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how many times is a cheating and lying girlfriend worth forgiving?this is coming at a point when i think am done forgiving and its time to pay back in another way.watch out 4 an attachment soon!

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so what exactly has she DONE that you want to forgive her for, so far i don't see anything but suspicion/jealousy on your part. did she told you that she was cheating or not!? did you catch her in bed or kissing this other guy or not. he could be a very good friend, just because you don't have friends of the other sex, doesn't mean she shouldn't have any, what about if he was the baby's father? would you want her to NOT speak with him too?

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Don't waste your time!

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We started this relationship out of nothing .Am 25 years old and i was rounding off on industrial attachment in a bank and getting set to head back to school to also round off on my programme that was when she walked in as the newest staff,pleasentries were exchanged and with time we started knowing more about ourselves.i was able to find out it was her first professional job,her age which is 28 now and that she is a widow with a daughter, young and pretty .As God would have it,we became much closer and fell so in love with each other.Normally i personally define the kind of relationship i had with any body so hers was not an exception considering the daughter,age,and our families after asking each other if we think it could work considering our programmes in the next 3 yrs we decided it was marriage bound.I was always around for her so i never abandoned her while i was in school, dedicated myself fully to her and am now a graduate in love with her and her alone and the only way she can thank me for being faithful and real was to be cheating on me with a particular guy for about 10 months.am really hurt cos there was this time she sent in post and talked bout our age differ and majority where against it and there and then i made a promise to her to love her unconditionally for ever.the worse is that for someone who receives personal gifts,picked and dropped from work by someone who is not her neighbour always,receive phone calls even at odd hours by this particular guy as a matter of fact he is at his beck and call,she still says she is no cheat. i really want to see to see reasons why after dedicating myself for her and planing ahead of time cos of her i shouldn't play tit for tat.

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it all depend on what is the "crime", if she has cheated then you shouldn't even consider forgiving her stinking Bottom at the first place. this is a complete lack of respect and no amount of tears, sorry or beg would make me go back/forgive a cheating gf.

if, for example, it's about forgiving her because she always call you silly names in public when you have asked her not to do that then it's forgivable 100s of times.

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pay back is a silly game.

Pay back is an excuse to exercsie what has been on your mind all along.

Do u have to bring urself to their level? not at all, so all you have to do is let go if you cant forgive her.

Now to answer your question, how many times should you forgive her? it all depends on your heart, mind and soul and your tolerance, not easy, but doable, and if you cant do it, let go of her and get another

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Forgive her the first time because everyone makes mistakes, but if you caught her at it again the second time, then that was a cold calculated move, so cut your loss and move on, unless you don't mind living with someone, who anytime she is late back from somewhere, would have your mind wondering and wandering . . .

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