How Did Your Husband Propose?

Now ladies please share with us your wonderful moment of proposal! How did he do it? Were you on a deserted beach and he got down on one knee, took out the little red satin box and showed you the ring with a lovely diamond saying "Will you marry me?" ?

Or even if not that ideal, tell us how was YOUR unique moment!

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Reading all of these comments, i realize why people write Jamb 10 time before they leaRn how to answer simple question.

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Hmmmn I knew he was going to propose anyway because he started using the "our "word.he was so genuine.i was in my finals in sch.I was gradually falling in love with him but wasn't so much into him.was scared of settling down.I was so into my friends and the carefree lives we lived.I pleaded with him,let's date a little more.the man didn't hear that one oh.ok I stopped taking his calls all the time.always giving an excuse for not picking up.one good staurday,I and my friends were preparing for a party,he called,and said am in front of your hostel.ha just like that.he came all the way from Lag without even telling me.the following monday was public hols,he had everything planned out.that was how he spoilt show for my party oh.the next thing I was in his hotel room.he kept sensing I was uncomfortable,because I respected him ,I couldn't just talk about my earlier programme.he was like why don't you go to hostel and get your stuffs,I will be leaving on tuesday morning.ha that was how I landed in his hotel room,lying on his chest.he popped the question,I was so scared when I saw the ring.Besides am the last,and none of my sis were married then,I still wanted to be much single.I told him I can't pls.he was like what are you scared of?don't worry nothing is going to change,u still have to party with your friends,I won't get u pregnant even in the next 2-3yrs.so many promises.did he actually keep the not getting pregnant stuff?so I accepted the some few months later even when my friends where against it.we got married and I got pregnant immediately come and see trouble for him.I was so furious,upset.long story abeg...Thank God I accepted I wouldn't have known marriage could be less stressful.he is sweet.

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Ive been married to my husby over 3yrs now,and this thread just reminded me that i never said "yes i do". Things just worked out, i cant explain.

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The first Guy that proposed to me did not end up as my hubby cos our genotype was incompatiable. Now my Hubby, very crude

He just called and said " How far about that thing we talked about now, shey you are ready? Lets us do quick and finish in two months abeg" I was like what?

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Re: How Did Your Husband Propose?

« #7 on: April 11, 2007, 07:39 PM »

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i think for some it's ego thing, lol why should i bend down for the woman eh?

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Omoge, are you a man or a woman? Pls clarify

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my case is really amazing, i have proposed twice @ two different ocassions, two different spots to the same lady, the second one was more to reinforce my locve for her,

first instance: over the phone, felt it wasnt romantic enough, sent her like 50 love text messages and she was like, what's happening here and i poppoed the question,

second instance: at eko hotel meridien, lovely outing for lunch, afterwards we went chilling by the pool side, she looked really pretty in her new dress and new hair do, really loved her perfume,

as a guy man, me i still look good too,

anyway, i sang äfrican queen" for her, at least she was the queen of my life,

told her i wanted to spend the rest of my life with her,

pulled out a rose flower and popped the word once again,

this time around she really liked the surprise,

i was really glad, because she means the world to me,

right now we are planning the marriage stuff, u would agree with me that it takes a lot of planning,

please wish us well.

i really love her

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Nigerian men are Romantic jo. My fiance picked me up from work and instead of takin me home he took me to a park facing a lake. I was like was up now? He started talking about building our future and our life. His words, No house can stand without a strong foundation, We have built a good foundation now its time to complete the building. (He is an archietect), then he asked me if i want to develop the building.

A bit strange but romantic, abi

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I'll tell you all when that happens lol.

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propose ke?

loverboy just started telling everyone i was his wife from the first date.

yep. im that stunning!

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@ all nigerian men are real and practical that is why they seem to be less unromantic,

but part of love is getting to appreciate and care for your woman, therefore nigerian men are getting to learn the romance stuff.

an ex-girlfriend of mine recommended watching indian movies, at first, it seemed like a boring activity but over time i got to love it and believe me it has boosted my romance life,

with regards to making a proposal to your wife to be, i think it is an interesting thing to do.

every man worth his salt should be delighted to do it,

the styles may differ,

nigerian men have come of age are now making proposals to their brides,

some are even doing it retroactively, kind of, to make up for lost time, that is for the married folks,

we don dey change oh!!!!!!

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Funny thread! I've laughed my Bottom off! Well, i haven't been proposed to yet, until then, i'll let y'all know.

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abeg cut them some slacks spoilt,some of them are indeed romantic.

have you heard of a proposal that starts like this;

Baby,I swear those hips can bear twins,I want to make you the mother of my future Taiwo and Kehinde.

Now isn't that romantic?

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People do get romantic proposals. I know dat 4 a fact. Not all Nigerian men are dry

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lol.

This was before I recognised who red lips was

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lol like Talk, men are cheap.

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, still trying to remember.

Now I remember. Called me for a chat after one year of dating and took me to see the new settee he was making for the house ( now for somebody very secretive, this seemed strange and exciting to me). We later went to a restaurant and had a meal and went back to the house.

And then after a while he said "I want us to be husband and wife and I want us to go to God in prayers"

I felt blood rushing down my face as I hugged him and kissed him passsionately

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was at the saloon when he called and asked me to meet him at home, i got there n he wasn't in. so i walked ito the bedroom and lo and behold, the room was filled with fresh roses, lavender lit candles, a ring on the centre of the bed, a very massive custom made card with our pics by the side and the heading "HAPPY 50TH ANNIVERSARY BABY", then another handmade card with the heading, make it a reality by being, my wife, the mother of my kids and my soulmate.

While gazing at the whole lot, he walked in and said i know what i have and feel for u is real, and i know will not just last but will be forever, make me a happier man and be my woman. y'all guess what i said and what happened after the.

Well that was 4 yrs ago, we've bn married 3 yrs now .

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i said to my wife - will u be my fok mate? she said,i will be your fok mate forever.

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@ area boy1

You are welcome, and yes he is rather creative

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@cariby

ur husband must be a very creative guy to have come up with such an idea,i really love that, i'll make sure i try the same thing with my wife to be.now u see, cute-Bottom and spoilt am not totally wrong afterall.thanks cariiby for vindicating african men.

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My cousin proposed to his wife by annoucing it severally on a radio music programme anchored by a DJ friend of his.

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area boy thanks for pointing out that the situation of the country is making our men more unromantic than necessary. just try and not use your frustrations on girls.

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spoilt and cute-Bottom,i refuse to be intimidated by u girls,u want to use girl power to bring me down abiheeeeeeeeeeeelp!!!lol.what i'm simply saying is that african men are more than romantic,the way we exhibit our masculinity to u girls is even more romantic than u think but it's a pity that u girls dont see it that way,u consider it bullying.but a real african girl whose reasoning is not beclouded by oyinbo lifestyle would appreciate we african guys.i still maintain my stand on not proposing to a woman.come to think of it,dont u think ?somebody it should be the other way round?why cant they be the ones to propose to us, i think that would be so romantic on ur own part cos some oyinbo women do that alot.tell me which girl will not like to propose to a fine boy like me, check my picture out.fine boy looking sexy!!!!did i hear u call my name?

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cut-Bottom,by that i mean telling her to marry u no asking her to.weak men beg women to marry them.just go straight to her and ask her when u are going to see her parents.she will love u forever.all those kneeling down to tell a woman to marry u is just an attribute of a wussy who either is not ready to be a man or just pretending,especially an african man.

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please area_boy1 do you mind explaining what in your own terms, you mean by going straight to the point??

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hey!!spoilt brat, can u define romance?tell me the essence of romance when u know u guys will get a divorce after some years.to me, that is called hypocricy of the highest order.what u girls think is romance is actually deceit.take that from me.

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area boy1 you are the ones giving naija guys bad name in the romance department. when we say you guys are not romantic now una go vex!

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na oyinbonisation dey kill all u girls.u guys watch too much movies, and i know for sure that neither one of u guys' fathers proposed to ur mothers.i wonder when we africans will stop living under the shadows of oyinbo people.propose ko, propose ni!! all i know is  that the woman will get the message when the time is right for they guy.shikena!

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i like the she goat stealing yam proposal, lol.

Bottomline is, men should try to do woteva will make their she goat happy, if na oyinbo style of ring on bended knees or na proper naija style of the whole village begging to pluck a beautiful flower from ur papa's backyard.

i prefer the naija style though.

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Could you please give more details on this? I mean, it's the first time I hear about it and made me curious. Hey, I just want to learn!

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Ladies check this .If a Nigerian man is not into Mills&Boom(or is it Boon) or watching foreign movies where do you think he will get the idea of romantic dinner and the bended knee proposal.Why the question of seeing your parents comes in is because in our culture the marriage contract is seen as a very different matter from what the whites do, which is basically a continuation of the romantic and often not very meaningful(divorce after 6 months etc.) things the couple do. The Naija guy probably would have discussed it with his parents ,family ,friends etc about the serious step he was about to take. By this time the woman would have got to know what was going down , any formal act on bended knees would not really come as such a wonderful oooh aaahhh moment.

But for this day and age it is nice for a guy to propose, it makes the ladies feel good. I for one had never asked a girl out and I dated quite a number until many years ago one girl made a big issue of the fact that I never toasted her i.e asked her to be my girl friend .Funny thing was she came to spend a weekend at my house and started this matter after some serious action.

From then I changed my moves ,unfortunately this also included having to learn to tell someone it was over instead of letting things die out as i used to.

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all these stories of bended knees, romantic one liners, restaurants, travelling e.t.c. are not our culture. Of course there is nothing wrong with imbibing some good parts of other cultures but they should not be the gold standard by which others are mentioned.

Of course if i had a white chic by the time i would be proposing she would be well grounded in the flower and she-goat chasing tactics. What were we dating for? Of course to know how a proper naija man does his thing!

The most important thing is to be creative and do something that will make her oooh and aaah. it does not matter if you do it in space or sitting on a stool washing your gums with palmwine!

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I heard the ultimate Naija romantic proposal a few years ago from a friend.

Her now hubby then her serious love interest sent her a ticket to fly out to the town where he lived for a weekend.

She did not want to travel at that time due to workload but he persisted and she gave in.

Unknown to her,he had made an arrangement with a very fine restaurant and reserved a seat on their best spot,a private balcony overlooking the city and even had it secretly filmed and  after dinner while waiting for dessert,the young man started with all the romantic words you can think off and proceeded to get down on one knee while the waiters gathered around and clapped.

The girl flew back home the day after only to be greeted with bouquets of flowers at home and at work with some romantic one liners.

Now that is very very romantic.

Let me add that this man is a Nigerian born and bred although he's been here for a while now.

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I think spoilt is right, I would say 60% of Nigerian Men Dont propose,

The thing would just happen somehow shaaa,

And b4 u know wat's up, Dem don dey see beautifull flower,

Proposing is very important, I think Guys needs learn,

It would even help the marriage.

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Una no go kill me for NL

Wat an interesting topic,

Guys make una go learn oooo

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davidylan no mind this girls joo.

spoilt said nigerian guys dont propose. i guess you not on this planet earth unluck girl check yourself out and you might know why u aint gatta a nigerian guy propose 2 you. , Or we came chasing one she-goat in your compound. nice one mate. if its not because we nigerian guys dont have time to write loads of allegations against ya'll girl you would have shut your mouth up and we wont have spoilt saying we dont propose

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This thread is so funny.

Spoilt why do we always jam in these places?

Girls,abeg take it easy on our men,we have our culture,the oyibos have theirs,none is superior to the other.

But it is so true what an earlier poster said,the proposals don't come as huge surprises to us naija girls unlike those " oh my God,oh my God-screaming white girls".

A naija girl sort of knows when a relationship is shifting gear towards that direction.

The first day I met my hubby,I just knew within me that he was the one and he had the same feeling in his spirit about me and before we knew it,we had waved goodbye to the other people in our lives and the rest is history.

He proposed in a rather strange but ordinary way,there were no romantic music,no bended knees,infact he was doing laundry and he looked me in the eye and told me he loved me dearly and added that he'll like to share the rest of his life with me,there was no ring!

We later went out together the following day to a jeweler and he had me pick out the ring that I wanted,we had it sized and engraved and went out for dinner then announced to friends and family about our engagement.

To someone this may not be romantic enough but romance means different things to different people.

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lo u guys bad so bad lol

will any of u do traditional marriage?

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Many Nigerian men do propose !!.

I know of Nigerian women that have been proposed to. @White nkem, If you are in Europe, the Nigerian dude should have blend in with your culture well enough to know that he should propose. if not, then he is not trying to meet you half way as far as learning your culture.

Don't let anyone tell you Nigerian men don't propose. It isn't true.

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If by creative you meant corny then yes he was creative

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