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How Much Should A Man Earn To Sustain A Marriage?

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Have u ever asked why is difficult to get true love when u re no body.Assuming u walking up to a girl and she asked u and after telling all u wishes,she asked u,u graduated from bla bla bla ,with grade bla bla bla, and when it comes to When where u de Wok?still searching,automatically her sense of security about you has reduced by a certain %.

How Much Can A Man Earn In Nigeria That Can Sustain A Marriage Averagely

Every girl wants already made, I once made a girl who works with the bank, de first question she asked me was the kind of car I use, then I was working and managing with an IT firm in lagos, She asked me How much am paid,BIG QUESTION.

How could one overcome this whole thing?

Is it beta to get a serious girl before a good job

Can sumone marry without good mony

like how much , can a man earn that can sustain him during marriage

How does man overcome the syndrome of no mony no marriage

How does a woman see a man who does not have a job at the moment

Y does every woman want already made no one wants to suffer with the man

If u meet a working class she thinks u re cuming for her mony

This world is a world of mystery especially our country Nigeria

Nigeria girls re wonderful

am really waiting for the answers to my questions ,I want to act on it

Engr kevin

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I am a woman by the way but we women are very funny. We are the same people fighting for equality between man and woman but when it comes to some issues it is ok for the man to be in charge e.g being the provider for the family. Is there anything wrong if a woman tired to make something of herself before marriage and actually contribute just as much as the man does (only fair)? So ladies please let us stop this "no woman wants to drink garri in her husband's house" mentality. It is called "a partnership for a reason".

As per the question I think as long as both parties think they can live comfortably and raise a family on their JOINT income then the time is right. I don't think it should depend on the man's pocket alone. Oh! love as well

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It depends on the woman you are marrying and how wide your mouth is

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@d-reloaded

bride price in my state is a token N120, we don't sell our women by the way. 2nd hand phones go for 3k and a bag of rice is not up to 10k.

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In the U.K it is very common for girls to ask you what job you do and at what level.They even go further to ask if your house has a garden.

And if you drove down to the date.They also tell you about themselves and expect you to ask the same questions.I guess they want to be sure they are dating people in the right social class.Initially I used to be angry(that was when I was still studying) but these days I just answer the questions as they come.And I also ask mine.If you want a top guy be ready to have what it takes.

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to sustain a marriage u must earn an unconditional trust from ur spouse.with this u can build an wealthy home.

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For a man to be able to sustain a marriage he must earn as much as required to provide for the basic needs of the family and also be able to save certain amount of money.without this there is no point gettin into a marriage else all will end up in frustration and this is not healthy for the family.

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Just enough to keep the family above water.

He has to be the provider, so how ever much he needs to get him providing for his family.

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Abeg who want make hm sister marry poor man?if u ask her moni she no give u, u no go swear for d husband?

Na this kind of things put all these niger delta govenors for wahala.Na just 2 satisfy inlaws >

abeg moni dey make woman look under 16yrs .

but d choice is hers.

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I think a Guy should be sure of himself before he ventures into Marriage. Ability to pay the dowry and organise a Big Wedding Celebration is not the main thing in marriage because there may have been contributions from people.

Life is generally hard in this Naija so You Must be able to cater for your Wife & Kids in addition to your Family(extended). You must be able to provide very basic amenities if you want peace in your home. No matter how religious a Woman is, Some day, she will definitely show her other side if she's the one all her friends are looking down on. You must not eat Chicken every day or wear designer stuff but at least you should ensure your Family is not described as being un-tidy or poverty stricken,  or even have your kids appearing greedy because they've never seen some things in their own house.

My 2 cents though,

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You must be drunk. Bride price alone surpasses 10K not to speak of using it to sustain a marriage. What yeye marriage is that? You cant even buy a bag of rice with that rubbish. Second hand cell phone isnt even 10,000 naira.

I suggest you stay single.

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Which one be money ritual again?

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Na wa for life o!

If you marry a rich man, you are a gold digger but when you marry a poor man he will use you for money ritual.What do you expect women to do?

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God will lead us us right not astray, becos all Lagos chic want to jump to the car front and do not want to know how it comes

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You sure understand but don't care, Its NAIRA

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Lmao 10K? I hope this isnt naira.

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My dear I have seen couples marry without "she she", once the love and understanding is there progress will be made. For a good start, 15k by the man and 10k will be managed. They should cut their coat to size.

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For God sake,everybody is leaving d main quest.am

surprised nobody is talking about d Nigerian economy

here,na wa 4 una,una no go kill babes abi na babes hold 9ija

economy?

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What do I say? I've been a while outta the hood but nuttin' has changed. The same ol' routine. The answer to this thread has gotta be individualized. But make sure you've got a paid job before you're married. One that'll conveniently feed two grown individuals and pay the bills. Subsequently, all other things being equal, I expect you guys to grow and "increase" (liabilities inclusive). That's how families are built. That's how they're made. And that's how most of 'em function. I wwouldn't lean on it hough cos I'm very much happily unmarried at the moment. Though I at times long for that ,

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i have my sis inlaw and her son staying with us now, they are here on holidays frm uk, but the truth is that most of the time i find myself having to do eye service instead of being sincere,, pls ladies how do we handle this?

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@Omoge

10k for kpomo; you be tiger?

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My broda, dis a "jamb" questn. Gone r d days of our mothers who married our fathers when they had nottin. Do u know many babes hav turned me down cos' I don't hav a mouth-waterin job now. But wat I always ask dez babes is; don't they look at the prospects of the very young man? Many men r facin this problem especially hia in lag. I strongly advise men 2 get dia wives when they r yet 2 reach dia peak cos any woman dat gets closer 2 a guy cos of material tins is an indicatn dat that relationship 'll not last. I need a real woman who will stand by me in every situation regardless of age , tribe, religion. MAY GOD HELP US

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Kevin,

Just find a woman that respects you. Thats the most important thing. Love is a concept, it is a thing of the mind. You can turn your mind from love to hate in an instant. I think we Nigerians, are gradually losing our culture for the white man's ways. The lady you talked about is just an exception, not the rule. So long as you have a steady source of income and can fend for your family, that is all that matters. Someone might earn N1million monthly, yet it wont be enough to support his lifestyle and family, but someone else earns N100K and its enough. So as they say, different stroke for different folks.

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Re: How Much Should A Man Earn To Sustain A Marriage?

« #5 on: December 12, 2007, 01:11 PM »

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First thing ill say is that not all girls seek ready made guys, personally i like guys that are very ambitious, u might not necessarily have money but if uve got that drive, intelligence and ambition ill definitely find you attractive and wuldnt mind going into a relationship with you, the reason some girls ask those questions ( thou most ask for material reasons) is because they need to find out if the guy in question is intellectually ok, and has a reasonable enough job to sustain them if they eventually get married. If ure unemployed but can prove to a lady that ure smart and uve got ambition and ull certainly make it soon, i see no reason why she shouldn't dig you.

As for the getting married if uve got no money, i would advise against it. Personally i think a man should earn a steady income of say a minimum of about a million yearly to sustain a marriage considering he'll be paying bills like house rent, nepa, hospital bills (when d wife takes in) and so on.

GAL I DUG YOUR STYLE, THAT'S THE REAL THING, GOD BLESS YOU RICHLY FOR THIS WORDS, THE ABOVE WORDS ARE THE BEST YOU NEED TO KNOW, FINAL

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I think Mr. Engr. has used his post to check 4 a suitable and marriage girl in his home. Anyway, no quanz. Du u kno if Lola was pretending? O boy think twice. Look b/4 u leap.

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if u can classify ur parents as good,then listen to them but if u classify them as bad then fashi them, the choice is urs but guy,always HONOUR THY FATHER AND MOTHER na d commandment wey go with blessinng ooooooooooooooh

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hello guys ,pls help me out,i am 27yrs,pls how far can one obey one parents?they are forcing me to take something which against my faith,what do i do ?i refused it and they are angry with me,how do i handle it.pls respond.

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am a guy and i have being studing women for a long while and d question is WAT DO WOMEN REALLY WANT.but my fellow bros,its in d bible dat a man must provide 4 d woman ooh and theres a passage dat a girl quoted for me dat somehow means, woe to a man who cant provide 4 d wife or so.guy,being a man no easy.now na i dey respect my papa d most cos him try.

so whether ur wife rich or poor na u go dey provide ooh

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It behooves me (makes me feel like a goat/malu) why men marry at all. Surely it is the most unprofitable venture in the world. Absolutely nothing to gain in it except more problems.

I think men are the weaker vessels . No common sense at all. (at least women know what they want from it all)

Goat to the slaughter. Suya meat for marriage then slave all your life to make it work.

Next time I come back as a woman - fine woman with big bosoms and backside - and all my problems will be solved for life. I swear.

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Me I go yarn. . . .

To take good care of my family.

I should earn a minimum of $2,000.00 Monthly!

A good job can gimme that or other major means of income

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This thread reminds me of my run away "girl friend" that suggested I should begin to earn 400K monthly before she can start to think wedding , I guffawed and told her she should prepare to be the third wife! In muy thinking very few young chaps earn that little in Nigeria for a start at life. lol!

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Many of us r culprits.As we analyse and criticise let's also search ourselves.I believe 80% of girls contributing to this message are not innocent.The issue of materialism has been on the high rise these days.It's so much in our subconsciousness that u can be guilty and not know it.So watch out for urself;u could be worse than those we are criticizing.

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is money the thing that sustains marriage?

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i think this kinda stuff is relative to few things, to mention but few

1. location

2. lifestyle

3. how many people in the family

4. healh of the family member

However, it is the duty of the man and da woman to do decide how their expenses are and how they can meet them and still make sure they have some savings.

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Na wao, de guy need help not tongue lashing. He is already married, abi you want make im leave the wife. If you no fit help leave am alone I beg, people wey go help go soon show up.

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@ jkpretty

I agree with u"Its not how much, its LOVE, GOOD PLANNING & GOOD WIFE"

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well thought off and spat out e-monkey. def second

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Married without job ? - You will become houseboy. No sex wallahi . Others men will help you do this for your wife.

Married without GOOD job ? - You will become driver . Sex once a year .

Married with GOOD job ? - You will become the horse. You must work harder to make more money to pay for what is expected of you. Sex ? Where will you find energy ? You will die of heart attack if you attempt it.

Return to your question "How Much Should A Man Earn To Sustain A Marriage?"

Never enough money I'm afraid. If that is even in consideration , better not get into it at all. else you will be miserable all your life. Otherwise find a loving, caring , level-headed woman who will marry you for what you are (whatever that is). There are several places to find such a woman , but the only one I know is outer space.

My advice young man is to buy a lot of condoms and enjoy your life and whatever money you have in your pocket.

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my dear poster

   Apart from women demanding, you yourself have to make your life comfortable it's not only to influence women but for your own selfty. some men hustle to intice themself. don't be afraid put more effort in what you're doing and stay away from  ladies gardering.

money is made to keep man secured from poverty treaten. Don't put it in mind that you're doing it for a woman but for your confortability. women are inteligient in their own way they don't want to under go a certain financial imbarassment that's why they ask so many questions, but that's not withstanding.

   hustle fine get yourself financial comfortability them you have the woman of your choice.

 wealth is what it takes to be a man.

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Marriage is a problem, what the man needs to do is to try and manage it. I do not think the digit behind your salary is the solution to the problem because the size of your head will determine how may yards of clothe you will need to make a cap.

be wIsE

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Look as far as i'm concerned this topic brings in different sub-topics.

i personally believe that being rich is a mentality & planning in one's life should be utmost!. There is no amount of salary u collect, if u've not got what is binding enough to sustain ur marriage it will still collapse. If not, why is it dat some people u know that have enough money or u know their income is awesomely large still have finance problems or other problems at that. Even if u earn 500k per month, once u don't have the other things that makes a marriage tick, it will still head for the rocks. Why are we children of nowadays so money conscious. We know very well that our parents of then barely had enough funds yet managed resources together & sent us to school, even to their own detriment, yet they are content & happy.

I personally believe that no matter where u are, u are always in a position of envy to another person. Some people earn very low income yet u wonder how they managed resources to purchase somethings. (PLANNING & A GOOD WIFE)

I think the question here is greed. Even if we start earning that money we are aspiring to get, our taste moves up. we hear "i need to get that house in V.G.C" why? will u die if u don't have the house? i think being content is another solid factor.

Pardon me to say to the guys that some of u want to impress the ladies u intend marrying or u hope to meet that's why u are hoping to get to a particular class. What ever happened to those ladies u met while at school ready to be there for u thru thick & thin. Moreover when the money comes don't some of u later feel the girl u once had no more fits in? Dat's why we see lots of "made guys" still looking for a wiffy

@ TOPIC: Its not how much, its LOVE, GOOD PLANNING & GOOD WIFE.

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O bOY you NEED FACILITY  FOR LOVE simple.

what are the facilities for love?

1. A beautiful car.

2. a well toshed flat.

3. a well designers stocked wardrobe.

4. A DSTV premium with 2yrs subcription for her unlimited Entertainment.

5. A monthly allowance of 80k

Then  you are on your way to having a beautiful Lagos girl for a Contract Marriage. Terms and conditions fully applied[/size][size=8pt]

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i am a married man and happily at that . i work in a good place so also is my wife . i dont blame a lady asking for that . she has a choice to marry the best person and for a good lady that knows that only death can seperate one in marriage , they had better shine their eyes !!or is it shone dem eyes ,

Relatively , men need to work to keep good women and anything between 100k and above monthly , with good prospect and ability to continue learning should be a target for any woman , ladies dont marry lazy men , look , scrutinize them , especially the sugar tongued ones , but be careful , dont look at the sustainability from dat angle alone , there are lot of devil with enough cash to throw around ,

dat said there are really solid men in this naija , looking for good woman , the missing link is this , PRAYER and being yourself ,

Good bless

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Well,Engr Kelvin u wouldn't blam us the females cos nobodi wan soak gari 4 him husband house.Also, it depends on the type of girls u've meant,ther r stil beta girls like me(she laughs),i dont really look at already made i dont know wher the moni is 4rm whether its blood moni,mak i no b the next ritual victim, at least i need a guy dt is tryin and i know we can mak our bright future 2gether. And so shal it be.Amen.

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Yes, there is nothing wrong in asking, but some girls do ask in order to say either yes to you or know. In order to know this :

IF A GIRL INSIST FIRST THAT SHE HAS TO KNOW HOW YOU EARN, WHICH TYPE OF CAR YOU DRIVE, WHETHER YOU HAVE A HOUSE OR NOT BEFORE SHE CAN TELL YOU ANYTHING ABOUT HER IS THE FIRST SYMPTOM.

May God help us.

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It is relative. Totally depend on the life style, focus, taste and choice of every individual but relatively 1m per annum in lagos.

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It's not the amount, but how responsible he is with the money that matters.

By putting his wife and children ahead of everybody else, and I mean everybody.

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To sustain a marriage is love,even if a man earns a millions dollars if u can't handle a home den u can't or if he earns a thousand and d wife 2 thousands,once d love is there,u bound my dear.Well thats my opinion,cos when i cos d topic "How Much Should A Man Earn To Sustain A Marriage"my mum saw it and said without love marriage cant b sustained.

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