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HOW NECESSARY IS MARRIAGE?

The whole rave about meeting the right person and settling down i do not get, how many married couples are actually happy? especially the youger couples, I would like to hear your opinions,

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Commitment-shy people are afraid, and will always be afraid of marriage. it's just that u don't want to be responsible to a steady family. responsibility is the key word.

marriage is not for selfish irresponsible people who will want to enjoy all the benefits of marriage outside of it. tell yourself the truth!

Take it or leave it, if u don't want to marry don't go near the opposite sex for conjugals or else it will hook you in the throat one day. If u make yourself an Eunuch, good for you. stop being a hypocrite!

Sorry for some ladies who spend their youth frolicking with all manner of men, only to go beyond marriageable age and then start castigating marriages. You can't eat your cakes and have it, u know.

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I find it difficult to understand y people talk about love like its supposed to last for ever without basing my assumptions on any scientific proof i think it is too obvious that love is not everlasting. And that is why people with experience tell u that love is not just enough in marriage. they infact lay more emphasis on honesty, trust, patience, tolerance, faith and so on.

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the whole essence of marriage is to prohibit indiscriminate sex which will lead to indiscriminate procreation to ensure the sanctity of our societies. for what ever reason one chooses to get married or not i think one thing is clear. Only you can make yourself TRULY HAPPY. how u seek happinees is entirely upto u in or outside marriage. No religion PREACHES THAT marriage GUARANTEES HAPPINESS EVER. THAT WAS FABRICATED BY MAN. THROW AWAY THE MISCONCEPTION. MARRIAGE IS ONLY A MEANS TO AN END.

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Life is all about giving and taking, but it's amazing that quite a lot of us are not ready to step out of our comfort zones, sacrifice here and there to make the world a better place.

Marriage or better still, family  forms the building units of the larger society, so if all of us were to stay as singles or individuals, what sort of communities do we get ?

Marriage is good for companionship, support(help), childraising(this goes beyond just rearing children 'cos dogs too rear chidren)etc. And  it is sweet as it effectivelly addresses the issue of loneliness which goes beyond sex.

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Of course marriage is necessary, if not, God wouldn't have ordained it.

I'll like to have children and a man by my side to live with, cry with, laugh with, quarrel with, love, hate and what ever.

A man that will be totally mine and me totally his. This is what I think marriage entails.

On the aspect of children, I definitely wouldn't want to be a single mom by choice neighter will I want to stay childless, in this context, unless I deceive myself, of course marriage is VERY VERY necessary to me and even important.

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Marriage is not necessary.I use to think it was necessary before i got married.I dated my husband for 10years before we got married.Got married @ 24yrs,we've been married for 2 yrs.The thing is most guys pretend while still courting but,when married,you'll surely see there true colour.My advice to anyone out there especially ladies is to get busy,have a job or business or something to bring money for you so ,you wont have to rely on any man.Some are lucky and some are unlucky in marriages but,trying it out will be the best option and if it doesn't work out for you,abeg opt out.No be do or die affair.

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There really is no point in rushing into marriage if one isn't ready, I see people rush in and out of marriage often. If it actually means having to wait till one is in his/her 40's then so be it cos when its the right one, then the vows of marriage really actually make sense.

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I think marriage is over-emphasized in the Nigerian culture.

It kinda restricts the woman into the 'fruit bearing' realm alone, as if shes good for nothing more than just to get pregnant. And even after getting pregnant, she then begins another battle: 'I must give birth to a boy by all means'.

In fact a lot of women are confused. Whether they should pursue their career or not, do this or that, their first aim is to get married, and even if they are not enjoying it, coz their husbands has seen that 'all she wants is to get married', he misuses her just as he likes / does what he likes, while 'she cant do what she likes' because she is the 'woman' - summarized as the lesser-human, and she continues 'smiling to her friends': 'im married, im married', but the question we should be asking is: are you happy in that marriage? the answer is usually NO.

No, I don't think its necessary.

I just had some information about a woman who poisoned her husband. When the whole story came out, she admitted that she was tired of the marriage. Did the man beat her? No. Did he cheat on her? No. Didnt he provide for the famly? he did. What was the main problem? she realized that she just didnt want to continue(after 3-kids) and since the man does not understand(divorce), according to the Bible, the only option was to poison him.

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As I read through I noticed that for every woman who says narriage is necessary, there are two men who say the contrary. Isn't this enough to have a rethink?

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marriage is not do or die. that idea is as a result of our fallen society. some people get married and all the problems of the world seems to come with it. some get married and its abour the best thing to happen to them. so its left to the individual to makethe choice. afterall the are nuns and the like who dont get married.

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I AGREE SO MUCH WITH LUUVBUUH, TAKE A LOOK AROUND AND U SEE BREAK-UPS MORE THAN MAKE-UPS, MARRIAGES CRASH LIKE PACK OF CARDS AND U ASK URSELF IF THIS IS WOT IS ALL ABT?

SIMPLE REASON, THE WORLD IS FULL OF SO MUCH INSECURITIES MOST ESPECIALLY 9JA, N MONEY RULES EVERYTHING AROUND US AND HOW DO COPE WITH ALL D PRESSURES IN THE FACE OF E GO BETA. SO NO BODY WANTS TO SUFFER AND D RESULTANT EFFECT IS PEOPLE HOOKING UP FOR DIFFERENT REASONS AND AS LONG AS THE RELATIONSHIP IS NOT BUILT ON TRUTH AND LOVE ITS BOUND TO FAIL

I WISH US ALL LUCK IN OUR RELATIONSHIPS

CHEERS

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Marriage from my on perspective is necessary,don't let us be discourage by all the negative things in our vicinity.But it is what we put into it that we will get.We must try as much as possible to make our marriage a success, no matter the challenges surrounding us.It takes understanding to build a home, but love,patience,humility,etc to maintain it.

Even if you are still single,always tell God how you want your home to be.Marriage is sweet IF you marry the right person, full of realities ,best of luck!

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You can really blame the ladies this days. Most men ain't ready to get married these day. So they tend to hold on tight to their latest victim.

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i totally agree with oddz and epiphany the only reason i would like to get married is to abstain from indiscriminate sex. in my opinoin, marriage is not necessary but is good for reproduction, and companionship. however, if one is not satisfied with it, abeg pack ur bags and remain single, but with a kid or two. chikena!!!

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To be honest, marriage is not necessary.

Many of us are hitting this concept from the Christian perspective. For those who are not christians, mainly in the 1st or developed world, marriage is not on the top of their list for happiness. They can have all the things that married people have without feeling guilty - sex, children, companionship etc - and when they are fed up with a particular person, they move on.

Even the bible that many of us are quoting, says something about staying single - i am not sure where, but i think the Apostle Paul mentioned it, can someone tell me where that is, please?

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Not every marriage ends in disaster. There are lots of good examples of people living together for years and years in peace, harmony, love and tranquility.

The fear of marriage in another form of cowardice.

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If marriage  is an institution,

        I think we supposed to  leave after graduation?

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@D_oracle

I Think you base in naija? marriage still dey sweet that side.

Just listen to European or American version of marriage then you'll thank God and pray

make our African culture continue to exist.

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Marriage, yes Marriage is a good thing.  But let not be decieved into thinking that it is all rosy as it is not.  If you want to enjoy marriage, you need to have just one thing in mind and that thing is the fact that NO ONE IS PERFECT.

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I prefare being a happy singleman than entering into a bored marriage life.

Nigerians likes marriage life because our women has never stand up for their rights, whatever men does in marriage women will take it for the sake of marriage.

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Marriage is divine as most christian know, ordained by God.

But lately, this divine institution is being taken for granted,which

makes me develop a cold feet for marriage myself.

Most people especially the female folks go in the marriage because the

society(Nigerian to be precise) frowns at ladies who have outgrown

marriageable age and still single or those who decide not to marry after all.

It would take a long time before the Nigerian society in general accepts females who prefer to

be single than get married, with the rate of divorce now on the high side i don't blame ladies

trying to stay away from this once loved institution.

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To Me Marriage Is Not Necessary.

      I'm not ready to be forced by the law to  leave a house I suffered to get to a woman who will

one night get fed up of my love. a man in the uniform will come knock at the door to tell me

", gentleman pick your valuable things and stay hundred meters away from this building, "

then another young boy will step in to enjoy my sweat.

     I'm into what is called COHABITATION for years now and still enjoying it. the moment you sign that death certificate called

 marriage certificate you start living in fears cause you don't know what tomorrow will bring.

     But as I'm now if anything happens you take what belongs to you I take what belongs to me.

         

       

                                marriage reduces the quality of love

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The institution of marriage was deemed necessary by the Almighty God whom  I hope no one would say made a mistake. For the fact that so many marriages are failing, we need to question the moral altitude of our generation, where good behaviour and decent living is for only those we call "Holy Holy".

Our great grand parents held life with high regard hence their respect for the institution but our generation, where stuffs are packed into our heads by technology and the hype for liberation and freedom, marriage is seen as nothing. If its nothing, then what kind of kids do u expect to get from such nothingness?

Nobody is patient anymore with anybody. If u dont like what i do, GO AWAY! No one understands what it takes to love and what commitment means anymore. If u truly love someone, why are u so afraid to spend the rest of urself with that one?

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marriage is still very much relevant to our society. however, i think the reason most young couples end up unhappy and disappointed in the institution of marriage is that they go into marriage with false expectations. they think that marriage is this blissful union where couples get to live happily all the time, where either spouse is supposed to be perfect, but this is not the reality most times. and rather than work through their problems, most times such couples prefer to split up. I WANNA SAY THAT THERE AIN'T A THING AS LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT! you cannot love somebody you don't know. pls, people should really get to know each other very well and build up a relationship based on trust, mutual understanding and respect before deciding to tie the knot, and shouldn't get married just because they have great sex together 'cause believe me(and i know what i'm talking 'bout), sometime in the not too distant future after marriage, sex isn't gonna matter all that much.

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be fruitful and multiply, Biblical injunction, and no fornication/adultery, from ten commandments, so from inference,marriage is neccesary.

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It's not necessary, and that's just the truth. If anyone wants to go Biblical, they wil not gfind nay line where God goes, "You must marry". Fine, it's a blessing and all, and it comes with its own rewards and issues, but as Paul also said, 'it's not by force'.

In Nigeria however, I'm afraid we're still victims of our own backward mindset. It saddens me the way girls fall over themselves for a simple 'Mrs' attached to their names. We dont help ourselves, you see women looking down on other women simply because they left school 2 years ago and are still single. Is there an award somewhere that one gets when they marry? We women of nowadays need to stand firm in our beliefs and goals, instead beign scared of what others will think.

I have nothing against marriage, I'd like to settle down and have kids one day, but frankly I don't see the RUSH, URGENCY or the NECESSITY to do so before one's psychologically ready. THAT's why marriages fail. You have two immature people living together thinking it'll sail because they had a wedding where 5 governors attended.

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Marriage is just like a school as in institution where you get admission into and learn, it s you to determine the department you want and once you made mistake you go back to the square one.

Before jumping into marriage examine your self first and ask your self that did i really need it now or i should hold on, and you must be able to learn from others mistake.

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I thinkits necessary,just dat it shuld be with d rite person. most ppl just jump into it just 4 d fact dat they want 2 get married & only end up being sad.

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Na wah, wich kine ajuju be dis biko?? Just ask ur parents dis question and see/hear their response. Na slap dem go use correct ur head.

My dear, I use to ask this same question back in the days but not anymore. It is very important o! shikina.

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u see we nigerians pick the passage of the bible that most suits us or defines the situation we are in. can all these pple that quote the bible give me one verse where it says marriage is compulsory?

to the best of my knowledge, the bible encourages marriage but no where in the bible did it make it compulsory.

na wa for our naija pple

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My sista you just took the question out of my mouth. I wonder wat is really happening?

There is this mad rush of girls wanting to get married at all cost. Some say they just want to change their surnames. Some want to marry cos the society expects you to be married. One begins to wonder - is that what marriage is all about?

Where is the love, the happiness, the friendship and all that constitutes a happy marriage and a happy home.

Morality has been thrown to the winds. You walk on the streets and out of 5 people that asks you out, 3 are married men. We don't seem to have married men anymore wat we have now are MARRIED BACHELORS.

It now seems that it is a norm that every married man should have girl friends outside his matrimonial home.

You begin to ask your self - how about the marital vows they took at the altar before God and man.

God have mercy O!

For me i think if you find the right person, you get married, if not, move on with your life happily.

Cheers.

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An 8-yr old girl recently asked me, at a Bible Study roundtable discussion, why I didn't pray for a husband. I was at a loss for words - how do you tell a child that marriage is not necessarily the [i]raison d'etre[/i]of every female?

Don't get me wrong, I am not against marriage. I guess it is as necessary as you make it out to be. I place more emphasis on finding the right one. If it's not quite right, any question of marriage is null and void.

Especially when you don't have to hear that biological clock ticking anymore.

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marrage is not a do or die affair someone is telling u to read the genesis,what has the bible got to do with it? some people in the bible never got married and they were great preacher of the gospel of jesus ex paul,john the babtist, and many other.u can be married and still not be happy and u can be single and be fufilled.

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Are you telling me that a person should kill her joy in the name of christianity and what the bible says.

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re - write the bible then.

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My sister i am dont intend to marry either, its just like caging yourself in the name of love.

Its not by force.

The thing is when you say u dont wanna marry ppl say maybe you want to be a reverend father or holy sister, thts poo more cage-in.

Some of us just are better off alone and free like me and u.

Michael.

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Marriage is necessary for so many reasons.

1. Biblical or even according to the Quaran if you are a muslim.

2. Marriage is the foundation of which a family is built upon, family is the foundation of which community and ultimately a nation is built upon.

The more I think about God and the bible, the more I think he is just a perfect God. He knew without marriage and all the laws that goes with it , there will be a lot of heart breakers and everybody will be chasing others wife/husband and we will become like a lesser animals that sleep around-like dogs, he goat etc.

Institution of marriage has been brought so low that a lot people have lost faith in it, thank God the majority still do believe in it.

If your find your bone of bone, flesh of flesh you will surely be on top of the world. with marriage, the 'DNA' of both husband and wife must match, and if they do, the two will become one like friends, brother and sister and father and mother.

There is man of God called Dr. Sola Fola-Alade and his wife, they are both pastors. They said that if you are going to drive, you will go to driving school, if you want to become a doctor you will go to medical schl for 7 years and to become a lawyer you will spend the next 5 years at both university and law school.

Marriage should also have a school that you learn the practical and the spiritual aspect, most people only spend a very short time to go for 'counselling' and this only happens most when there is a crises.

In my conclusion marriage is not only necessary, essential but should be the most important in life, unfortunately one of the party usually abuses it when they knew the other would do anything to make the marriage to work.

Modern day has not make marriage to stand up well as some people even now celebrate separation and divorce epecially in the west.

May God help us to make the right decision with prayers and find our own life partner.

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Marriage concept is like houseflies by the window, the ones inside wants to get out, the ones outside wants to come in. but more importantly preprare for the worst and hope for the best weneva u tink of getting married. i hope this keeps u at bay a little

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Guys, it is good to be married and there is a natural set of blessings that follow it. The major problem is getting involved with the wrong person. It makes your life a living hell and if you are lucky to get it right, you are on top of the world.

So, how do we tackle this major problem?

I suggest you marry your friend because, when love fades out, friendship remains and friendship can refresh the fading love like we refresh our browsers.

The most important thing in my conclusion is prayer before and during.

Cheers

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Marriage is as necessary to you as you deem it!

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@ Poster

Yes i agree with u, is not all about the ceremony is all about love, trust, patience, endurance, faithfulness etc.most of our men lack some of these qualities, but what we have to do as christians is to pray to god to give a God fearing spouse. Finish.

@ HisMichele

i agree with u.

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[color=#770077][/color] Marriage is a very IMPORTANT part of our society. I think that we have a tendency of looking at it as a fairy tale, and that all you have to do is fall in love, get married and live happily every after. I have been married once, when I was very young, and had NO idea realistically of the commitment and work it takes to make a marriage. It takes dedication, honesty and trust. We seem to not be able to do any of these things with the little things in our lives, let alone anything as important as marriage. I think society as a whole must start living life with those attributes in EVERYTHING we do, and if we can be dependable, trustworthy, dedicated, and honest with our jobs, our family, our everyday life, then they will spill over into the marriage aspect of our life as well when we meet the right person.

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Ewo! Guys, dis babe don fall we hand ooo! She talk am say we no dey respect matrimony. Ngbo? Na true?

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I plan to marry, but when I look around me i am very discouraged, yet we all scamper to the alter, the bible supports marriage alright but do we as humans do it the the Bible meant it? Why cant two people meet fall in love, get married and be faithful to each other, respecting matrimony and keeping it sacred? As soon as the wedding ends and the dancing and merryment ends it is another matter alltogether, it is sad! so dearie its not like i dont support marriage I just wish people had more respect for the insttution, men especially![color=#990000]

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Marriage is necessary ohhhhhhhhhhhh!

go and read Genesis 1:28 no be me talk am ohhhhhhhhhhh!

so many people are not happy in thier marriage cos thats the way they want it or i would say depending on want foundation was laid. ok

so! so! so! The book of proverb 14:1 says and i quote " Every wise woman buildeth her House, but the foolish plucketh it with her hands.

so girl be WISE.

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the institution is NOT nessecery to have a happy relationship

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