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How To Encourage Parents To Let Daugthers Stay With Boyfriends Overnight?

How can we encourage parenst to let you stay with your boyfriend over night?

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these nl threads na wa.

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I will never do such a thing in my own knowledge, except if d girl tells a lie that she is going to vigil.

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I absolutely agree with Mamagee. I would personally let my daughters SLEEP OVER at their boyfriends if and when I choose to. But there definitely has to be an age limit. I started sleeping over when I turned 18; when my mom thought of me to be mature. And if for that my mom is 'unreasonable', then that's pathetic. I turned out well ! I committed errors like every normal teenager but I learned from them. I NEVER had to lie to my mom about my whereabouts, she knew where I was and with whom I was. We OPENLY talked about sex and she advised me on protection and all (yes, she's NIGERIAN). My mom is my best friend (although I keep my personal life personal) I know for a fact that she'll always have my back and I respect her, I respect the way she brought me up and I couldn't have asked for a better mother.

She never told me to go out there and f[b]u[/b]ck my brains off, but knowing she couldn't stop me from experimenting, she chose to be there for me. And honestly, I turned out better than most of these 'what the hell, never never' girls !

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My dad should not even dare see me reading this thread.

Encourage ko, encourage ni.

Seriously, this is just hilarious.

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The poster is even a guy. I guess u want ur girlfriend to leave her parents house and spend the night with you. I wont think of talk more of letting my baby sleep out, cos

i'll be indirectly encouraging premarital sex which is a terrible sin before God. It's better she does it behind my back than for me to encourage her. Like the book of proverbs says, children are filled with foolishness, if we let them have their way that means we re letting them grow in foolishness. I'm not a foolish mum.

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The poster is even a guy. I guess u want ur girlfriend to leave her parents house and spend the night with you. I wont think of talk more of letting my baby sleep out, cos

i'll be indirectly encouraging premarital sex which is a terrible sin before God. It's better she does it behind my back than for me to encourage her. Like the book of proverbs says, children are filled with foolishness, if we let them have their way that means we re letting them grow in foolishness. I'm not a foolish mum.

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The porter is even a guy. I guess u want ur girlfriend to leave her parents house and spend the night with you. I wont think of talk more of letting my baby sleep out, cos

i'll be indirectly encouraging premarital sex which is a terrible sin before God. It's better she does it behind my back than for me to encourage her. Like the book of proverbs says, children are filled with foolishness, if we let them have their way that means we re letting them grow in foolishness. I'm not a foolish mum.

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No parent in his/her right mind would allow a daughter to pass the night at her bf's.

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A vast majority of families anywhere in this Earth will not want their daughter to sleep overnight.

You go marry am?

Most parents accept their child is having sex but which responsible parent will want to encourage that?

If you want to sleep overnight with your man then tell a lie .But this is almost asking for parent's blessing to have sex outside marriage .

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Is that what you will teach your daughters to do when they mature? So its better for their wombs to be ruined all in the name of having a boyfriend?

Please, lets be honest with ourselves.

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Fool. How does that affect mother asking her daughter to Bleep about? Are you that desperate?

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Such a parent who encourage her daughter to sleep out need to be taken for test at Yaba of Aro especially if the girl is unmarried underage. It is either she is suffering from hangover of her ammoral youth or she need divine help.

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did i hear u say encourage, u must be a fool , u'll encourage ur daughter to sleep over and get banged over-night, thats irresponsible, Good parents will be working towarrds marriage and celebacy rather than all this bull poo u posting, dam.so annoying

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Mamaput, I think you are mixing black and white together.

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My mum must not hear me talking about guy not to talk of sleeping outside

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I simply can't believe my eyes, so there are some mothers that would personally drive their daughter to her boyfriend's house to stay overnight and even buy her condoms , they may as well watch them do the tango.

For pete's sake, thats overdoing things. Ever heard of a child that bit his mother's ears off at the firing squad last minute talk.

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quite a crazy topic i must say

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mamaput u know that is not what he is saying geez *rolls eyes* try to stay on the issue you going to make into something else now. of course a grown woman can do what she wants, the thread says about parents and daughters

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No reasonable parent would do that

a girl is meant to sleep in a guy's house when and only when she is married to him

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I do not need respect from a name on the internet.

When am fed up i just go.

This is not the only site i visit.

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The only info i give here are things i take for granted.

well go on paying your bills and working and emmm ya doing the baby shower thing.

We only live once.

No my kids do not go out every weekend. School comes first.

But now they have no other obligations so let them enjoy.

I did not know about hanging out in Kitchens must try that maybe its fun.

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I never said i encourage them to have sex .

But if and when they do then with respect.

At the same time i will also not want them to buy the cat in the bag.

My daughter knows i cannot make anything impossible for her.

But i can make it difficult.

Yes she sleeps in her boyfriends house she ask and i allowed it.

His mother gives her food and they take her along on family outings.

Better than hiding.

Well i was asking because all my kids are out of the house now.

by the way i will gladly bring myself down to any level when talking to people am not a snob.

I have friends from all works of life and all class.

And yes my house is always full of kids thats why i wanted to know if you do not have friends.

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do you read before posting at all/ who said they will not have sex? of course they will, i know i did, that is irrelevant. what i am saying is BOUNDARIES , you can go tell them about sex and give them condoms if  you wish, what i am saying is, no way will i encourage a child under my roof to go  spending nites at some boy's house. There are stages in life for everything when she reaches the point where he/she feels they can go spending nites at bf's/gf's house then i guess its time they become independent. This is the problem these days few parents stop children from being children and force them to grow up fast. My way is set  boundaries and respect my children not, be a figure head of a parent.

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By the way do you not have friends?

What are you doing at home on a weekend?

Welcome on the internet wagon.

Middleaged woman like me is were she should be AT home.

But a young girl should have some were to go.

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By the way am not new age nothing , I am a rebel.

I rebel against every form of hypocrisy.

A Woman that fucks with the whole world and says she is a virgin.

The same as the people that run around with their bible shouting on gods name.

But you will not even get a glass of water from them.

Almost everyone on this Forum has sex.

Question is by how many of them are their parents aware of it,

Who is the first person they run to .

That is why girls till today get Molested in Nigeria.

By the way i stand to what i say it will not be in a husbands house that my kids will have their first sex.

They will not buy the cat in the bag,. And end up with some bastard of a man.

go on fooling yourself that your kids will not have sex if they want too . You may not even know they have a boyfriend.

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No let them lie to you and sleep with him in the BQ or take a 10 min hotel.

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*shakes head*

different strokes for different folks i guess but then how can . . . . .

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Hissss hissss hissss.

I i know very well most of these gang banged friends never even reported the case to anyone.

I do not have to ask myself why.

The Boys knew who they could do it with.

HIIss

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Its not all about you Eurphoria

I do not know what type of friends you had that one has to be afraid of Bleep.

You do your do your thing we do our own .

No need to get insolent.

Do not think i have not noticed you getting personal on me even if you do not call my name.

Get of my back,

You have your rules and i have my rules.,,

If its better for the Girl to have sex on the back sit of a "Friend of a friends car" or in the back room of a friends of a friends room or BQ Thats okey .

But not for me. Any one that wants to have sex will have it.

But with respect please.If for any reason she cannot bring him home or he cannot take her home. My kids can forget that relationship.

All this boyfriend for mouth.

If they want to visit their boy friend they go to his house and the mother or father lets them in. And they know that is their sons boyfriend.They take her along on their outings birthday or what ever,

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I will allow my daughters to sleep in their boyfriends house.

I think it is safer going home with the boyfriend after a party than coming home alone.

Sex with the boyfriend is better than molest by a stranger,

But it depends on the age.

if they are too young, they will not be going to any late night partys.

And if the party is to go till around midnight, they will be with other girlfriends.All of them will go together and comeback together to one of the girls homes.

That way all the mothers will feel their kids are safe.

At that age kids do not like it if mum comes to pick them up after the party.

by the way what is better than a party.

Talking about the party.

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@bensimon, i really share your view, the issue is why does she want to sleep overnight, it really sounds so funny in this part of the world, we pursue shadow instead of substance, from my understanding , it takes  10hrs  to make a night  in Africa, and  the remaining 14 hrs for a day, so if your daughter can stay in her boyfriend's house for the 14 hours during the day , what stops her from staying the remaining 10hrs of the night ,Sex can still be done during the day not only at night, My people, my argument is for us to train our children, tell them what is right and wrong,  teach them the implication of frequent actions, am sure they will choose to do the most appropirate thing, if we inculcate the necessary values on our children, the issue of sleeping over in boyfriends house might not arise, they will do the right things at the right time

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hahahahahah in whose house, not my fathers'

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It one thin 4 d parent to have in ther mind dat,if u dont allow ur daugther to get her fredom,she will abuse all the little time she has for herself.

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Guys, I think that the issue should not be about encouraging your daughter to stay with the boyfriend overnight. The issue here if any should be about understanding her need to stay overnight. I would actually want to discourage such if and when I get a daughter. Much as one would know that ones daughter might be having sex, one doesnt want it to become so obvious as to encourage it. However, I also know that "[b]what a girl does not do, she does not want to do it"

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Why would you want to encourage such?

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Sex is the most natural thing in the world .Everyone has it even flies.

A girlthat wants tosleep in her boyfriends house will sleep in his house, she will find a way.

I will rather my Daughter sleeps in her boyfriends housethan have sex some were outside.

Because if she wants it she will have it and I can only make it difficult for her but not impossible.

Thisd way she will not have to hide the pill or condom andwill also not forget them because she is hiding.#

But my dear Poster if your people say no, you do what everyother person dose. LIE

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I cannot allow my daughter stay overnight with her boy friend. Enuff can happen in Naija. And it's most definitely far from being moral for crying out loud. Sweetlove - it seems you've got some challenges. Why don't you mail me and let's talk over it

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Agree with you Dr Chic. Sweetlove, your interest in sex and related issues is something to worry about.

i'll not allow my child sleep in any man's house knowingly o and the values i'll instill in her by God's grace, she'll not depart from it. Why are you even asking this question for crying out loud? Is sex something that can be experimented by everyone af all age or what?

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Funmise,You don go Night Vigil before.

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sweetlove i cant help but notice from the nature of your threads that you

seem to have a fixation on sex. dont mean to be judgemental, but you

may need professional help.

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2 do wetin,

4 real wetin u wan do,

so dat 2moro dem go say na ur mama no train u well

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I think dat depends on d girl's age cos d typical nigerian parent would nvr encourage dere female child 2 sleep ovr night in a man's house unless u guys r bout 2 marry or r married.

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