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How Do U Deal With A Baby That Cries A Lot?

Hi all,

I was wondering.

i have a six month old and she cries my head off most of the time.the thing irritates me so much and sometimes i really feel like i shld give a good beating.

Besides,the stress is just so much.Imagine six months after having a baby and my whole body still aches as when i was i just put to bed.

moms in the house,do u have a clue?How do i deal with this incessant cries?

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give the baby monkey tail, make she sleep

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na son of man u be now?

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She had that as a mewborn.Didnt know wat was up and worried myself so much.

thanks for the ifno,would have saved me so much of the worry if i found out earlier

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Have you tried introducing her to other people/babies?

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I have a lady that brings her baby over to my place to care for while i take mine over to too.I also take her to the childrens church(babies) on sundays.

Is that okay or do i need to introduce her to more babies

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When the son of man shall come, no one knows

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Thanks a lot.

My pastor taught me to speak good concerning my kids.he told a story of his own daughter   who couldnt write in sch and the teacher will always tell her she is writing nonsense.However,daddy always told her she is doing well,she is trying and all that and wn teacher tells her she is writing nonsense  she tells her daddy knows it is not nonsense.This helped her develop confidence and soon she picked up.Today she is doing fine.

I learnt that lesson and am doing same wt my daughter

Meanwhile,baby is doing aiight now.took her to the doc yesterday and seems she is teething.I got her some teething rings and she is chewing and biting them happily.

Abeg ooooooo.I really need that magic hand.Wn are coming to do that?

Thanks for the concern

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I could babysit the girl and i am sure she will be fine. . . . magical fingers that carries baby is all that is needed.

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How far with the baby oh, hope she is doing great now?

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i think she is too old 2 be having colic,colic usually occurs within the first three mths.

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he sounds like he has colic (Colic is inconsolable crying in a healthy newborn baby with bouts of fussiness and irritability, it has no known cause but is harmless, although it can be very distressing for parents or carers)

http://www.colic-baby-bootcamp.com/

http://www.coliccalm.com/baby_infant_newborn_articles/baby_colic_treatment.htm

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Baby_colic

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Learn the Dursten Baby Language. There is a thread on it in the Health section. I have copied the original thread below.

Baby Language: Learn How To Stop Babies From Crying

« on: April 19, 2007, 02:06 AM »

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I love babies and i came across something really interesting.

I imaging how much stress it could be taking care of a baby,though it is fun but there are just sometimes your baby starts crying and you really don't know why he/she is crying,you try everything to make them stop but they don't stop and seeing them crying inconsolably hurts you so bad to know you can't do anything to help them.

In an attempt to stop them frp, crying,You Carry them and start petting them by shaking them.That may work sometimes but its dangerous to babies' Health.Because when you shake a baby vigorously,it causes internal bleeding and increases the pressure of the brain which in a result causes the brain to pull apart thereby inflicting injury on the baby.This could lead to a condition know as shaken baby syndrome .

What if you could know exactly what is making them cry by the way they cry and be able to do exactly what they asking you for instead of doing otherwise in an attempt to please them

Wouldnt that be cool?

Anyway Here are the 5 major Ways they cry,and by listening carefully to the pattern,you could tell what they are saying.

They are

1 Nehhhh - Hunger.

2 Owh - Sleepy

3 Heh - Discomfort

4 Eairh - Lower gas,Flatulent Stomach.They want to poo or something.

5 Eh - Burp me.You Put them on your shoulder.

Neh

I'm hungry - An infant uses the sound reflex "Neh" to communicate their hunger. The sound is

produced when the tongue is pushed up on the roof of the mouth and the sucking reflex is

triggered.

Owh

I'm sleepy - An infant uses the sound reflex "Owh" to communicate that they are tired. The sound

is produced much like an audible yawn.

Heh

I'm experiencing discomfort - An infant uses the sound reflex "Heh" to communicate stress,

discomfort, or perhaps that they need a fresh diaper. The sound is produced by a response to a

skin reflex, such as feeling sweat or itchiness in the bum.

Eairh

I have lower gas - An infant uses the sound reflex "Eairh" to communicate they have flatulence or

an upset stomach. The sound is produced when trapped air from a belch that is unable to release

and travels to the stomach where the muscles of the intestine tighten to force the air bubble out.

Eh

I need to burp - An infant uses the sound reflex "Eh" to communicate that they need to be

burped. The sound is produced when a large bubble of trapped air is caught in the chest and is

trying to release out of the mouth.

But to get the best result you have to listen to the pattern of their cry carefully.

Heh And Eh could be confusing,so listen to it carefully.

Trust me,they all work.

You can try this with your babies and post replies to let other people know how well its working.

enjoy

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That joke flew right by you

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Babies are conditioned to associate the senses [esp touch] with comfort and motherly care. Heheheh, you're going to have to find a way to make her feel more comfy in her bed.

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I love that.

Keep it up, your daughter will surely be proud of u

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The mistake that women make is carrying and holding their baby too much right after birth. THEY GET USE TO IT!!!!!

I know you wanna carry and stare at them, but let them get used to being on their own too. ONCE THEY GET USE TO THEIR MOTHER'S TOUCH, THEY CRY WHEN THEY DONT FEEL HER TOUCH ANYMORE.

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must confess i am guilty of this.my girl was so adorable and i couldnt quite stop looking at her.I spent a lot of my spare time gazing at her and admiring her.I guess that where it all started.Besides,she was exclusively breastfed for alomst 5 months.That means plenty of carrying.Anyway,i hope its not late to make amends in that regards.

Like i said b4,will take her to doc just to make sure there is no problems.i just want to be on the safe side.

Thanks all

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Hope all goes well there.

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THERE MUST BE A REASON WHY SHE CRIES. SOMEONE MENTIONED TEETHING.

Take her to her doctor and make sure she's okay. Babies cant exactly tell you what's up with them, the only thing they can do is to cry and hope you do something about it.

My bro cried senselessly when he had an ear infection, only the doc knew, we didnt.

Another thing you can do is to carry your baby on your back, walk back and forth anf rock your feet in a rhythmical mode. Within minutes, he/she will fall asleep.

SOMETIMES THE ONLY THING BABIES WANT IS TO FEEL "TOUCHED".  They want to hear, feel, smell, and see someone comforting, someone they trust.

You're just going to have to pet her until she falls asleep.

The mistake that women make is carrying and holding their baby too much right after birth. THEY GET USE TO IT!!!!!

I know you wanna carry and stare at them, but let them get used to being on their own too. ONCE THEY GET USE TO THEIR MOTHER'S TOUCH, THEY CRY WHEN THEY DONT FEEL HER TOUCH ANYMORE.

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Thanks so much for all ur advice.I hv bin following them and she is doing better.

Havent cried much today.Meanwhile,i will be taking her to the peadiatrician tomorrow just to make sure nothing is wrong.Once i have done dat i will just try and let her cry a while b4 picking her up outstrip suggested.the reason i havnt done that yet is cos am afraid maybe somthing might be wrong wc i might not know in wc case it will be unfair to let her cry on.

i appreciate ur contributions.

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Could your baby be teething? Please do not spank a 6 month old and if the crying gets overwhelming rather than stay there and think how frustrating it is you should leave the baby in the crib and close the door. Crying will not kill her. Wait about 10 minutes before you go back in there. As long as you know she is not hungry, wet or in pain. When you are stressed your baby knows. Sometimes and this is usually with first time moms we teach our babies bad habits. Like running and picking them up when they cry. Sometimes crying becomes a way for them to just get you to move. Even when she cries at night wait a few minutes before you go to her. It will be hard at first but I think in the long run it will improve things for the both of you

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Hope with all our advice, the baby is doing more playing than crying now.

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Because babies can't talk, crying and yelling at the top of their voice is the only way they know to express their feelings. If you think you've done everything and your baby still cries I'll suggest you go see your paediatrician.

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Dont use pacifier, it aint cool. I never used it for mine

Definition of Colic which i lifted from a website

Colic is a condition where there are repeated bouts of excessive crying in a baby who is otherwise healthy and thriving. Colic is common and distressing. However, it usually goes away by the age of 3-4 months. The cause of colic is not known. Ways that may help to ease colic in some cases, and some tips on how to cope, are given below.

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.A typical baby with colic

Colic is common. A healthy new-born baby may have periods of crying. For no apparent reason he or she cries as if in pain. The usual methods of comforting do not work very well. He or she does not want to feed, and may pull up their knees. Sometimes the baby's abdomen (tummy) appears to 'rumble'. The cry may sound different and more piercing than normal. He or she may appear to be settling when suddenly another bout of crying occurs. This may go on and off for several hours until he or she settles and falls asleep.

The rest of the time he or she is fine. However, the bouts of colic occur regularly, commonly every evening, but can occur anytime. Bouts of colic gradually become less frequent, and have gone in most babies by the age of 3-4 months,

.Variations on a theme

In some babies, a period of restlessness in the evening may be all that you notice. In some babies with severe colic, the crying may go on for many hours throughout the day (and/or night). However, babies with colic are fine between bouts of colic. They feed well, grow well, and do not show any other signs of illness,

.What causes colic?

The cause is not known. There are many theories. There is some evidence that sensitivity to cow's milk may sometimes play a part. The term 'colic' is used as it is thought the baby has pain in the abdomen (tummy). This may be so, but the cause of the pain is not clear. There is no test for colic, and there is nothing abnormal to find if a doctor examines the baby. Some parents feel that they have done something wrong in some way. This is not so,

.Helping colicky babies and their parents

There is no treatment that cures colic. Every parent has their own way of coping and may find different things helpful. Try not to despair. You have to remember that there is nothing that you have done to cause the colic, and that colic usually goes away by 3-4 months of age, often much sooner. One or more of the following may help.

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.Reducing anxiety

Even new-born babies may sense anxiety. This can make things worse. Try to create a relaxed atmosphere. If possible, have a rest and meal before the colic begins (usually in the evening). The more rested and relaxed you are, the better you will be able to cope,

.Soothing

It is natural to try and soothe a crying baby. Holding a baby through the crying episode may help to soothe. However, a colicky baby may simply not be comforted or soothed. At such times it is acceptable to leave a baby to cry for short periods if you are satisfied that he or she is not hungry, too cold, too hot, wet, or unwell. Remember - never shake a baby. If you need a break from the crying, or if you feel at the end of your tether, gently place the baby in his or her cot and leave the room for around 10 minutes. You could then do something which will help you - perhaps have a cup of tea, a snack or phone a friend,

.Time-out

Friends or other family members may be willing to help. However, try to avoid several people fussing at once as this may cause anxiety. It may be sensible to leave the coping to one person at a time. Take it in turns if you have help. If possible, it is good to have 'time-out' and leave someone else to look after your baby for a few hours.

If you have a partner it can be worth taking it in turns to do the 'night shift'. Many mums, even with partners, always try to do the nights themselves. This can be exhausting. It may be sensible to take it in turns to get a good nights sleep. If you are breastfeeding, you may be able to express enough milk in the day for a feed to be given in the night by your partner,

.Stopping cow's milk and other foods

A sensitivity to cow's milk or to other foods is one theory for colic. Studies have shown that some babies cry less if cow's milk is stopped. This does not occur in most babies with colic. However, if colic is severe it may be worth trying a 'hypoallergenic' diet for one week,

•If the baby is breastfed, this means mum having no milk or other dairy products as part of the cow's milk can get into bosom milk. Also, no eggs, wheat, or nuts.

•If the baby is bottle fed, this means changing from a formula based on cow's milk to a 'hypoallergenic' formula. A pharmacist or health visitor will be able to advise on a suitable milk formula.

After changing the diet for one week:.

•If there is an improvement then continue as above until the baby is three months old. By this time the colic is likely to have settled. You can then resume a normal diet for baby (and mum if breastfeeding).

•If there is no improvement after one week, there is no point continuing. Just go back to a normal diet for baby (and mum if breastfeeding).

.Lactose intolerance

Another theory is that lactose (a sugar in milk) causes or aggravates colic in some babies. If colic is severe, your doctor or health visitor may advise a trial of giving lactase drops to your baby for a week. Lactase is an enzyme (chemical) which breaks down lactose in the gut. If there is an improvement then continue until the baby is about three months old.

There are also lactose-free formula feeds which have previously been advised. However, there are theoretical reasons why a lactose-free formula may not be so good in the longer term. (The reason being that because lactase is an enzyme that is made in the gut, for the best development of the cells that make lactase it may require the presence of some lactose in gut.).

.What about medicines and soya milk formulas?

Gripe water, simethicone drops and Infacol are given to colicky babies by some parents. However, there is little research evidence that they work. Also, it used to be popular to try soya milk formulas. However, there is concern that soya milk may cause delayed side-effects, so it is not usually suitable for treating colic,

.Popular but non-proven advice

The following tips are often given. However, the advice is based on individual experiences and no research studies have proven that they help. So, they may or may not help,

.Noise

Some people say that 'white noise' helps to soothe colicky babies. White noise is background, non-specific noise such as made by vacuum cleaners, washing machines, etc. You can even buy CDs of white noise which claim to soothe crying babies. There is lack of research that proves that this works in most babies, but it may be worth a try.

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.Rides and carrying

Crying babies may settle on car journeys. It is possibly the white noise of the car engine and the gentle movements of the car that do the trick. Pram rides seem good too - it may be the movement that helps to soothe some babies. Or, simply walking with the baby in a sling or baby carrier may help to soothe,

.If you are breastfeeding

Some foods can get into bosom milk. It is difficult to prove if colic is made worse by foods eaten by the mother. Some women say that their baby's colic is worse if they eat garlic or spices. Some women say that stopping caffeine improves the situation. Caffeine is found in tea, coffee, and cola. It is also added to some painkillers such as Solpadeine.

If you suspect a food, drink, or medicine is making colic worse, try going without it for a week. It is unlikely to be a cause of colic if there is no improvement within a week.

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.Complementary and alternative remedies

Many alternative therapies are promoted and advertised for colic. None have been proved to be effective with research studies, and they may be expensive. Note: not all alternative therapies are without risk. For example, some herbal products such as star anise have caused serious reactions in some babies, and are not recommended,

.Your feelings

Sometimes parents become angry, tearful, or resentful towards a baby with colic. These are normal and common emotions. The crying can seem intolerable and very frustrating. If you are finding it hard to cope then do see your health visitor or doctor

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Does she have an infection, or is she toothing

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no mind me.Dont take it literally.i wont try it any way

but seriously the cries are so annoying and sometimes i almost get frustrated after trying so much to no avail.

Fhemmy make u have ur fun,ok.

i dey go sleep.pikin dey sleep now so mak i join as i don know wetin she go demand wn she wakes up.She is som kind of oga at the moment

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one of those days, that i just wanna have fun, no going out today . . . . so i am the cop around here.

I am the wetin u carry for here today.

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fhemmy,seems u r monitoring all the threads in the family section today.

Anyway,thanks a lot.i will get the big teddy tomorrow

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Buy her a big teddy bear and let her play with.

Or try and sleep while she is sleeping, so that you will be aight to just hug her when she is up and she wont be cryiing too much, cos i heard too much crying is is not good for babies, and for the fact that they cant tell you when they have headache is scary.

good luck

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Maybe the baby has Colic?

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Yeah,she has always been acryer from the beginning.I tot then she will gorw out of but it is just getting worse by the day.

I ve got loads of toys but none seems to interest her.I guess mommy and daddy are her favorite toys.no matter how colourful and intresting the toys seem to be,she is always looking out for mum and dada and if none carries her the cries start.

I  guess it is just a case of some babies being more fussy than others and i want to know if there is any approach in dealing wt such babies,

some folks have advised me to let her cry on wn she starts cos she will soon get to understand that  no body will pick her up and stop it. is that right?

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has she been dat way from birth,most babies teeth between 4-7mth,so check n see if her teeth is coming if it isnt out already,in the mean time get her some soft chewy teething toys cos her gum might be itching gdluck.

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ahh Fhemmy,u no be mom naw or are u?

Anyway,i dont think the problem is hunger.I feed her well.I make sure she is full at all times so it cant be hunger.Sometimes the cries start immediately after a feeding.how can it be hunger then.

I guess she just wants to be lapped all the time wc is not possible.If i shld be doing that i guess i would have a stoop very soon.

I am still too young for that

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