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How Long Can Your Mother-In-Law Stay With You?

Some Nigerian traditions allows for ones mother-in-law to stay with her daugther helping her out to nurse the baby.

As the man of the house,how long can u allow her to stay with u?As the wife if the reverse is the case,how long will u allow your husband's mother to stay with u nursing the baby?

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@ seun ure ryt.wen someone older dan u stays in ur house 2 much d person becomes a parasite n gives u unnecessary advice especially wen u dont nid it or ask 4 it.privacy is important

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If she would still be alive, my MIL would be welcome anytime for as long as she desires!

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My mother inlaw will always be welcomed and can stay as long as she likes

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Ofcourse as long as they want

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My parents and his parents can stay with us in old age as long as they want to. They can live with us if they wish.They can be surounded by grandkids and have their friends visit. I hate the idea of people sending their parents to old people's homes, like they're a nuisance to be conveniently dispatched tither. They're vulnerable when they're old, and they should never be sorry they had you for a child. You're going to be old too, and life has a funny way of coming full circle. But right now both sets of parents aren't old. They're busy hustling. So I don't have to deal with that yet, thank God.

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Bless you, neither will I.

Its the selfishness of the modern western generation that makes them want to always take their parents into homes so that they can enjoy themselves. How they leave their parents in homes because they want to enjoy is beyond me. It's all about selfishness.

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@ biina,

dont you think old pple home is good? if you can afford a good one, i think there are old pple's home that are good. they will be able to take care of the person very well and have friends to hang out with, just my thinking though.

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Best relationship is the one from afar.

Wont even want my mother living with me and my wife for more than one month.

too stressful for the man.

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One Month is good enuf.

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They can stay for as long as they want. Though I expect them not to abuse the privilege.

Particularly in old age, they need someone to take care of them. I will never place either of our parents in an old people's home.

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2 to 3 weeks and they are out, i no want wahala. Th next thing you know she will want to run your house and tell you the meat in your soup is too big.

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depending on how nice the mother-in-law is.

a few weeks maybe?

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Nice or not she is staying for 1 week, even my own mother will only stay for 1 week. i would rather pay for a hotel room for her than have her stay in my house for more than 1 week, cuz when they stay for more than one week, they start getting all up in ur business.

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I never said they were evil - a question was asked, and I gave my answer.

It's just my preference, which is what a discussion board's all about, different views.

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a couple of weeks maximum!

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Between my wife and myself, we'll be more than capable of taking care of any children.

Don't want MIL living with us for any length of time.

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HMMM, my parents in law have been living with us for 4 yrs now, tried everything to get them out of my house especially my MIL, and the woman refused to budge. Now that my children have started school, she has nothing to do, she is now pestering me to have another baby, WTH COS THAT AINT HAPPENING. I guess so she can stay for another 3 yrs abi.

My FIL still works so he is hardly ever home, but u know how it is with women. 2 can't live in the same house without one bickering about something which is usually her. It used to hurt me b4 but i have developed a think skin and it hurts her more now that I don't give a damn what she thinks or says.

God willing, I vow never to stay with any of my married children for more than a month (invited by them) at a time. I can't put another young woman thru what I ahve been thru.

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He did not want to learn.

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I think it really would depend on the r/s that I have with my MIL.

My xMIL was a real Dam and I could not stand her more than 6 hours at a time.  But my mom she came for each baby, her and my dad and would stay 3-4 weeks.  It was great having my mom and dad there with me when I had each of my children.

My mom would let me rest the first couple of weeks home and would bring the baby to me for feedings.  Dad would do necesarry repairs around the house (my exH could not figure out which end was the head on the hammer) and he would play with the older children to keep them occupied.  My mom would also prepare meals before she left and freeze them for easy thawing and heating after she left.

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i think there should be a forum/ thread for the married so threads like this dont get lost

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u cant make the decision when ur wife is there. Infact that is ur wifes mom so just stay away and let mother and child do their thing,

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very short visit,nice or not nice i do prefer to avoid wahala.

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as long as u she wants.

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So you're one of those men who use age in determining who to marry -- are you sure when the love bug strikes you, you won't go for someone older than you?

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Depends on how nice she is -- but if she's nice she'll take the cue and leave after a while.

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