Now I know that all Nigerian men are not the same! I must admit that when I first married mine (and during the dating) I as an American thought that the 'culture' was universal. Now I see there are many, many 'sub-cultures'.
I have just left my husband and moved from Europe back to the States with our child. It was a very unhealthy relationship with both mental abuse and towards the end physical.
I know I've done the right thing for myself and my daughter but now I am left feeling even more out of control. When he is not sending me emails full of abuse he is asking of his daughter and accusing me of withholding her from him. Mind you he hasn't sent one dime of support for her. The problem is I don't know how I will ever let her see him again? I want her to have a father and I don't want to keep her from him; but I know nIgerian men do not take kindly to being left by their woman. Not so much out of love but from the shame it would provoke from the ridicule of his friends and family(feel free to correct me on this if you think I'm wrong)
My question is - how do I know he won't snatch her and take her to Nigeria? And if he does how can I get her back? Is it safe for me to travel back to Europe for him to see her?
He has always had an inflated view of himself and has always been very, very disrespectful, critical and abusive verbally so its not as if the things he is saying to me now are any different than what he has said in the past. But then I've never left him before.