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How Do I Stop Her?

I don’t know if this is the right forum to ask this.

There is this Nigerian girl I met some few months ago, we chatted for a while and exchange nos. Ever since then she has been calling me asking for one financial favor or the other (usually nothing much) which I always oblige. Now I feel its getting too much and I am not interested in any serious relationship with her. I don’t know how to lie that I can’t afford her requests anymore (I know she will also not believe me) and I don’t also want to insult/embarrass her by just saying NO (guess am too soft). Anyway is there a nice, non embarrassing way I can stop her requests?

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Lol . . . why would he do that, when he is enjoying the attention.

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Why not just change your number or send her a text that you are moving away because of your job situation or better yet why dont you call her and ask her for money and the same way she tells you no should be the same way you tell her

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There is NO nice way to say NO. The sooner you accept that fact, the better for your wallet.

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^^^ C'mon Fhemmy! how? why would I do that? Is it wrong for me to want to help once in a while and not wanting to take all her responsiblities over?

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LMAO. . . . . .  you see, you were quick to show all your might in front of the dragon and now you are running scared!

when you were chasing the broad, you show her where you worked etc to impress her, in return she decided to use you as a cash machine and so you fell for it.

if you say that there is nothing between the two of you then why are you so scared to tell her exactly how you feel about not cashing out? some women sense that some guys are soft and they will use whatever mean to press that button. she knows you are weak and uses that in her advantage, if you dont MAN UP then she will only leave when you are broke.

how can you even be with her with being HONEST with her,  its either you are a MUGU or you are HONEST and tell her whats the deal.

the words are very simple:

I CAN SEE THAT YOU ONLY NEED ME FOR FINANCIAL FAVOURS; UNLESS YOU CAN REPAY ME WHAT I HAVE BORROWED YOU BEFORE; I WILL NOT HELP YOU AGAIN. GO FIND ANOTHER MUGU TO DEFRAUD.

if you cant spit these words in front of this scam artist then just open your wallet and be suckered out.

ps: thats what real friends do, they tell the truth however it might hurt the friend.

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lol…Am not nursing anything and am not expecting anything. If I want anything from her, I would have asked and I guess by now I would be having it. I just don’t want to hurt her feelings or embarrass her. Am looking for a polite way to say No and stop her. Guess there is no polite NO.

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you are being modest,then take what is making you feel that way with her or keep murmuring.

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just tell her that u dont ahve but u do it politely.

u claimed there is nothing btw u guys so y are u this scared of telling her ur mind or maybe u are nursing sumtin in ur heart

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Tell her the truth of how you feel, if you dont wanna "lie"

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^^^ I agree with you. Thanks.

You know there is a way she makes the request and make you feel guilty, like you are a mean person if you dont respond. Guess there is no easy way to end it.

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Thanks, I get your point.

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I made the mistake of telling her where I work. So it's easy for her to put 1 and 1 together to get 2, if you know what i mean.

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Well in the end itcwill be up to you weather or not she uses you. If you like giving away your money fine, but if you had none would she still be your friend. Look at it that way. Don't tell you about you money situation. I wish I could find a guy that was so nice for nothing in return. Alot of women would love that. But all in all there is no nice way for telling someone to stop using you.

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So how did she know that? You must have let it slip in the course of your conversations that you have a lot of money to throw away!

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^^^ trust me there was and there is nothing between us. Just dont know how to say No, when she and I know I have it. Or you think I should not mind whatever she feels? I have no intention of just cutting her off, I just dont want to continue the father xmas stuff.

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Why are you worried about her feelings? If your not in something serious with her then ni biggy. She don't seem to be embarassed to contiually ask you for your money. She will be fine, she was before you and should be after.

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^^^ I knew for less than 3 months. Yesterday will be the 4th time she is asking me for a favour. I dont mind helping once in a while. But really  I feel its getting too much.

Thanks I get your points.

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