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How Long Would You Wait Before Having Kids When You're Married?

Some people start having kids 9months to 1year after they're married. I'm totally against that,i mean i want to enjoy my wife,y'know,enjoy being married for like 2 to 3 years before we start having kids. What do you think?

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Do not reject God blessings,take as it is given unto thee.

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i think it kind of depends on the ages of the couple involved. those probably age advanced will most likely start early some 3-6months while the younger ones might wait for like a year to start trying

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Some women cant wait. I mean its alright to plan that way. But things dont always work out that way. So you get your wife pregnant earlier, you dont want to have kids early what you gonna do abort? I mean its God that gives babies. Your plan aint his plan. And you need to both agree and you all both need to figure out whether you want kids or not. Because life happens, things happen. You might be able to have kids now, whose to say you will 3 years later?

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Like 5yrs ago I do always say i'll wait but If I marry nao,the nxt month na belle,me and my bobo don already do the honeymoon b4 we marry.

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Moral of the story is dont go down that lane if ur wife is older than 23.

Besides the external families would not let u guys rest and the pressure on ur wife would mount, you know people dont mind their business. You have got to be exceptionally thick skinned to knock off all the busy bodies.

Personally, i would wait a few months.very few months[sub][/sub]

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WORD.

Kids might not come when you want them to!

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@ Aterus: Welcome to the real world. Am gonna take it that u are married, rite? If not there is not point going any futher, else, if you are,its better you know the health status of both partners cos u cant assume because you probably got someone pregnant @ some point in your life, u can still do it again or cos ur wife has been pregnant before doesnt mean she can still get pregnant, If that part of the story is sorted out, good for u. Dont forget that God-factor is always there, Even when you are ready for them,its only God that can determine when kids would actually come!!! If you wanna get married without kids been involved, fine. Marriage is not all about having kids,though.

Enjoy all you can, k? Cheers

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i cant wait,remember ladies fades easily unlike men so is andvicable to do it as soon as possible so you rest

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A year or two max, but if she wants one earlier, i won't deny her one.

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Thank-you. We all know that when the little buggers start popping out,things will definitely change

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I feel where you're coming from. Believe me, I've always wanted that as some sorta fantasy. You know, enjoy the good ol' boyfriend/girlfriend days and stuffs; it makes it all fun, I guess.

But as it is, I'm not sure women can wait that long when they're already married yet. If my woman can wait for a little more before we start having kids, sure why not? It's fun.

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What on earth makes you think i cant afford kids?

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Dude get all these naija traditions out of your head the would has changed and it continues to change. you should not be married if you can't afford it and you definately shouldn't be having any kids if you cant afford it.

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Please try and read and understand a topic before you start posting replies.

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